Effective parent-child communication skills are more effective than blaming and preaching.

Seven effective parent-child communication skills are more effective than blaming and preaching.

As the child grows up, many parents find that he is increasingly disobedient to his own instructions.

Talk back or "rebel" Why not say that children will be obedient after repeated education? How to teach children to change?

We may have become accustomed to the immediate methods of yelling, belittling, punishing and even beating and cursing, but these methods have also painted cracks and shadows on the parent-child relationship while praising rice.

Maybe a different way of communication will make children listen.

In the following seven scenarios, parents may wish to try these communication skills:

When children don't want to sleep

Don't go back to your room, it's so late, stop playing and hurry up! I've told you several times!

There are still 10 minutes to sleep. Do you want to brush your teeth or tell a story first?

Children's voice: Mom and Dad, I don't want to sleep if I'm not sleepy. Maybe I want to watch TV, maybe I want to do something interesting. I don't know what time it is. As long as you set a sleeping time for me to follow, you also set my body's biological clock, and I gradually formed the habit of sleeping on time. You tell me like this, I will choose what I like and go to bed naturally. However, I may be an exception when I am sick.

When the children dawdle.

Are you still dawdling there? We are going to be late, so hurry up.

Did you hear that?

We leave in five minutes. Do you want to get dressed now or take your clothes? What bag do you want to take?

Children's voice: Mom and Dad, I didn't realize that I was fooling around, especially when playing with my favorite toys. I have no concept of time. If you say so to me, I will make a choice according to your urging.

When the child says "no"

What do children know? Why did you climb so high? I am very kind to you.

Ok, you can say "no", but I need to hear your reasons for saying "no" so that I can understand you. Is it okay? Go ahead, I'm listening.

Child's voice: Mom and Dad, when I said "no", I was trying to be independent and wanted to prove that I was growing up. Maybe, I just can't stand your teaching. Perhaps, when you said this to me, I was learning not to be afraid of others and to express my true thoughts bravely.

When a child accidentally breaks something.

You see, you child, you broke such an expensive thing. Can I buy it for you next time?

It doesn't matter. With this experience, it won't break down in the future. Everyone makes mistakes, so do I. Let's try to correct it.

Child's voice: Mom and Dad, when I broke something, I was very nervous and scared. When you say this to me, I will feel that you really understand me, and I will pay attention to it later.

When children don't want to talk to us

I'm talking to you! What's the matter? How can a child like you ignore people?

Honey, mom thinks you have something on your mind today. Can I help you? Do you want to talk to your mother? Mom is a little worried about you!

Child's voice: Mom and Dad, actually I have nothing on my mind. Sometimes I want to be alone. Perhaps, I am thinking about the secret in my heart. Maybe, I'm thinking about what I think is important. When you say this to me, I realize that you care about me, and I may tell you what's on my mind.

When children don't let others play with toys

You should learn to share. Let him play for a while.

Think about it, do you play for 5 minutes first, and then give him 10 minutes or give him 5 minutes first, and then you play 10 minutes, or give him another toy to play with?

Children's voice: Mom and Dad, I like my toys very much, and I really don't want others to play with them. I'm afraid he broke it. When you say that to me, I may let him call, and I may give him another one.

When children cry to achieve their goals.

Cry, cry, and you will know that crying is useful. How can I have a child like you?

If you don't cry, let's see how to be quiet. What do you want to say to me?

Child's voice: Mom and Dad, crying is a useful weapon for me. I used it very successfully before, and I want whatever I want. So, I will try your reaction by crying; Perhaps, crying is my instinctive expression, and I haven't learned how to talk to adults. When you say this to me, you are patiently teaching me a new method.