Sun Zhuo Incident and Jianggang Culture

The Sun Haiyang family went through hardships and endured more than 5,000 days and nights of bereavement, and finally found their son Sun Zhuo who was abducted by the trafficker Wu Mou Long. The whole family, old and young, are sad and happy, and can't wait to take their son home at once and return the stolen love and care to his son twice. However, as Sun Zhuo decided to stay in the "foster parents' home" because he took good care of himself, the Sun Haiyang family, who had gained hope through fourteen years of suffering, was pushed to the cold and heartless bottom. But in order to make their children happy, the Sun Haiyang family still chose to respect their children.

However, all kinds of online reports are like a pot of boiling oil. Some people accuse Sun Zhuo of "recognizing a thief as a father", while others praise Sun Zhuo for "knowing how to be grateful"; Some people accuse Sun Zhuo's "adoptive parents" of stealing the happiness that others should have. Some people understand the impatience of rural people being called "homeless" and think that Sun Zhuo's "adoptive parents" are excusable; Some people say that they only use Sun Zhuojiao as a tool to resist discrimination. They already have two daughters, and they want to buy a boy of unknown origin. Someone immediately sent an article about Sun Zhuo's foster sister, saying that although she changed her name, her parents never ignored her, otherwise she wouldn't have the opportunity to go abroad to see the Aurora. Some people even say that "adoptive parents" are not easy. Otherwise, the Sun Haiyang family will give "adoptive parents" a sum of money as a first taste, and then get Sun Zhuo back. Sun Zhuo said, "If my adoptive parents go to jail, I will be unhappy." Many netizens immediately said, "You have to make your biological parents feel cold!" Some reporters even went to interview Sun Zhuo's "adoptive parents". As a result, the villagers of "adoptive parents" came out to speak, and the army of relatives of "adoptive parents" also moved out. There is only one purpose: "adoptive parents" are rural people who don't know the law, and they are better for Sun Zhuo than for their two daughters, which makes Sun Zhuo feel a deep family warmth. ......

Wait, I have to stop. What's the matter? Aren't the Sun Haiyang family victims? Isn't Sun Zhuo the victim? What's the noise on the Internet? What's wrong with the taste? Why do so many people start to cry foul for Sun Zhuo's "adoptive parents"? However, I think that Sun Zhuo's "adoptive parents" have absolutely no right to hire any navy, and the voices on the Internet that whitewash Sun Zhuo's "adoptive parents" only bring their own thoughts.

The thinking of sauce jar is the reflection of sauce jar culture. "Jianggang Culture" was put forward by Taiwan Province writer Bai Yang. Refers to the part of a national culture that is useless, harmful and dross, but stubbornly rooted in people's hearts. For example, beating to the death, never admitting one's mistakes, selfish disregard for others, disorder, like to talk big, like to tell lies, like to say poison words, these are the characteristics of "Jianggang culture".

In the Sun Zhuo incident, many people did not speak out based on the course of the incident, the order under social laws and the specific situation of the parties, but only made judgments according to their own preferences and arranged the words and deeds of the parties, as if everyone was in charge. But after the quarrel, it only hindered the benign development of the incident and did not advance, making people feel that this society is not unfair. Some self-media and online celebrities talk nonsense for traffic. How can they arouse the infinite imagination of the public and satisfy people's fascination with dark humanity? This will make everyone pay endless attention to it and fall into the sauce jar culture. Fortunately, netizens are constantly maturing and can express their views based on facts and create a good social atmosphere.

In order to avoid falling into the sauce jar culture, before writing this article, in view of all kinds of comments about Sun Zhuo and "adoptive parents" on the Internet, I began to sort out the source of the incident in line with the principle of "one yard for one yard" and "unjust, false and wrong cases owe something".

First of all, I want to clarify the concept of "adoptive parents". Couples who are infertile but love their children very much and have gone through the adoption formalities through legal procedures are the adoptive parents of the children. When you meet an abandoned baby, you really can't find your biological parents and raise them by yourself out of human nature. Although there is no legal procedure, it conforms to the nature of "being a man needs love" and can also be called adoptive parents. In addition, those who get children by buying and selling, even if they make such transactions with their biological parents, are illegal and are buyers. Because the population can't be bought or sold!

Therefore, in the process of writing, I have always used quotation marks to mark Sun Zhuo's "adoptive parents" for three reasons: it does not meet the conditions for legally adopting Sun Zhuo, so there is no proper adoption procedure, and the status of adoptive parents is not established; When they took the child from Wu Mou Lang, did they give Wu Mou Lang money? If it is, it is an accomplice in child trafficking, that is, suspected of committing a crime; When Sun Zhuo took over, the child was only four years old and had the ability to remember. Will they strengthen the cognition of "being abandoned by their biological parents" in the past 14 years? I don't have an exact answer to the last two reasons, but the answer to the second reason should be given by Wu Mou Lang during the trial. The answer to the third reason can be inferred from Sun Zhuo's choice of "living in foster parents' home" and his statement that "I will be unhappy if my foster parents go to prison".

Secondly, I know that the victims of the Sun Zhuo incident were Sun Zhuo himself and his blood-related family members.

From the present point of view, Sun Zhuo's biological parents and grandparents are particularly hurt, both mentally and materially. After fourteen years of suffering, they never gave up looking for the missing child. The best comfort for them is that the children go home, and both traffickers are punished by law. Even so, it is difficult to completely make up for the inner trauma of their family. Therefore, some media do not pursue criminals, but are eager to imagine and compare with Fu's family education out of thin air, so as to infer the reasons for not returning to his biological parents. This is a second injury to the victim!

In the long run, Sun Zhuo's injury is likely to get heavier and heavier. According to the analysis of the characteristics of children's psychological development, the reason why they don't remember their biological parents as deeply as Fu's is that some people are washing away the memory of four-year-old children about their biological parents in various ways and replacing it with their own image in children's minds. An article published now says that Sun Zhuo's "foster mother" is very partial to her son, and she often buys snacks for her son in big supermarkets. Her two daughters are in rags every day. Someone in the village gave it to her when she was in primary school. A country only ordered milk for its son, usually bought sausages, and bought 10 at once. In order to make his son happy, he gave the rest to his daughter first. For a long time, in such an environment of deliberately betraying good people, a child who knows well will naturally regard them as his own biological parents. When the media reported that Sun Zhuo was living with his "adoptive parents", someone immediately accused Sun Zhuo of making a chilling choice! Many people began to replace the Sun Haiyang family. This seems just, but emphasizing that the family is worthless is harmful to the Sun family and accusing the thief of being the father is harmful to the children, which just diverts people's attention and makes people forget the source of condemning this result. But now that the incident is clear, children face many variables, and they may have to bear the confusion and pain caused by these variables in the future.

Therefore, I am more concerned about whether the offenders can get the corresponding punishment in time, rather than taking this matter as a starter and arbitrarily triggering delusions and rumors that seem reasonable but disturb people's hearts.

In addition, I personally think that "mending after the sheep is dead" is the most important thing, which makes many people feel lucky that they have made mistakes and caused great harm to others or the country. Did the families who bought Sun Zhuo wash their white clothes with this deep-rooted traditional thought? Aren't there many people who think so?

At present, before the criminal suspects who abduct and sell children are punished by law, I hope netizens will pay more attention to the facts of the crime and not fall into the sauce jar culture. Only in this way can we create a clear and just living environment for ordinary people through our own efforts.