Who is more important in life?

Who you are is very important, and who you walk with in this life is more important. "

At that time, I just thought this sentence was wonderful and didn't fully understand its meaning. With the growth of experience, I agree with this sentence more and more. The collective subconscious has a great influence on people. Who you walk with is who you are with, what kind of collective subconscious affects you, and finally directly affects people's values.

Values affect behavior, behavior forms habits, habits affect character, and character determines fate. Who you are with really affects your destiny.

0 1, people with too different values should not get along too closely.

Yesterday, I saw a friend write that after she retired, she interacted frequently with an enthusiastic elder sister in the community. Big sister dragged her to a newly opened supermarket early in the morning to grab bargains, and all kinds of queues saved more than 20 yuan. This friend came home to wake up and found that this was not his favorite lifestyle, but because of his interaction with this enthusiastic elder sister, his lifestyle was quietly influenced and changed by this enthusiastic elder sister.

I'm afraid of discounts in supermarkets. When there are many people in line, I will stay away from such activities. I'd rather spend my spare time growing flowers, drinking tea and watching sports. Living is a kind of breath, which is a person's spirit and a person's value order. My values are sorted, and time is more expensive than this insignificant discount.

The ranking of values determines a person's time and energy, including the distribution and ranking of money. People whose values differ too much should not get along too closely. Being too close will lead to conflict of values, either offending others or forcing yourself. Instead of this, it is better to keep an appropriate distance from the beginning.

02. Gentlemen should be harmonious but different, and keep their own behavior boundaries.

I was invited to join the running group of the club because I insisted on punching in the morning exercise. The captain is a very attractive man. He can not only encourage everyone to do morning exercises every day, but also launch various parties every week. I will talk about sports when I meet in the group, and the topic of the party will be ignored. I know what I need is for everyone to encourage each other and keep doing morning exercises, but eating, drinking and singing K every week is not what I need. I'm just on the way to exercise with the running group.

People are social animals and need to socialize and interact. I respect the needs of others, and I also respect my own real needs. I like what Confucius said: a gentleman is harmonious but different. Keep your own behavior boundaries, encourage and support each other to interact effectively, and don't let the energy-consuming things start, so that every fate will bear positive fruits.

03. Stay away from people who make you lose your mind.

An acquaintance transferred his son from a private "noble" school to a public school this year. She said: "It's not too late to correct it while the child is in the second grade. Otherwise, my mentality is vanity and materialism. "

She is reluctant to let her son suffer from exam-oriented education and wants to choose a relaxed learning and growth environment for her children. This is her original intention of choosing a private "noble" school.

Her son's classmates talk about their own family as if they were all mining. Let's compare each other, whose father is the chairman, whose mother is the boss and who has several luxury cars.

She and her husband are both executives of the enterprise. When they drove 300,000 cars to pick up their son, when his son was seen by his classmates, he was immediately ridiculed and despised by his classmates. After the son was beaten, he asked his parents, "Why aren't you the big boss?"

The acquaintance couldn't stand the pressure and transferred his son to another school. Afterwards, she said that she was emotionally unbalanced by her son and wanted to sell a house and buy a luxury car. Calm down and think about it later. What about buying a luxury car? Others have other comparisons. Why do you want to mess up your stable and orderly quality life for the sake of others' comparison?

Fight the dragon, and eventually you will become a dragon. It is not only the sorrow of people, but also the sorrow of money, because the separation and comparison of others lead to their vanity and fall into material show-off and competition.

If a group does not respect people's kindness and enterprising spirit, but only strengthens material competition, it will be difficult for people to be happy and humble. Mountains and seas can be filled, and people who lose their senses will become puppets of desire. So, stay away from people who make you lose your mind.

Since having a child, all holiday arrangements are basically based on the child's holiday time. As soon as the two festivals were over, our fellow practitioners of practical psychology started a party, taking a walk around Meixi Lake and enjoying the beautiful photos of Guangxi. If anyone has questions, they can sit on the lawn and discuss them.

This is the cycle of the * * * meditation party. We witnessed several fellow initiates, living a little bit of female energy, thawing the relationship between husband and wife during the ice wall period and reviving love in marriage. Everyone in it has created a field that is open, accepted and controlled by the * * * practice group. We nourish others and are nourished by the group.