Should I get liquor or a marriage certificate before getting married?

Different places may have different customs. In some places, it is not necessary to hold a banquet to get married. Today, it is a contradiction between holding a banquet and getting a marriage certificate.

There is a classic saying that love that does not aim at marriage is hooliganism.

I'm afraid this sentence is most suitable for blind date.

I have a friend named Xiaojie (a pseudonym). Last year, when he was just in his prime, he was 22 years old. His parents arranged a blind date for him, and it was a direct blind date based on marriage.

She was not given a choice, only told to cultivate her feelings and prepare to get married.

(ps。 This situation is very uncomfortable in the eyes of many people. I am the master of my own marriage, but Xiaojie is an obedient girl and finally listens to her parents' arrangement. No one knows the future. )

The person I talked to in August was a boy from a neighboring village, who was 1-2 years older than her.

At the beginning of this year, 19, 1, the two sides held an engagement banquet, and in February, the two sides held a wedding banquet. Maybe it's an occupational disease. After dinner, I took the liberty of asking Xiaojie if she had received the certificate.

Xiaojie answered me, not yet. I plan to go on March 8 or May 20.

I just laughed.

I think many people around me have experienced this situation. Let's not talk about the difference between an engagement party and a wedding banquet today. Let's talk about it first. Or set the wine first?

In fact, many people understand the law quite well and will answer: of course, get a license first. But in fact? Not necessarily ~

Then let's talk about the consequences of different orders from the sense and law ~

It's actually no problem to get a license first. After getting it, the two sides are indeed legal couples, but there will be several different banquet ideas.

1, got the license, and the whole family got married. Banquets are all spent by yourself, so it's better to save, put less or have a candlelight dinner by yourself.

2. The certificate has been received. It doesn't make any difference whether to put the wine or not. We are already a legal couple, so there is no need to put it.

We are legally married. We should have a good banquet, advertise to the whole world, and accept heartfelt wishes from relatives and friends.

Of course, there are different ideas, after all, I have not considered them comprehensively, and I hope my friends can make up for them together ~

In fact, getting a license first, from these ideas I can think of, is irrelevant in law, but a relationship between husband and wife. At most, it will be different morally and emotionally.

The other is to set the wine first. In some places, customs may be more particular about setting wine. Wine chooses auspicious days in the lunar calendar and cards choose pleasant days in the solar calendar.

In fact, this practice is very unsafe.

It may be that as long as a banquet or wedding is held, both parties will tell the public that they are married, which is considered to be extremely effective and more binding, and can receive blessings from neighbors and friends.

1. Last time I had a customer consultation, I said I wanted to divorce my wife. Then after preliminary consultation, he even told me that he and his wife had drunk in their hometown and there were many witnesses. What about the certificate? I don't understand. What's the use of bothering witnesses?

2, there is to get married and buy a house? Let's have a wedding banquet first, and then get a marriage certificate when you buy a house. What about the back? What if the relationship between the two sides is not good? Divorce? Not even married. No divorce? This banquet is all ready. For the woman, there is no divorce record, and there is no title of second marriage. What about that guy?

3. I hosted a banquet and didn't get a license. If one party regrets, there is no legal guarantee!

Also, I want to tell you that there is no de facto marriage in our country now, and those who don't get a license are called hooligans (cohabitation) ~

So, in fact, you can know the conflict between emotion and law, so let me say a few words:

If both men and women, after falling in love or dating, decide that it is better to enter the marriage hall, please show full sincerity to get the certificate first. This is not only respect for both parties, but also respect for family, relatives and friends.

If you feel that the other party has any shortcomings or requirements, you must come out before obtaining the certificate. If you can't reach the goal, please don't force to solve the shortcomings first.

Of course, I also hope that as a man, after you get the certificate, you can at least give the woman a decent wedding and provide her with the material of the program instead of a luxurious wedding.

As a woman, I also hope not to exceed the economic capacity of both sides and make excessive demands. Life needs mutual understanding and respect.

May everyone have a beautiful love and marriage!