The person I hate the most

Wen/Huai Zuo

01

Growing up, I have hated many people. At the end of the day, it’s really hard to say.

But I can talk about a lot of specific things I hate:

I hate doing housework and I don’t like the kitchen. The smell of cooking fumes;

I don’t like elders who chat with me about their academic performance when they have nothing to do;

I don’t like meeting strangers and don’t know what to say;

I don’t like going to the wet market, it’s noisy and chaotic;

I don’t like sitting at the same table with adults, it makes me look like a fool;

I don’t like socializing and think it’s a waste of time;

When I’m reading, my mother always urges me to go out and play with others, which I don’t like;

Others chat with me The topic is nothing more than what I do and how much money I make, and I don’t like it either;

I hate people who don’t let me play games and stop me from looking at my phone;

< p> When I was a child, my biggest dream was: When I grow up, I can buy a computer, do nothing else, and play games at home all day long.

Play alone or with a few friends and keep playing.

I don’t like other things that much.

02

Last weekend, Haohao (my brother-in-law) came to Xi'an to help us move . The two of us were walking and chatting on the road. What I talked to him the most about was CET-4 and CET-6, postgraduate entrance examination and Ph.D. examination, and hoped that he would study hard and find a good job in the future.

When we were crossing the intersection, I said with emotion: Oh, your sister and I had no experience at the time and no one to guide us, so we didn’t cherish the opportunity to study. Now, It's up to you.

When my wife came back in the evening, I told her these things. She said that I have done a good job and will speak more when I have the opportunity to influence Haohao in a subtle way.

We are very happy and feel that we have done a good thing.

This week, we have moved into a new house. We are familiar with the routes and the surrounding area. I specially looked for the surrounding vegetable markets and visited them several times. Bring home less fruits and vegetables. After familiarizing myself with the environment, I felt at ease.

My daughter-in-law brought several of her colleagues to our new home in two waves. Every time, she chats with her colleagues while I cook in the kitchen. There is division of labor and cooperation, like a two-person team with a high degree of tacit understanding.

Before and after, I prepared a few specialty side dishes. The second time, I also made my favorite oily pork when I was a child. The taste of my hometown is the most beautiful. Although Shanxi cuisine is not famous in the country, I just like to eat oily pork, shredded tofu and oatmeal noodles.

Shanxi Guoyourou

Because I just moved to In my new home, my mood is completely different from when I rented a house. I just want to stay in the house when I have nothing to do. When I see a dusty place, I start a new round of cleaning plan, and I can’t wait to get down on the ground and wipe away the dust.

I bought a lot of storage items online. After receiving the goods, I placed them one by one. I also put all the spices I brought over and put them in unified containers. I like them. This feeling of uniformity.

Based on the rural cauldron in my memory, I bought a cast iron pot with a wooden lid, specially used for stewing meat.

One day, my wife said to me: Brother, I feel that you have changed a lot in the past two years. Shui, you seem to be able to do anything now, and you often rush to do it. Are you still the same person who found everything troublesome before?

I was assembling a clothes hanger at that time, lying on the ground, sweating profusely, and this sentence hit me instantly.

It seems that I have indeed changed. In fact, I see this change every day but I never pay much attention to it. Just like the pothos I grow at home, after watering and watering, it grows from a little bit to a big ball, but I see it every day and get used to it.

Looking back, I realize that the things I do every day are all the things I hated the most before.

I became increasingly addicted to cooking. I began to talk to the children at home in a tone similar to that of someone who had come before. I learned to entertain others with tea and wine.

I am used to the appearance of an adult.

03

The last time I came to Xi’an for training in the lower bunk of my high school, when we were having dinner, he I mentioned one thing: In the past, talking to my parents on the phone lasted only one or two minutes, but now we can sometimes chat for half an hour or even an hour.

He said: I don’t know when it started, but I suddenly felt that my parents were old and lonely. It would be good to talk to them more. Now I try hard to find topics every time and chat randomly, just because I want to talk to my parents more.

I am doing this too.

In the beginning, my daughter-in-law called her parents almost every day. At that time, I couldn’t understand why such a grown-up person could be like a newly weaned child. , looking for parents every day.

Later, I was influenced by her and felt that this was quite good. The most interesting things must include talking and laughing with my parents.

If nothing happens, I will tell them again and again: Buy more vegetables and fruits, don’t eat noodles all the time, drive carefully, and go to bed early at night...

Unknowingly, I have really changed a lot. I have become a mother-in-law and a mother-in-law, and I have become more and more verbose. I am no longer the person who pursued independence, no longer deliberately tried to be cool, and I no longer pay attention to my life. Much less.

On rainy days, I can go out with a broken umbrella. In the evening, I wear pajamas and slippers and go for a walk. When I buy groceries, I pull the groceries trolley I bought online. At 7 p.m. I started to follow Xinwen Lianbo.

Looking at it from afar, I don’t know if I have gradually developed this feeling myself, or if I have become this way due to the influence of environment and age.

My daughter-in-law said, I should do something at any age, but I thought of being thirty.

Looking at it now, this does not mean that a person will definitely be able to make a career when he reaches thirty, and have something that is approved by society, but it means that your Certain principles and concepts can stand and become more stable, which can then drive you forward steadily.

After understanding many things, you will have a clear understanding of people at this stage.

Probably, this is the so-called maturity.

04

I used to be a selfish and lazy person.

Now I will "rush" to do housework. On the one hand, I learned storage last year. With this perspective, I want to make the home cleaner; on the other hand, I learned about storage last year. On the other hand, I gradually learned to think from others’ perspective and understood that if I do more, my wife can rest more.

Dragging each other down and taking advantage of others, both of them are tired and exhausted.

Instead, I take the initiative, feel good, learn life skills, and feel the warmth from the other person.

It turns out that being proactive is the secret to facing life. It’s a day to cope, it’s a day to be active, it’s a day to have random thoughts, it’s a day to do things well. Romain Rolland said that there is only one kind of heroism in the world, and that is to still love life after seeing the truth of life clearly.

When I was a child, I regarded this sentence as a famous saying, but I didn’t quite understand what it meant. Now I seem to understand a little bit. After seeing some of the fatigue shown in life, I can still choose to believe in my heart, retain my enthusiasm, get used to dullness, and there is strength in calmness.

Maybe doing the little things that you hated before is also a kind of mental progress.

In this way, I became the person I once hated, doing the things I disliked doing the most in those years, but I still felt quite happy and could sit at home and write. An article like this.

Man is really a magical creature.

When time slaps me in the face, my face is already thick enough.