Causes and countermeasures of divorce

The first reason, the first reason for divorce: after marriage, I found that I couldn't adapt to each other's shortcomings and my personality was out of line.

What did you do before the divorce? Are they all flash marriages? Therefore, before marriage, we should not only play computer, games and mobile phones, but also communicate more and learn more about each other's personality.

Getting along with two people is like the meshing of two gears, both of which are sharp objects. If you want to bite together well, you need long-term contact and understanding, communication, and the longer you run in, the more you can see each other's personality. Even two people with different personalities can tolerate each other in the running-in of time! Such feelings can go far and for a long time!

The second main reason: the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

The escalation of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is one of the important reasons leading to the breakdown of marriage!

Almost all young people born after 1980s and 1990s are influenced by family planning and become only children, so they are spoiled and unwilling to do housework, which is one of the main reasons for the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Mother-in-law doesn't like her daughter-in-law to do nothing, and her daughter-in-law doesn't like her mother-in-law to take care of everything and nag about everything; Daughter-in-law can't accept those old ideas, and mother-in-law can't accept her new ideas.

At this time, being a son is the best lubricant. If the son can't stand up and say something fair at this time, then the contradiction will only escalate and intensify! The son should boldly stand up and support the right side, and don't blindly take sides with one side, so that the other side's mentality will be extremely unbalanced. The son is biased towards his mother, which leads to divorce.

Countermeasures: A daughter-in-law should first tolerate her mother-in-law, then praise her mother-in-law, identify with her mother-in-law, bribe her mother-in-law, consult her mother-in-law and rely on her mother-in-law. When you can rely on it, your relationship will be very good! (Mother-in-law's rich life experience can start from this aspect)

Third: lack of marital responsibility.

Lack of sense of responsibility is a common problem of predecessors and one of the important reasons for the high divorce rate.

After marriage, there are more things about who cooks, who washes dishes, who sweeps the floor and who quarrels after having children. Men play games, women watch Korean dramas, go shopping and play cards. Who will take care of the children? Give it to your parents!

Countermeasures: do your job well! Our family has its own responsibilities: I do light and tedious housework (cleaning the room, washing dishes, mopping the floor, washing clothes, telling stories to the baby, etc.). ), the husband does technical work (cooking, repairing furniture and appliances, taking the baby to play). We get along very well, and I really want to follow Korean dramas and play games, but I have to finish these things before I can do what I like.

Fourth: the woman is too coquettish or the man is too domineering.

This is a common problem of only children after 80 and 90! I am also the only daughter born in 1980s, and sometimes I am so delicate, but if you are responsible for your family, you will not be so delicate and the man will not be so domineering.

Countermeasures: strengthen the management of family responsibility, responsibility is not out of reach. As long as you have the desire to go on together, you can build a beautiful life together! Simply put, the sense of responsibility is to contribute a little to your family and do more things you can. Let's discuss with each other and don't complain about who does more and who does less (as long as you are willing to do it and change for this family, it is a good start)

Fifth: I am bored with the trivia in my married life.

There are indeed more trivial things in family life, much more than when you are single! When I was single, I went out to eat if I didn't want to cook, and took it to the dry cleaner if I didn't want to wash clothes. Life is very nourishing!

After marriage, how do you live with oil, salt, sauce and vinegar, pots and pans, and why don't you stumble? Everyone is experiencing marriage for the first time!

Countermeasure: If you are tired of trivial matters in your family, think about how you spent it when you were single. You can still spend three days a week there, or you can do something of mutual interest together, such as couples playing games together. It is said that the more you can play, the better your relationship!

Sixth: the two sides cannot grow together.

One party's career is in full swing, and the other party is flat, so it is impossible for everyone to grow up simultaneously! When there are contradictions in such an unbalanced state, most of them are that the wife's career is better than her husband's, and there will be emotional breakdown and her husband's mentality is unbalanced!

Countermeasures: No matter which side has a problem with its mentality, it is necessary to adjust its mentality first, and then sacrifice its rest time to study and recharge. Even if you still can't catch up with each other, you can enrich your life and stop thinking!

Although I have been married for 5 years, I am still studying, and I will get a certificate this year! So we should enrich ourselves and make life no longer just a fine line between work and family!

Seventh: dull mood, lack of enthusiasm.

Marriage is a long-term partner, and marriage tempered by life will inevitably enter mediocrity, so a strong sense of ceremony is needed to make the starting point of life "wave". When love calms down in the boiling of first love, no matter how you resist or dislike it, it will inevitably become dull. Life without a sense of ceremony will lose a lot of color. Because people who perfunctory life will naturally be perfunctory by life.

Countermeasures: There is a sense of ceremony in your heart. Even if you live the most ordinary life, you can find poetry and distance in the ordinary life. Even couples living in poverty should buy a bunch of flowers, eat a western meal and give a gift to celebrate the anniversary. This is not luxury, but giving life more meaning.

Eighth: the cause is too busy, gather less and leave more.

The times are too fast, no one dares to step on the brakes, and the competitive pressure is great. However, in order to live a better life, everyone has to work overtime with cans of chicken blood, and their careers are busy.

Due to the lack of communication between husband and wife. In the long run, the relationship between husband and wife will gradually cool down, and the two will often have a long-term cold war, which will affect their working conditions and cause a series of vicious cycles.

When each other finds that living together is more lonely and worse, they will simply choose to separate.

Countermeasures: Work and life can actually be controlled, that is, work hard and play crazy. When you get home, you should set yourself some small goals, such as not turning on the computer, spending more time with your family and meeting friends once a week. After a long time, you will find that the warmth in life solves the anxiety you encounter at work, relieves your mood, and gives you more inspiration and energy.

Ninth: Divorce due to domestic violence

These are also one of the reasons leading to the end of marriage. Seventh and eighth, everyone can break up peacefully, and it is meaningless to run a marriage without feelings!

Domestic violence, I firmly support divorce. If you live in such a violent life for a long time, it is not a good living environment for yourself and your children. It is better to divorce as soon as possible!

Marriage needs everyone's careful management, not material calculation!

Both sides need to take care of the family, then the marriage life is beautiful and healthy! There won't be so many contradictions, even going to the valley!