How many bad people are around you?

It's almost the end of the year, and it's time for bad guys to haunt again. In addition to preventing fire and theft, preventing brokers from chatting up strangers, we should also open our eyes to identify all kinds of bad people with humble status or even masks.

Speaking of which, who is the first bad guy that pops up in your mind and makes your teeth itch? Has been caught in the station, is it the classmate who takes advantage of you everywhere at school, bullies you and makes fun of you? Is it that punk who smokes on any occasion or goes out to cut in line? Or that bitch who is good at using politics to stab you in the back? ……

Have you ever secretly cursed them countless times, hoping that one day, they will be struck by lightning or simply "cut to pieces" and disappear from this earth forever? What makes you even more angry is that these heinous villains actually live on the same planet with you and show off their trophies everywhere.

I know you must have more right to accuse these bad guys of all kinds of vicious misdeeds, but let's take stock of the types of these bad guys together first, and then sit in the right place.

In addition to some examples I added, the following categories were compiled by teacher Wan Weigang.

Are bad people born this way, or are good people who gradually become bad people? If you were born a bad person, why didn't this gene with personality defects be eliminated during evolution? If it is the day after tomorrow, why do some people show the brilliance of people's hearts, and some people become bad people when they take the exam? A reasonable guess is that some people are born with some personality defects, and when they encounter some extreme situations, they turn people into bad people. Extreme cases are accidental, but character defects are common. Everyone has some small defects to some extent. From the perspective of personality defects, some people put forward the theory of "dark three personalities" in the late 1990s, arguing that people with these three personalities are more likely to be malicious to others and become bad people. The word "darkness" includes:

Narcissists love to show themselves everywhere, as long as they talk about everything about themselves, from what they eat in the morning to the color of her mother's socks. If there are children at home, I will tell you every pore of her children from head to toe, not to mention how her ancestors respected their ancestors for eight generations and how their descendants lived happily. Narcissism is indeed regarded as a dark character, but it is not a bad person. People who are overly narcissistic are really disgusting.

Although "pervert" is often used to call names, psychologists refer to psychopaths as selfish, cold-blooded and adventurous. Criminal Psychology, a crime drama produced by CBS, tells the story of a psychoanalytic team in the Behavioral Analysis Department (BAU) of the Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI). They use all kinds of knowledge and high-tech equipment in the field of psychology to crack the black conspiracy of various abnormal serial killers. As soon as the play was broadcast live to 13 season, the popularity continued unabated, and the picture at the beginning of the program was a photo of a real serial killer. These criminals lost their humanity and took other people's lives for nothing. Normal people have a huge psychological burden on killing, but for them, killing has become a kind of fun, ritual, belief ... in short, it is an indispensable daily activity for ordinary people to eat and sleep. Coupled with their love of adventure, these people are simply born criminals.

Machiavelli advocates the power struggle by hook or by crook, just like a famous saying often quoted by people, "There are no eternal friends, no eternal enemies, only eternal interests", and the "larded school" that we China people are familiar with emphasizes the supremacy of interests. I can betray anyone, I can form an alliance with anyone, as long as it is in my interest. The American drama House of Cards is a vivid demonstration of disregarding human life and striving for various presidential rights. In life, Machiavelli's followers are always calculating and like to engage in some intrigues to design others. But they are fundamentally different from mental patients. They are rational and principled, and do not take pleasure in hurting others.

In addition to the three dark personalities, there are two other personalities that are very common in daily life, but the research by psychologists is not enough, so that philosophers have defined these two personalities.

Professor Eric James, a philosophy professor at the University of California, Riverside, said that an asshole is a person with a strong sense of privilege and thinks that all benefits should be taken first, and all good things should be his turn first. He deserves something better than others. Such people are assholes. Assholes are annoying, but they only show up when interests compete. And another kind of person, it is almost everywhere against people.

Jerk and asshole are often translated as "asshole" in Chinese, but there are still differences. Those who make unreasonable demands on flight attendants by plane, cut in line everywhere when waiting in line, and boss around people who are lower than themselves in the company have no social morality at all. This kind of person is an asshole.

Eric Wchwitzgebel, a philosophy professor at the University of California, Riverside, pointed out the definition of jerk in an article published in Nautilus Magazine. In his eyes, jerk means that other people's "humanity" has decreased. Jerk takes everyone else as a tool and doesn't think from others' point of view at all. In his eyes, almost everyone else has no feelings and no moral consciousness. The reason why a person is an asshole is essentially because of ignorance. Schwiertz Gabel also found an antonym for this bastard: sweetheart, which is sweetheart. The so-called sweetheart is a person who is considerate, respects the opinions of others and thinks of others everywhere.

In fact, each of us will have a little more than five personality defects, but the degree is different. However, Schwiertz and Gabel believe that among many personalities related to morality, the dimension of jerk lover is the most important. To put it bluntly, it is to what extent you can consider the existence and feelings of others.

Let's talk about my opinion. Except for the above second type-psychopath, which is handed over to the FBI and professional psychologists for study, the rest can be seen everywhere in life. As an adult, a modern man who has abandoned the complexity of black and white, from the perspective of personal interests, should we be a "bad guy" or to what extent? First of all, this question depends on who you ask. If you ask a primary school teacher, or give a graduation speech, or face the camera of a CCTV reporter, the answer must be a good person who respects others, cares about society and makes contributions to the country. But if you are frustrated outside, go home and ask your father who has been in the market for a long time, and he will definitely give you a different answer. In real life, those good people in the workplace are usually "doormats"; And those who love to show off and have a strong desire to perform are always trying to please the boss; Those weak department managers usually can't win more resources for the department; And those "bitches" who are domineering and competitive can often get more benefits for the department; The bosses who climbed to the throne by opportunistically stepping on the bodies of countless people are now showing off their love and greatness everywhere. ...

I once met a project manager who claimed to be the emperor and bossed people around every day. At one meeting, he said to all the participants, "I can get you any drink you want, no matter what flavor." Everyone else is wondering where he has so much time to buy coffee, or who is so free around him. But in private, who knows, the young HR girl in his department cried more than once: she went to do personnel work, not to buy coffee or order takeout. If you think young people should start by running errands to buy coffee, then I can only ask you to be patient.

There is such an emperor on high, and his business personnel change at two ends every three days. Finally, when green and yellow are not connected, there is no artificial work below. He tried his best to coax people from other departments. At first, of course, I tried to please all kinds of concerns, and even used this as an excuse to make a big fuss: "colleagues from other departments have defected." Recruiting new people soon revealed their true colors, all kinds of picky and verbal insults, and also made a big noise with HR to dismiss the contract. Newcomers who have just arrived generally work hard and need some time to understand the details. After discovering the nature of the boss, the capable people immediately jumped ship and left. Those who have few opportunities outside and need a job to support their families can only stay there. This gentleman also likes to show off his "talent". He always lectures on the whiteboard like a university professor, and in the end everyone needs to praise him clearly for how great he speaks. As for the vacant positions that have left, we will continue to recruit from abroad. Anyway, there are countless job seekers who don't know the inside story. Finally, even the cooperative headhunting company couldn't stand it: how dare that tyrant continue to recruit people? Isn't this a disaster for the country and the people and a waste of talents?

There is such an emperor-like boss and a group of mobile soldiers. This gentleman's projects fail one after another, but every time the project has not started, he has already found an excuse for failure, and those high-sounding speeches are more beautiful every time. The board of directors is not all fools. What's the use of making a bunch of beautiful speeches every time you lose so much money? Whenever this gentleman finds himself deliberately laid off, he is loyal to the CEO's various watches, and a bunch of bullshit theories of "one success will last forever". The CEO has endorsed it before, so it's not good to change your mind halfway. Coupled with the weak growth of the original business, he needs to find new stimulus points to improve his performance, so he has no choice but to continue to support him. The board of directors is far away from home, so it can't do everything by itself. It sent people to conduct internal audit and investigation several times in vain, and the CEO endorsed it and could only continue to perform it.

If we use the five personality defects of bad guys to analyze the above example, this gentleman has not completely lost his humanity to the abnormal degree of dismembering a corpse like chopping vegetables. The rest are narcissism, Machiavellian, jerk and jerk, which is such a combination of jerk and jerk. He is still constantly gaining external resources and enjoying the pleasure of ravaging the IQ of people around him to less than 1% every day, as well as the daily compliments of the people below.

But if we look at it from another angle, will people who are "cheated" by other departments do some research with critical thinking first, find out the inside story and the truth, and then decide to change departments? After all, the workplace is not your own room, you can go in and out at will; Recruiting from outside is not as convenient as obtaining information from internal colleagues, but it depends on strength to decide whether to stay or not. If they have the ability, they will jump away and continue to suffer. As for the CEO and the board of directors above, if they have the ability to explore more promising projects, will they continue to cling to such "chicken ribs"? So in the final analysis, strength is at work.

We can foresee that once this gentleman fails, it will be difficult to get resources and cooperation, at least those who are familiar with him will not cooperate again. With this in mind, you must curse his misfortune. If he falls down, if he plays his clever tricks again, he can still trick some people who don't know anything into continuing to set foot on the thief boat, or conduct a "one-hammer" business.

As a young man with a good wish for life, in the face of these advanced bastards, if you can't see through these traps and accidentally jump into this "one hammer" trading pit, you must have the strength and courage to jump out of the trap, otherwise you will be exhausted by those bastards. If this is your first or second job, it will bring distorted personality and psychological shadow to your whole career.

We constantly cultivate our own strength and strengthen our hearts, not only to compete with our peers, but also to resist all kinds of trampling on our personality and will by those "bad guys" with personality defects and the capital to leave at any time.

As your strength increases, the things you handle and the people you meet are more complicated, and your chances of meeting "bad guys" and becoming "bad guys" will also increase. So, one day, will you be one of the "bad guys"?

Yousim, the author of the Atlantic Monthly article, said that there are only three situations when you will act like an asshole:

In the first case, hammer trading. For example, if you eat in a restaurant, you won't come next time. For example, souvenirs of tourist attractions don't expect repeat customers at all. For example, if you want to break up with someone, no one can do anything to you.

In the second case, the newly formed team has not yet formed a superior-subordinate relationship. At this time, you can show yourself and gain a great first-Mover advantage.

In the third case, your team is at a critical moment of life and death, and any hesitation will miss the opportunity, so you would rather be a bad person than make a decisive decision.

In addition to the above three situations, you'd better be a sweetheart most of the time. The world needs people who take the initiative and people who dare to take responsibility, but it doesn't mean that we should all be bad people. Of course, you should never underestimate the skills of the bad guys. May we not only have the ability to identify "bad guys", but also have the wisdom to resist "bad guys" and the strength and ability to leave "bad guys" at any time.

One day, we will learn to protect ourselves and the people we cherish in this complicated and changeable world, and learn how to get along with this world, which can continue our strong and free vitality.

Reference: How to judge if you are an asshole? Eric Schwiertz Kibel, Nautilus, 1 1 month 16. Atlantic Monthly 20 15 Why narcissistic CEOs kill their companies. Eric Jackson, Forbes, 2065 1 month 65438