Talking about children labeling at home.

Labeling this kind of thing will always make people feel rebellious in the first place. Why are you labeling me? I won't be what you expect. In fact, if we can handle labels correctly, we will bring a healthy growth path for our children.

In fact, many times, we are opposed to others labeling ourselves and defining us at will, but we are not really opposed to labeling. Imagine that your friend puts a label on you and says, Dude, I think you are particularly talented. Will you reject this label? Come on, you don't know what the fun is.

Therefore, we are opposed to labeling. What we are opposed to is the operational process. We are afraid of being labeled badly. Why are you so fat and lazy?

In fact, good labels are loved by both children and adults. And psychologically, children are looking for a sense of belonging and value.

They are eager to be recognized by their parents and teachers. Benign and well-intentioned recognition will definitely help children gain a sense of belonging and value.

First of all, we should classify the labels. I divide labels into two categories, positive and negative. Positive, such as helpful, negative, such as bullying. Only after classification can children be given benign guidance according to categories and situations.

Pay attention to the guidance after the front label is attached. For example, children like music, which can be regarded as positive, but if our guidance becomes oppression, children are forced to learn. Children will certainly gradually plan and even regret having this hobby.

Negative labels, after being posted, should be discussed with children about how to solve them. Note that it is not parents and teachers who want solutions, but children who want to learn solutions.

Secondly, after classification, label the children carefully.

It is necessary to determine whether the label is correct. For example, a child is so obsessed with something that he even refuses to let go when he makes a mistake. Can this label children as stubborn? No, we must understand the reasons behind it. The child's persistence is not necessarily stubborn, perhaps because it has extremely special significance to him.

Therefore, labeling requires teachers and parents to carefully observe and summarize, so that a label can be carefully attached to children. Especially the negative label, if you do it rashly, for example, you can label your child stubbornly and look at it from this angle in the future, then you can imagine that even if your child is not stubborn, he will become stubborn because he opposes the prejudice of his parents and teachers.

Third, we must realize that labels are time-sensitive. People are constantly changing, children are growing and changing. You can't cure a certain label and then it won't change for several years. For example, children like robots, and they have to like robots when they grow up. If you put a label on it, you will never take it off, which will inevitably limit your child's future.

A tag will only have a certain meaning for a fixed period of time. Parents or teachers must look at this problem from the perspective of dialectical development. If a child has been in your eyes for three years, then parents must be cautious.

The prescription can be short or long. For negative labels, we must work hard with our children to get rid of this label and try to make it disappear as soon as possible. Let children understand that this label is temporarily solvable, not permanent; The front label, we should explore the fun and significance behind this label with our children, so as to ensure the freshness of this label and make the shelf life of this label longer. In this way, I won't feel sorry in the future, and my young dream has never come true.

Young dreams have not come true because this dream label has already passed the shelf life.

Fourth, create a label file for children, and record all kinds of labels and the handling methods at that time.

Label archiving, seemingly cumbersome, actually makes the work more organized. Many times, children's behaviors will be repeated, such as mobile phone problems and game problems. Children may overcome again and again, and then fail again and again. If we have files, then when such labels appear again, we will not be caught off guard and will not repeat the previous detours. We will find a better solution based on the previous treatment.

A series of positive or negative labels are designed to guide children to grow up healthily. Negative labels let us know our children's shortcomings and solve problems with them. Positive labels let us know the advantages of children and explore the deep meaning of advantages. Labeling can make children gradually embark on the road of their own likes and dreams, and also make the work of parents and teachers more orderly, and the relationship between teachers and students, father and son, mother and child more harmonious.