High score, what if my father-in-law comes to live? Inconvenient. Who can help me?

Hello, although I am a man, I feel sorry to read your story.

Advice when most needed is least heeded:

In my opinion, the root of these problems is your original choice. It is right for a person to choose the person he loves to fall in love, but it is not enough to marry a loved one, and various objective factors should be considered. If the urban-rural fringe wants to be happy and less troublesome, the premise is that the village side cannot have too much financial burden, and the family does not require high quality and high education, but at least it should be reasonable. So from this perspective, your marriage choice is thoughtless. Think about it, there is nothing to complain about now, because everyone is responsible for their own decisions. Don't ask yourself, "How can I be so bullied, how can I suffer so much, how can I be so unlucky?" If you go on like this, you will become a dissatisfied housewife. Well, with this premise of "admitting mistakes", the following problems are "facing" and "minimizing the adverse consequences of the problem".

It is true that children should support their parents, but it cannot be one-sided-that is, only consider the level of children, that is, filial piety, without considering other factors.

The so-called "father's kindness and filial piety, gentleman's loyalty, brother's kindness and consideration, husband's obedience and adoptive father's listening" is perfection and human meaning.

This father is not kind and long-term, which does not mean that a child can be unfilial.

But obedience is not obedience, and filial piety is also divided into four realms: small, medium, big and flat.

I think people can be gentle and angry, so when they meet their parents-in-law, they should be respectful and polite, do their basic support obligations and endure everything, but there must be a bottom line. Don't set the bottom line too high. If you don't think you are noble enough to tolerate temporary virtue and virtue, if you live with your father-in-law, I don't think you can live with your father-in-law (provided that he has food, clothing and shelter), so as to avoid small grievances accumulating into big ones and eventually producing some unexpected consequences.

You can tell your husband that you know he is difficult, but he is not the only one who has parents. You also have your parents. If "the son's daughter-in-law marries to serve her father-in-law", then the daughter's husband is also the son of her father-in-law. You don't have to ask her husband to take care of her parents, but at least listen to their opinions. For example, my father-in-law is moving in, because the house is not just for you two. Moreover, if you get married, everything is a problem for two families. You can give part of the decision-making power to the elders at home (your husband's parents and yours), and finally you and your husband have the final say. Interest statement, adoptive parents are filial, filial piety is in the hearts of adoptive parents, but if it can stimulate the wisdom of parents, it is the highest filial piety.

People are not saints, and neither are their parents. Didn't the disciple also say, "I had a close relationship, my advice made me more comfortable, and my voice was soft." Don't remonstrate, remonstrate gladly, weep and complain. "Yao? It means that if parents are at fault, we should gently persuade them, continue to persuade them if they don't listen, don't dislike their parents, and guide them carefully. When will my father-in-law be kind to his daughter-in-law and stop treating her as a "servant"? I don't think cohabitation is negotiable.