Why do most mother-in-law treat their son-in-law well, but the son-in-law still doesn't want to go to her mother-in-law's house?

Let me explain to you why most mother-in-law are very kind to son-in-law, but son-in-law is still unwilling to go to her mother-in-law's house. Let's give you a brief introduction! There are many such situations around me. Mother-in-law is caring and attentive to her son-in-law, and she doesn't have to do anything when she goes home. However, many son-in-law said that they did not want to stay at their mother-in-law's house. Why do you think this is?

0 1 ? Why is mother-in-law good to son-in-law? 1) To be kind to the son-in-law, it is simply to look at the Buddha rather than the monk, mainly in the hope that the son-in-law can be kind to his daughter; 2) Because the son-in-law and the mother-in-law don't have to deal with each other every day, the kindness to the son-in-law is actually passable to a large extent.

? The son-in-law knows that if you get too close to your mother-in-law, you will get more nagging from her. For this reason, in order to maintain a good image in her mother-in-law's mind, the son-in-law is unwilling to have frequent contact with her mother-in-law. In addition, the son-in-law doesn't even have the energy to honor his parents. How can he be around her husband's family every day?

? Although it is a bit cruel to describe China women with the water poured by married daughters, it is a fact. To this end, in the eyes of many men, the mother-in-law is only a close relative and naturally does not move around frequently.

Talk about your feelings.

1, it takes three or four hours from my home to my mother-in-law's home by car, and I have to reverse four or five times, so I feel uncomfortable by car.

2. My mother-in-law's house is located on the side. Every time I go, my daughter-in-law always buys some vegetables, meat, fruits and the like, which are very common. It is very uncomfortable to be seen by relatives and friends on the road. I want to buy something better. My daughter-in-law said I didn't need this and that, which made me lose face.

3. To make it clear, I gave my mother-in-law 60,000 yuan when I got married, but my daughter-in-law didn't bring the money back, saying that she would buy a house or build a house for me in the future, but I knew it was impossible. My daughter-in-law has two unmarried brothers, and all the bride price money I gave her was for her two brothers.

4. When my wife and brother got married, the money I borrowed for marriage had not been returned, and my father-in-law called to say that the money was not enough. I immediately borrowed another 5000. It's been many years, and I haven't returned it.

Having said that, my mother-in-law is good to me. In fact, her heart is a little guilty, but also some superficial. I don't want to go because although it is good for me, I am a bit like their reserve army compared with her two sons. I will call my daughter-in-law when I have no money or something, and I will call her in the middle of the night, regardless of time. My daughter-in-law is often too worried to sleep. The next day, she went back by car, and her brother and sister-in-law were not there.

Finally, I felt that my mother-in-law's kindness to me was only superficial. I don't want to go because I don't want to accept these superficial kindness, even though I have to do superficial work. But no matter whether my mother-in-law is good or not, on the one hand, it is natural to be filial to my parents, on the other hand, I can't do things that don't care about my parents and parents-in-law!

My mother-in-law has been very kind to me since I first went to her house. I bought thousands of quilts and dowry when I got married. I gave 70,000 yuan as a bride price, and she returned nearly100,000 yuan. I was injured, and she went to the temple to burn incense and pray for me. My son is over one year old now. He has been in my house for less than four months, and he is at his mother-in-law's house. I started my own business last year, and she gave me money to buy a house for my brother-in-law. With such a mother-in-law, I really feel that I must have saved the galaxy in my last life. However, nearly four years have passed since my first visit, and I only stayed at her house for one day. Or because they are not at home, my wife doesn't want to go back to my house. I always feel uncomfortable in their home, after all, it's not my own home, and it's not easy to do anything. In their family, it has nothing to do with food. Anyway, it just feels a little weird. I go to her house for dinner every day. After dinner, I took my son for a walk, and then I went back to our house. The distance between the two houses is about three kilometers at most.

My wife and I were introduced by my mother-in-law. I was very open from the beginning. My home is in the countryside. It is not easy for my parents to provide education for my brother and me. They agree with my personal ability. I don't dislike them, and I am grateful to them. I regard them as parents, and my wife is spoiled at home, belonging to the kind that can do nothing. Although she has a good temper, she has many problems formed over the years, such as laziness, picky eaters, no social experience, childishness, serious cleanliness and so on. It's not that I don't like her, but I will remind her occasionally when she can't or doesn't understand. I have been in love for three years. Then in the fourth year, I went to the same place and I wanted to be together. As a result, his family came forward I discussed with my wife that he needed to apply at home. I said for so long that I should be able to agree, so I let her apply. As a result, the whole family came the next day, forcing us to separate, saying that I wanted to eat for free, and a virgin was worth 200 thousand! Later, I admitted my mistake, apologized, begged and was finally forgiven. 14 years, I applied for a license. That year, 20 14 13, everyone wanted to get married on that day, and I wanted to be romantic all my life. As a result, their family asked for money to get a license. I was studying for a doctorate and had no savings. Then it dragged on for 520 days. I had no choice but to call my mother-in-law again. Finally, I finally got the hukou book and got the certificate, but since then I have been embarrassed countless times! Three years now, as long as I quarrel with my daughter-in-law, she always likes to go home and complain, and then my mother-in-law will come and scold me for not giving money, being a liar, cheating on children and cheating on feelings! This time, the police were used to kick me out, and I had nowhere to go in the middle of the night! Fortunately, I got divorced today, so I don't have to suffer this anymore!

I always feel that my mother-in-law is not her own mother, and her mother-in-law is not her own mother. This is an emotion separated by a layer of relationship, so it is difficult to maintain. Even, it's just whitewashing each other. No matter how good a mother-in-law is to her son-in-law, she wants her son-in-law to be better to her daughter. Moreover, when the mother-in-law tells her son-in-law, she is very picky, saying that she is not picky or picky. Why, go looking for trouble to stay at the mother-in-law's house? It's better to live together than to meet. Why take the risk? It's good for everyone to keep a proper distance.

I have my own home, and it's no use eating and drinking. This is the wisest choice.