What should I do if my mother stays with her children?

Since I gave birth to a child, my memory is obviously worse than before. Sure enough, the sentence "one fetus in three years" has been fulfilled. Some children even puzzled me: "Mom, you have a bad memory because you gave it to me when you gave birth to me, so I have a very good memory, so you have no memory."

I immediately had "sweat" flowing down my head, just like the expression of "sweat" in the expression pack.

I have a bad memory, and this child, with the growth of age, also appeared some phenomena:

For example, when you explain something to your child, your mouth is thirsty, and finally when the child does it, he finds that he doesn't remember it;

Another example: you give the child a gesture and an introduction, and what you see is the child's face;

Also, especially children, often see what their parents say with relish, but looking back at their children's faces is directly the expression pack of the circle.

Looking back at myself, although I am not as busy as a professional elite, my life and work are full of big and small things, and I will forget some small things if I am not careful. Seemingly trivial things do cause some troubles in life and work.

In order to solve this problem, I gradually developed a habit similar to obsessive-compulsive disorder.

For example, every time I go out, I feel that the door and gas valve are not closed properly. I have to look back and see that it is closed. If I don't go to see it, I will be on tenterhooks all day, which also makes me very upset, because it wastes too much time and energy.

It seems that the above two things have nothing to do. In fact, a careful analysis of the reasons behind it is a lack of care. To solve these problems, it is actually very simple, that is, to strengthen memory and clarify ideas. Share some small methods in detail to give you some inspiration:

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When you explain something to your child, you can ask the child to repeat the content after the explanation. Instead of simply asking the child: "Do you remember?" Or "Do you hear me clearly?"

Let children retell, on the one hand, you can immediately know whether children really understand the content and main points of things, and if you find that you don't understand or understand mistakes, you can correct them in time.

On the other hand, it can strengthen children's memory and let children have a process of interpreting and combing things in their own minds.

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Get into the habit of making plans. This habit applies to many things, both adults and children. In the process of planning, it is a process of strengthening memory and sorting out.

And write the plan on paper, you can finish it one by one, and you can also develop the good habit of careful thinking.

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Remind with mobile APP to strengthen memory. There are many mobile APP softwares to improve office efficiency, including many post-it apps with to-do reminders.

At first, I used the voice notebook function of WeChat. Every time I wrote down something I thought I would forget, I could see it every time I read WeChat, so I could remind myself in time.

After a while, I found that as long as it was something I remembered on my mobile phone, I never forgot it, even though I didn't read the reminder. But if you don't write it down on your mobile phone, it's especially easy to forget. This should also be a method of memory enhancement.

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Make sure everything is done. This is the best way for me to treat obsessive-compulsive disorder, similar to locking the door and turning off the gas valve. When I finished, I said to myself, "I locked the door" and "I turned off the gas valve".

In this way, when I go out, I can confidently know that I have finished these things, and I don't have to worry all the time or run back to confirm at the risk of being late.

These seemingly ridiculous methods are very useful in life. If you don't believe me, you can try next time.

If you pay attention to doing some special exercises in your daily life, you will inadvertently and quietly improve many life attitudes and States of yourself and your children, and you will no longer be anxious and passive, and you will find that communication with your children will be much smoother.

It takes time and continuous efforts to improve a country. Now is the beginning of the new year, and everything is just right.