Some people say that children avoid their mothers and daughters, but they don't need to avoid their fathers. Why?

It is a serious mistake for children to avoid their mothers and women to avoid their fathers!

First of all, physiologically speaking, when a child grows up, under normal circumstances, he has entered adolescence and has already had sexual buds. Because there is no place to vent, masturbation appears. Therefore, parents must pay attention to their lifestyle, avoid all behaviors that are easy to stimulate children's sexual response, and at the same time guide them correctly to avoid any problems that should not appear.

Secondly, morally speaking, it is also necessary for children to avoid their mothers and women to avoid their fathers. Otherwise, the continuation of this intimate relationship may lead to the late maturity of children and women, and incest may occur under uncontrollable circumstances, which will have a great impact on children.

Parents have the responsibility and obligation to educate their children to adapt to adolescent sexual impulses as soon as possible, which is an important step for their healthy growth.

I am over 60 years old this year, but to be honest, this is the first time I have heard this statement.

Of course, if we say that in ancient times, before chaos opened, men and women were nothing else, and even relatives could have sex within a few generations. But it was a primitive society. After entering a civilized society, men and women are different, and giving and receiving is a recognized code of conduct for men and women.

I'm not old-fashioned, and neither am I (laughs). But I think even between husband and wife, it should be taboo. Naked all day, honest with each other, but no mystery. It's like facing a Manchu-Chinese banquet every day. Are you bored? Really educated and thoughtful couples, especially women, should have reservations even in the face of their husbands, so as to maintain the freshness between husband and wife.

Boys should avoid their mothers and girls should avoid their fathers. Here, after three or four years old, boys can't bathe with their mothers, and girls don't bathe with their fathers since childhood. The problems of boys' growth and girls' growth are taught by parents respectively.

Of course, emotionally speaking, it is natural that boys are generally closer to their mothers and girls are generally closer to their fathers. At the same time, parents should not be absent from their children's adolescent education, and should educate them according to the guidance of experts and scientific methods. After all, no one will deny this. Parents all over the world want their children to have a sound personality and a good home.

Finally, I remembered a story from 1980s: a delegation of China writers visited the United States. At the seminar, the host asked a famous writer a question: Why do you people in China avoid talking about sex? What did he say? He first pointed to a gift box given by the other party on the table before the table, saying that this was a difference in national habits. Just like this gift, you take it and open it in front of the guests, and then wow, this gift is so beautiful; What about the habits of our nation? It is impolite to open gifts in front of guests, so you can only take them home and then open them and enjoy them slowly.

Different genders are destined to avoid each other. This is the need of shame and the necessity of ethics.

However, due to different stages of life, it is also possible to avoid each other. There is a saying that people should not avoid their parents when they are young, their husbands and wives when they are young, and their children when they are old. This is reasonable.

When they were young, their bodies could not avoid their parents, because their parents had to scratch their excrement and wipe their urine, dress and bathe them. But once they grow up, even after seven or eight years old, they begin to consciously avoid their parents and safeguard their dignity.

When they are young, they get married and have children. Because of their special relationship, the couple will not avoid each other, but show their secret parts to their spouses.

People are old and can't take care of themselves. Everything depends on the children. At this time, there are often scratches and wipes, and clothes are taken off to wipe the body. At this time, the old people don't have to be afraid of the children's eyes, but let them be at their mercy.

As you said, I agree that children should avoid their mothers, because after all, men and women are different, even mothers should avoid them. If female college students don't have to avoid their fathers, I beg to differ.

My daughter has grown up, and her body has changed, becoming young and mature. If she doesn't avoid her father, she can pay attention to her health. What is the shame of being a daughter? If the father is an animal and has an evil intention towards his daughter, how can the daughter resist? Isn't obeying your father incest?

In fact, the real situation should be that children avoid their mothers and women avoid their fathers. In fact, they also want to avoid their fathers, and women avoid their mothers.

There is no absolute right or wrong to say that children avoid their mothers and daughters but don't need to avoid their fathers. It depends on how we understand it.

From the perspective of gender differences between men and women, it is wrong to say that "children avoid their mothers and women avoid their fathers". In fact, this is to guide children to carry out correct sex education, so that children can understand the difference between men and women as soon as possible, and must pay attention to their privacy. Therefore, when children are gender-conscious, parents and children should also get along with each other in an appropriate way, guide them correctly, and help them establish gender meaning, which is more conducive to their healthy growth.

"Children avoid their mothers, and women avoid their fathers" is also true.

The saying that "children avoid their mothers" means that at a very young age, they need to maintain a close relationship with their mothers, and meticulous maternal love contributes to their physical and mental health. However, as children grow up, mothers must learn to let go, so as to cultivate their independence. Prevent children from relying too much on their parents, becoming irresponsible and even becoming "Ma Baonan".

"Female college students don't avoid their fathers" because their fathers are the first opposite sex their daughters come into contact with. Girls who have a good father-daughter relationship are more confident and mature, and when they grow up, they know how to get along with the opposite sex better, so the possibility of meeting "love rat" will be greatly reduced. At the same time, because they have a correct understanding of the opposite sex in the process of getting along with their father, it will also be of great help to their future marriage life.

"Men avoid their mothers and women avoid their fathers" has a long history, and it may not be an exaggeration to say that it has become a * * * knowledge.

With the growth of age, children gradually understand the differences between men and women and begin to pay attention to their privacy, which is a good thing and is conducive to parents' correct guidance on sex education; Later, I saw the saying that "men avoid their mothers and women don't have to avoid their fathers".

Why do children avoid their mothers?

Respect and respect for mothers are innate, and respect and love for mothers are natural.

Who can grow up healthily without meticulous maternal love? ! Motherly love is indispensable to the formation of our character and physical and mental development, but it is troublesome to love our mother too much.

The research shows that men have Oedipus complex, generally because their psychological age is too young or even immature, and Oedipus children are easy to "grow up", with weak sense of responsibility, no opinion and lack of enterprising spirit; The relationship between the two parties is unstable after marriage; Selfish personality ...

When the son grows up, the mother must learn to let go, let the son grow up independently and exercise masculinity.

Why don't women have to avoid their fathers?

I understand it from the girl's personality and emotion.

Although I don't agree with the statement that "my daughter was her father's lover in her last life", it is self-evident that her father, as the first opposite sex in her life, has an influence on her daughter.

In those families where the relationship between father and daughter is very close, girls know better how to get along with the opposite sex, which will naturally have a very positive impact on the marriage after adulthood.

It is said that the key inducement of the father-loving complex is the absence of the growing father. People who have an Oedipus complex will feel that when they need their father, he is always away.

Girls who are seriously lacking in fatherly love have a special feeling for those mature and steady old men, and are not excited about their peers, becoming typical "uncles".

This may be the real meaning that women's universities don't need to avoid their fathers, rather than Mr. Lu Xun's urging that "as soon as they see short sleeves, they immediately think of snow-white arms, naked bodies, genitals, sexual intercourse, hybridization and illegitimate children." China people's imagination can only make such a leap at this level.

There is an old saying that "sons avoid their mothers when they grow up, and women avoid their fathers", which means that sons can't stick to their mothers all the time, and daughters should keep their distance from their fathers when they grow up. In fact, it tells us that children should establish gender awareness in the process of growing up, which is conducive to the healthy growth of children.

We say that parents' education will make different choices according to their children's gender differences. Boys will emphasize masculinity, and girls will be more feminine. Then, what kind of relationship and distance should children of different sexes keep from their parents?

First of all, whether it is a boy or a girl, in infancy, the closest thing is the mother. Moreover, before the age of three, mothers are mainly responsible for taking care of their children's daily lives, so children at this stage are basically not too shy about gender. Of course, there are also some children with abnormal development who will establish gender awareness at the age of two and a half and take the initiative to ask for avoidance. This is a very special situation.

Secondly, 3 years old is an important barrier for children's gender distinction. During this period, the boy's mother must gradually keep a distance from the boy, and the father will take more responsibility for taking care of the child instead of the mother. When children spend more time with their fathers, they will adapt to men's way of thinking and behavior, understand what it is like to be a man, and establish their own rules and boundaries. The girl's father should establish the difference between life companionship and daily life with his children, take the initiative to avoid it and tell them that it is necessary.

Thirdly, if parents don't let their children establish gender awareness at this stage, this time will be lengthened, and other senses and consciousness of children will continue to develop, thus causing some special injuries. For example, boys will insist on going to the ladies' room with their mothers, or refuse to go to the men's section with their fathers. Such examples abound in life. These are all caused by not letting children establish critical thinking at critical times. If girls are not established, they will be more dangerous and will be hurt by games or contact with their peers.

Finally, children with late gender awareness have even more terrible consequences, that is, Oedipus or fatherhood. This is a manifestation of children's psychological abnormality, and it is also a major hidden danger that will affect their lives. We can see that many children from single-parent families will have such problems. Of course, there are many factors that cause this result, but the main reason is that sexual life has not been avoided in time. For example, when a son is 20 years old, he still has to sleep with his mother, otherwise he can't sleep. Some girls have to find boyfriends who are similar in appearance and personality to his father. These are sequelae.

In short, children at the age of 3 must establish a sense of gender differences, which requires parents' guidance, education and firm implementation. Fathers should be more involved in children's interaction, and mothers should take a step back appropriately, so that children can feel their independence and differences and learn how to protect themselves.

Children are afraid of the dark, the wind, the rain and the thunder when they are young. So children must live with their parents when they are very young.

Because parents are also worried that their children will be scared when they sleep. So when children are very young, they usually follow their parents. But I think if children go to primary school, they should form a good habit of sleeping by themselves. Because the conditions are good now, our residence is spacious, and children usually have their own rooms.

Therefore, as parents, we must encourage our children to speak independently, which will also have a good foundation for their future independence. As a parent, don't be afraid that your child won't accept crying. You will let him sleep with you. Don't bring up children, sleep with mom or dad. Because children should be taboo when they are older, but don't have that kind of children who are meat falling from themselves, and there is no privacy with children.

Actually, this is not right. Personally, I think children should avoid their mothers when they are older, and daughters should avoid their fathers when they are older. We must draw a clear line emotionally. So as to maintain family ethics, maintain family order and keep the distance between parents and children, which is also the best way.

In fact, in the earliest China proverb, it is "children avoid their mothers, and women avoid their fathers", which is a traditional ethics handed down by China for thousands of years. The meaning of this sentence itself is: "when children grow up, we should reduce our attachment to their mothers;" When a daughter grows up, she should reduce her attachment to her father. "However, with the in-depth exploration of modern scientific early childhood education and psychology, this proverb, which has been circulating for thousands of years, has been abandoned by the times. In order to establish a healthier parent-child relationship, educate children to have a correct gender awareness and cultivate children to have a healthy personality, "children avoid their mothers and women avoid their fathers" is changed to "children avoid their mothers and women do not have to avoid their fathers", that is to say, when their daughters grow up, they don't need to deliberately keep their distance from their fathers.

"Children should avoid their mothers" is not only physical, but more importantly, boys should stay away from their mothers' shelter psychologically, so that boys can learn to be independent. If a boy is too attached to his mother at a certain age, he will easily become a bad character with no definite opinions in society and independent thoughts in behavior, and relying too much on his mother will easily lead to "Oedipus complex", which is very unfavorable to the growth and future of children.

The sentence "female college students don't need to hide from their father" is based on the psychological attachment of father and daughter. The father plays a very important role in the growth of his daughter, and her role also affects her future views on mate selection and marriage. Girls often feel insecure in life, and their father is the only safe man they can rely on. From many lives, we can find that girls cultivated in families where fathers love their daughters are optimistic, brave, sunny and kind; And if the father's attitude towards his daughter is indifferent, such girls are often timid, cowardly and shy, and dare not communicate with boys. Therefore, a daughter's impression of her father will directly lead to her future life attitude and mate selection criteria. However, to establish children's gender awareness, it is still necessary to follow the physiological principle of "women avoiding fathers".

Ideological problems! In 2007, I was hospitalized with a stomachache. In the next bed, an old man was in a coma, with a big belly and three sons. But every day, I saw my daughter-in-law Banggong scrubbing his lower body, and his son turned over in the next state. There are many people in the ward, and everyone says that she is a good wife. Let's talk about myself. When my mother was dying, my sister, my brother and I took turns asking for help. My mother was incontinent and my brothers scrubbed her. I didn't feel sick or anything. My wife and I are also supporting my mother-in-law these days. I hold my mother-in-law in the toilet, and my wife has no strength!

This is not true. We have a saying that men avoid their mothers and women avoid their fathers. Not far from here, there was once a landlord who had an affair with his daughter, was caught by his concubine and shot her in a rage. My daughter saw the exposure and made a short-sighted decision. The tombstone of Houqi is in my grandfather's yard, drying sauce in summer.