Tell me about the nanny.

Endure for a long time, all want to vomit menstruation.

? To tell the truth, I am not a very good employer either, because after giving birth to the second child, my mood is not very stable, and sometimes I am in a bad mood. The two children take care of themselves most of the time, and sometimes they really have no energy to socialize with the nanny.

When I am complaining about her, I believe she has a problem with me, too. She said that other people's employers and nannies talked and laughed. Tell the truth, people are mutual. I really can't do it. You are perfunctory, and I am still smiling at you. I'm not underweight. When I first arrived, I greeted her with a smile and told her politely that I regarded myself as a family. Sure enough, people are not polite at all. Many times it's really small things, but aren't all these small things in life? Say it a few times and people will think you are "Sister Xianglin".

I gave birth to my sister at the end of May this year, and I have a new moon next month. My mother also came to help me with my children. There is no one after the month, and I urgently need to invite my aunt. The intermediary introduced two companies, neither of which was very suitable. At this time, my parents helped me find this nanny, on the grounds that I knew the root cause and didn't dare to do anything to my children. I really resisted at first, because I knew this nanny when I was a teenager, and I didn't like her very much at that time, nor did I like her personality very much. However, my parents have always said that there is nothing wrong with inviting this person. After a few days of struggle, no one agreed to it because of time constraints.

At that time, I had just given birth to a child, and I was old, weak and never recovered. My husband is too busy with business to take care of things at home, and I am a little depressed after giving birth. So the mood is always unstable. Even the most basic thinking ability is lost. And I think everything is too simple. As it turns out, I really don't want to ask so-called acquaintances or relatives to be nannies, because this relationship is really difficult to manage.

Nanny is older than me 12 years old, and has always been confused about her identity and has no sense of boundaries. I don't ask you to come to my house as a nanny to be inferior, but you can't treat yourself as a nanny just because you know each other. You always point out my life as an elder. Sometimes I feel a little trance. Did I invite an aunt or a mother-in-law?

I am in a third-tier city, and the nanny's salary is 5000 yuan a month, and I have two days off every month. This price is our market price, neither high nor low, mainly because she has no experience before. 126 flat at home, usually washing the floor and washing clothes; Simply cook 2 meals, and the husband's working relationship almost doesn't matter. Help me with my two children. The boss has been in kindergarten since he was three years old, but for the epidemic, he would not be at home during the day; The youngest is 4 months. Aunt doesn't need to buy food to pick up older children. I take two children to sleep alone. We usually rest from 2 to 4 at noon, and we can rest around 10 at night.

This workload is really not big, because my aunt has a lot of time to play mobile phones and chat on WeChat all day. I once told her jokingly that she has more business than me. (Attachment: We started a small company ourselves)

When did the contradiction between us begin? To put it simply, since you come to my house as a nanny, should you do things according to our living habits and requirements? This aunt is so opinionated that I hardly listen to what she says. She can answer almost everything I ask her to do. And what she is asked to do is within the scope of her work, not too much.

? Breakfast is very simple. Just light a fire and cook some noodles for Dabao. We are all milk and bread. At noon, it is usually a dry meal and three dishes; Aunt is only responsible for cooking a pot of porridge in the evening, because sometimes the dishes are not finished at noon, and they are heated and eaten directly at night. My Dabao is picky about food and doesn't like it. I told my aunt that adults don't care, and the children make something fresh for him to eat. What people say: "Don't cook, there are not many bites after cooking." Later, I would cook other dishes for my son every night.

It's just that my husband hardly eats at home and occasionally comes back early. After dinner, it was almost 9 o'clock, and we went back to our room to sleep with our two children. 1 1 When I came out to check the portal, I found my aunt hiding in the room playing with her mobile phone, and all the dishes on the table were confiscated. I can only clean up by myself. Talking about her the next day, people simply said, "Yes, I didn't come out when I entered the room."

A plastic bag fell at the door of my room yesterday. From 2 o'clock in the afternoon to 6 o'clock in the evening, I took the older one out for a walk and came back. The bag is still in its place. I didn't pick it up on purpose during the period. My aunt went in and out several times and nobody cared.

Aunt usually gets up at 6 o'clock in the morning (I didn't ask her to go for a walk in the community so early) (we didn't get up so early, so I really don't care at this time). At 9 o'clock, I take my sister downstairs to find someone to chat and walk, and 10 comes back; 1 1: 00 I'll feed the big ones after dinner. Still holding my sister downstairs to "breathe". My sister woke up in the afternoon, took her to the community after 5 o'clock and came back after 6 o'clock. Take out the garbage at 8 o'clock. If it is obvious that it can be solved in 2 or 3 minutes, you must go outside the community and come back for at least 20 minutes to half an hour. After 10 in the afternoon, you should also "walk" on the terrace. In this way, people still feel not free, like a bird without feet.

? Generally, I don't leave both children with the nanny, because I know she can't take them. But the nanny takes out the garbage after 8 o'clock every night and throws two children to me. She must go to the community for at least 20 and a half minutes. This is the time to give the child a bath. I have said it several times, but someone told me that she didn't come back until she went out for a walk. ...

I learned to shit during the summer vacation, and sometimes I can't control it. One night, my aunt went to throw garbage, and I was nursing. Before I could take off my pants, I smeared my face and almost ate it in my mouth. Aunt didn't come back after more than half an hour. When I came back, I really almost exploded in situ. People say that she thought I didn't give the baby a bath, so she made an extra trip today. I don't understand. I need a nanny just because my children are too young to live without people. You can't stay at home like this, you always have to go out. Do you really treat me like a mother-in-law?

I don't want to talk about her attitude towards children, she has no patience at all, and sometimes she scolds Dabao loudly. When I was putting Bao Xiao to bed or nursing, she threw her mobile phone to Dabao, and she was fighting for the landlord to brush Tik Tok, or she could sleep by herself. ...

I realized that I had to keep my distance from her because she gossiped about others in front of me, including that her former boss was outside. Crossing the border told us about the relationship between husband and wife, telling me that people should accept their fate and marry whoever they want. It is useless for a rich husband to ignore his family. ...

Many people say, why don't you fire her? Because I have two treasures, Dabao has changed many people to take care of him. I don't want frequent substitutions to make him feel insecure. Coupled with the lack of suitable people, the two children really can't take care of themselves. My parents advised me that the remaining four months would be the Lunar New Year, which would last until the end of the year. After all, no matter how perfunctory she is, she certainly won't do anything to her children. So for the sake of the children, I can endure it, try to avoid her and not get along with her, because if it weren't for the children, I would have been fierce to her countless times. But that's it. People still think that I didn't "talk and laugh" with her. For sake, she intends to endure it until the end of the year.