What kind of person is the boyfriend?

He experienced too much and suffered too much when he was young. So he learned to hide the bad things, so at the beginning of his acquaintance, he gave you all the good things. And you may be used to his contribution and take it for granted, so you are asking for more and forget that you should also pay.

Moreover, because he is used to being alone, he is used to making his own decisions. The way you communicate may need to be changed, at least not so blunt, and don't talk about problems in a quarrelsome tone.

Try to see things from his point of view, don't always think in your own way. Put yourself in others' shoes, and maybe you will understand.

Good wishes!