Is it worthwhile to lose the "iron rice bowl" for bringing children three years before giving birth?

Presumably, many people have heard such remarks. "Before the child is 3 years old, it is necessary for Ma Bao to bring it to his grandparents, which has a great influence on the child's growth."

It is this sentence that makes many treasure mothers prefer to quit their jobs and concentrate on taking care of their children at home. Such a "sacrifice" move naturally touched many people, thinking that treasure mothers have paid too much for their children.

I got together with my friend the other day, and my friend brought another friend. At that time, we learned that this friend was in the system before, but after about 6 months of pregnancy, she resigned directly on the grounds that she would take care of the children for the next three years.

We were all very surprised when we heard about it. After all, our small city is equivalent to an "iron rice bowl" within the system, which is almost impossible for ordinary people to do, but this mother resigned after making a speech.

We asked her if it was worth it. She quickly replied, "Why not?" Another friend then replied, "You hadn't seen her son at that time. You'll know next time you meet her. She is really cute and smart. She has taught her children so well in recent years. "

Then she added, "That's because her family has good conditions. If I were you, I wouldn't want to resign, or my husband would be under too much pressure. "

It turns out that that friend's family condition is really good. Her husband earns at least one million a year and has a nanny at home. For such a family, she really doesn't expect much from a "stable" job, and she is also a graduate student, majoring in education, and knows the importance of educating children better. So for her, this decision is correct.

However, if you are an ordinary person, can you really quit your job and concentrate on taking care of your children at home in the first three years after giving birth?

Before that, let's not draw a conclusion. Let's talk about what problems you may encounter if you resign and take care of your children.

Analysis of 1 Out of touch with society

Three years is not too short or too long, but for the fast-paced society now, it is changing day by day, not to mention three years.

If precious mothers have been taking care of their children at home for the first three years after their children are born, they will gradually be out of touch with society. This mainly refers to the disconnection from "social people".

Although everyone has a mobile phone now and can communicate through it, it is inevitable that the topic will be out of touch. After all, people at work have less contact with the topic of full-time treasure mom, and there may be more embarrassment when chatting.

From this point of view, the longer you leave society, the harder it will be for Bao Ma to reintegrate into society after her children go to kindergarten in the future.

I've seen this before. It's a friend of mine. She also quit her job and concentrated on taking care of the children at home. It was not until the child went to primary school that she decided to go out and look for a job.

As a result, she did not have the courage to apply for a job. Everyone can see at a glance that she is a person with zero experience and is still older. In addition, there are so many fresh graduates now, and she is also very useful. She definitely preferred the latter when choosing, so that she didn't find a job for a year, and then she simply gave up.

2、? The ability to work is gradually weakening.

This is what I said above, but there are also differences, mainly after the treasure mothers find jobs, but their working ability is often not as strong as in the past.

This is mainly because after being promoted to Ma Bao, most of Ma Bao's thoughts are on children, and it is difficult to share their energy to do some creative work. Generally speaking, they can only do manual work, or they don't need too much brain thinking and creative work, otherwise Ma Bao will feel overwhelmed.

3、? If you don't take care of so much, you may have self-denial.

In fact, many treasure moms take care of children and work. Every time the children leave class, they quickly step on the time to pick them up, for fear that they will be unhappy if they are late.

Of course, this premise is to find a job close to the children's school time. Many people can't find it, so they have to let their parents-in-law pick it up, but the treasure moms are still not at ease. After all, it is the elderly, and the elderly and children are vulnerable groups. What should we do in case of an accident?

I can't let go of my work. Only those who have experienced it know how difficult it is. I had to call my parents-in-law at a critical moment and ask if I got home safely. After I got a positive response, it was really difficult for me to work.

Therefore, these are all questions that treasure mothers need to consider whether to return to work after breastfeeding. Depending on personal choice, whether these factors can be taken into account. If you think you can bear these factors, you can boldly resign, and vice versa.