In the late stage of pancreatic cancer, did mom sell the house to see a doctor? It's better to eat, drink and serve.

My mother lived in icu for more than three months, and the doctor asked me to take it back many times, saying that there was no way to save her. The doctor told me clearly that even if I was willing to spend money, I couldn't save her. I didn't give one in ten thousand hope.

It's no use looking for a doctor. The doctor said that people and money were empty in the end. Even in this case, I didn't let go. My mother's life is gone as soon as the ventilator is pulled out, and I can't bear it. ...

I know I can't save my mother's life. Even so, I begged the doctor not to pull out my mother's intubation. I am willing to spend money. If I can live one more day, there will be hope if I live. As long as I have breath, I won't let go.

I have used all the methods I can think of, praying to God to make a fool of me, looking up all kinds of medical materials, and begging people to believe me. Since I couldn't save my mother's life, I tried my best to keep her alive, that is, to spend money to keep her alive and stay in icu, thinking that my mother might have a turn for the better after her birth year.

This is really a miracle. Don't even think about it. Later, my mother successfully got off the line and was able to breathe on her own. Later, she pulled out the tube and drank porridge. Fortunately, all the efforts are worthwhile, but new problems have emerged. She stayed in the closed space of icu for a long time, and no one spoke to her. Maybe she saw it and heard it, because people die in icu almost every day, which may be shocking. Alzheimer's Harmo is sick, that is to say, nonsense, nonsense.

When I let her out of the hospital, my mother was really thin with only a layer of skin left, and sometimes she was confused when she was awake, which made you laugh and cry. On the way out of the hospital, she was very excited and kept talking. My mother is an educated person, so what she says sometimes kills people, but her speech is not normal.

At that time, I felt stupid. After such a big life and death, maybe she can't accept it herself. Perhaps stupidity is a kind of happiness.

On her first day home, she cried all night. In fact, she is very sleepy, but she will wake up after falling asleep for two or three minutes and shout, "Help, I'm dying, and they're coming for me."

My father and I took turns staying up late to comfort her. No, we're here to comfort her. To tell the truth, it is not pleasant to hear her cry for help.

After crying for two or three days, she gradually recovered, and after a few days, her brain gradually woke up, but at first, she was particularly bad-tempered, always losing her temper, and we all let her go.

I was discharged from the hospital in June 65438+1October 65438+April this year, and now it's more than four months since May 2 1. I thought I was paralyzed. I used to feed her three meals, give her medicine and change her diapers. Now she can brush her teeth, wash her face, eat, walk and help me call the baby. I didn't expect her to recover until now.

Now check it once every half month and take a lot of medicine every day. Because of heart and lung failure, respiratory failure, renal failure, internal organs and so on, it can't be compared with normal people, but now living like this still has a good quality of life.

A few months ago, my mother said that all her dreams were dead, and now there are basically no such dreams. Everything will develop in a better direction, and all the efforts and efforts are worthwhile. ...

You can earn money without it, and life is only once for everyone. At the door of icu, it can best reflect human nature. Some family members euphemistically said that they didn't want the patient to suffer too much and refused to intubate. To put it bluntly, they are just waiting for death. Let the doctor not do unnecessary rescue. What do you mean by unnecessary rescue? In fact, some patients can survive, but her family didn't give her a chance. The family has given up. Who can we count on?

That's why my friend's father left. The doctor said to give up treatment, eat and have fun, live for half a year, save money and worry! Cure for 3 months, people and money are empty!

A friend of mine is rich and takes good care of his body. He has a physical examination every year, but nothing is wrong with him. He once came back from drinking and complained that he had a stomachache and his face was not good. He was also in the advanced stage of pancreatic cancer when he was examined in the hospital. He immediately went to Beijing 30 1 Hospital to find the best doctor, had an operation, and died after returning to China for half a year. He had no money and suffered a lot, and finally left reluctantly. The other is my classmate, who lives a normal and honest life, doesn't drink or smoke, and usually has no serious illness, so he doesn't pay attention to his health. Usually he says his stomach hurts. He once went to the hospital seriously, and was diagnosed with terminal illness. He went home to discuss with his family that he didn't have surgery and didn't want to suffer. What's more, this disease is the king of cancer, and there is little hope for treatment, which costs money and suffers. Eat normally and recover well. My wife is very happy to accompany me to travel. For three years, I stayed at home for a year last year because of the epidemic, and I went out to travel this year, but my body was thin and my spirit was good. I want to forget it. I don't care where I go or where I die. My ashes are scattered on the way back. So this kind of cancer, the king of cancer, died in pain and disappointment after treatment and surgery. Forget it, be conservative, have a good attitude, and live one more day is also a victory. Death is something that everyone can't escape, just leaving early and leaving late. In the face of death, it is up to them to go on painfully and calmly.

I am also a cancer patient, and now I have moved. My own idea is that treatment or no treatment is acceptable. I don't want to be forced. I think getting sick is a matter of heart and body. Personally, I think cancer patients are more prone to heart problems. Do you really have to rely on others to decide your own life and death? I'm also confused. All I can think of now is that I didn't give my family any trouble when I was alive, and I don't want them to live in debt when I die. My wife must lend me money to see a doctor. I set a quota for him, which has little influence on his future. Within the limit, I received treatment. If it exceeds the quota, I will give up treatment. My husband is very sad. He said that I couldn't give up my life for money, and asked me to cherish my life. I don't know how to choose now. I feel that my situation is very negative, but I am not desperate. I think I can accept life and death

Two weeks ago, I received a friend who came from afar. He came to Shaanxi by car. He has been a friend for many years. He is a pancreatic cancer patient in his fifties. He didn't have an operation and even refused to take medicine. The couple resigned themselves to their fate and tried their best to find food, diet and maintenance. They actually persisted for nearly five years. There are not many wechat exchanges on weekdays. I saw you this time. Besides being tired from driving, I'm really in good spirits.

At that time, my father was admitted to ICU with complications. The doctor said to prepare 300 thousand first, and there is basically no possibility of cure. There have been four such treatments that month, which cost more than one million yuan at most, and stayed in the ICU for several months at most.

My mother cried and asked me to borrow money, because hundreds of thousands of treatments in the early stage had spent all my savings and added some debts. At that time, I couldn't even take out 1000 yuan on me. Several cousins said that if you decide to throw money, we will transfer it to you right away.

I was embarrassed. After that, my life behind me was basically ruined by half. What should the two children do in their future life and study? Moreover, 300,000 yuan is only a pre-treatment plan, and it is still necessary in the later stage, but as a son of man, I can't say "give up" ...

After a long time, my uncle took advantage of my absence and directly asked the doctor to take it home and sign it. Seven brothers and sisters are in charge of one thing together, and we can't let future generations bear heavy debts to save a life that cannot be saved at all.

In this way, I went out and came back without asking about the situation. People had already prepared to pull it back. After going back for a few days, my father insisted that I take the children back to my hometown to have a look, and unplug the pipe while everyone was not paying attention.

Looking back on my father's life, I worked hard and lived with my mother's super bad temper all my life. I am also an ordinary citizen at the bottom. I have been working in other provinces and tried my best to support a small family. Speaking of which, I haven't been filial for a few days.

In this case, it may be unpleasant to persuade you to give up, but the reality is that you still have a family to carry forward, and you can't give up the future of all family members for one family member. I know it's really hard to hear and make a decision, but this is the reality.

Your money is another matter.

My elder sister-in-law is an old professor at the Provincial Hospital of Traditional Chinese Medicine. At the age of 70, she was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and used contacts at home and abroad. She lay in the intensive care unit for three months before she died. Not counting reimbursement, she spent 1.20 W, which is the money my uncle sold the house downtown.

Sister-in-law is a college student in the 1960s, majoring in traditional Chinese medicine. After work, she works in a provincial hospital of traditional Chinese medicine. Because when I left home to study, I wore my sister's only pair of shoes. After work, I contracted all the expenses of my sister-in-law and her family.

Yes, my elder sister-in-law is a very grateful person and the pride of my parents. Because it is a minority surname, great-grandfather's cousins are closely related and United. As long as someone has three illnesses and two pains, they will ask their elder sister-in-law for advice and help.

My sister-in-law spared no effort to help her brothers and sisters in her hometown. Besides being extremely neat and difficult to get along with, she is really a good sister and elder.

In his 40 s, he became a professor, took graduate students, and served as a visiting professor in several Chinese medicine colleges. After work, I have been teaching in various medical schools all the year round, and I am full of peaches and plums. Of course, the economic conditions are also good.

Because of professional reasons, my elder sister pays great attention to aftercare. After retirement, she was rehired by the hospital, joined a group of donkey friends, and fell in love with mountaineering. The unit has a physical examination once a year until it is 69 years old. No three highs, no chronic diseases, and imperfect physical condition. Absolutely kill 95% of peers.

20/kloc-in the first half of August, menstruation and his old sister climbed Huangshan Mountain on foot and sent back travel photos, enviing a lot of relatives and friends. In the second half of the year, the unit physical examination found pancreatic cancer, and when it was found, cancer cells had invaded the liver.

After discovering the illness, my aunt discussed the illness with several colleagues at the first time. After several arguments, considering that I didn't have time to recuperate slowly, I chose to go to Shanghai Jinjin Hospital for treatment, and I also contacted foreign authorities. It is the most expensive and famous hospital. The authority flew in from America to attend a seminar, and also took time to attend the consultation of her elder sister-in-law. )

The authority of that hospital and a knife removed the elder sister-in-law, and her condition was slightly better after operation, and chemotherapy continued for some time. The expenses during this period, except the expenses of inviting foreign authorities, were reimbursed by the provincial hospital of traditional Chinese medicine, which my elder sister-in-law has been employed for most of her life, including all the expenses of imported drugs. Therefore, apart from living expenses, my uncle and cousin stayed in star-rated hotels during their stay in Shanghai, without any economic pressure.

After coming back, my aunt even went back to her hometown to sweep her parents' graves and chat with a group of brothers and sisters. There's nothing wrong with it except that it looks a little weak. The elder sister-in-law told the younger generation to study hard, told their peers to keep in good health, and taught many prescriptions for TCM conditioning.

About three months after the operation, my elder sister-in-law found that her jaundice was very serious. She went to the hospital for re-examination and found that the cancer recurred, metastasized to the liver and lungs, and completely spread. Sister-in-law's condition is actually a complication of pancreatic cancer, liver cancer and lung cancer, but it was first diagnosed by the pancreas, so it was named pancreatic cancer. What do you mean by "first visit"? They are the most difficult parts to treat. menstruation can only shake his head with a wry smile: They are all lives.

I didn't go to Shanghai this time, but I went directly to tongji hospital, the second ICU, and never came out again. Because the elder sister-in-law is an authority herself, she is involved in all the treatment programs and talks. Although she knew there was little hope, at that moment, survival was instinct, and it had nothing to do with knowledge and status.

My sister-in-law explained that everything can be sold, including the real estate where my sister-in-law and uncle live, except the wedding room where my cousin lives, if the economy is tight. (In addition to social security, the elder sister-in-law unit can no longer be reimbursed, because the elder sister-in-law is re-employed, and the previous one was only humane. )

My uncle is an ordinary teacher. Compared with my elder sister-in-law, his temper is more stable. My elder sister-in-law is always in charge at home, and she earns a lot of money. He respects her decision, although she may have some ideas in her heart.

Before I entered the ICU, my elder sister-in-law was not in a good state at all. Maybe her mind collapsed. The first week of chemotherapy had no positive effect, and the doctors were at a loss. But the identity and instructions of the elder sister-in-law are there, and no doctor dares to tell ordinary people that treatment is hopeless and go home.

After entering the ICU, various instruments such as ventilator, ECG monitoring, intravenous pump, infusion pump, artificial lung, blood filter and so on were used. Finally, when all organs fail, they rely on instruments to continue their lives.

My elder sister-in-law spent 80% of her time in ICU in a coma, which was related to the medicine she used and also to relieve her pain. A rare waking state has always been a strong demand for active treatment.

When we went to visit, my elder sister-in-law, who had been proud all her life, was lying in the closed ICU, full of tubes, many of whom were the first time to see her. For the convenience of operation and observation, Auntie's bare arms and body are unconscious, but tears can be seen on her eyes. (My mother and my second mother climbed the glass and saw it)

At that time, the daily cost was about 2W. In addition to instruments, the cost of imported drugs is high, and the reimbursement of medical insurance is very small. Every day is a few meters long list, which is given by the nurse to the uncle who is outside.

In order to raise money, my uncle obeyed my aunt's wishes and sold a small apartment in Hongshan Square at a price lower than the market price of 654.38 million. On the one hand, there was an urgent need for money, and on the other hand, there was no extra energy to care about the tens of thousands of hospitals.

Later, I was an old leader who worked with my elder sister-in-law for more than 30 years. My elder sister-in-law has always regarded him as a big brother. To convince my uncle to remove the pipe. There is no point in continuing. I can't see or touch him. It's just an obsession Uncle tearfully went to sign extubation.

Extubation in the morning, around 5 pm, my aunt went. Before her death, my aunt woke up briefly and learned that she had been extubated. She just said to her uncle with a wry smile: You did the right thing. You can't cure it. This is life. Forget it. I also thank her old leader for taking the initiative to be a "bad guy".

So, who said that when you are used to life and death, you can be indifferent and calm? To be or not to be is a choice. All family members need to do is respect their wishes.

Back to the subject's question: did you sell your house to see her in the late stage of pancreatic cancer? It's better to eat, drink and serve.

No one can answer this question. You should ask the patient what he wants.

My elder sister-in-law has good economic conditions and strong will to survive, so she chose active treatment. However, I still can't carry the disease. It was only half a year from diagnosis to death.

Although medically speaking, pancreatic cancer is known as the "king of cancer", the cure rate and 5-year survival rate are very low, but the data is just data and cold. Patients have to face a strong desire to survive, and their families have to face whether they will regret it, and whether their loved ones will have nightmares all day after they leave, Lacrimosa.

So, respect the patient's wishes:

1, if you want to actively treat, sell the iron preparation funds. Money is a thing outside the body. If it's gone, you can earn it again. It may not buy your parents a lot of time, or you may not buy the hope of recovery. However, doing so can make you confidently say after many years: I don't regret it, I tried my best;

2. If the patient despises life and death and doesn't want to intubate, he just wants to spend the rest of his life in the arms of his favorite person in the way he wants. Then, palliative care and symptomatic pain relief are also good choices. Good food, good drink and good service, it is best to take it out when you have the ability to act, which can effectively reduce the negative impact of cancer pain.

When parents are here, there is still a place to live. When parents are gone, there is only the way home. In the face of parents' illness, we should respect parents' wishes and put all material considerations last in order to make a choice without regrets.

(I'm not saying that when a close relative is terminally ill, it is necessary to blindly overtreatment. I have always stressed that we should respect the patient's own wishes. There is no denying that people's attitude towards cancer is becoming more and more rational now, but in real life, there are indeed many elderly people who are particularly "desperate for life", afraid of death and desperate to live, just like my elder sister-in-law, who has both status and social status and a strong desire to survive. In the face of such old people, their families and their descendants, can they harden their hearts and refuse treatment? I can't even pass my conscience. So, don't be stingy, don't pick words, and don't misinterpret my meaning. )

Just eat, drink and serve. There is no need to go to the hospital to spend money. It is understandable if you can spend money without losing money. The key is that the result of spending money in the late stage of pancreatic cancer is more painful!

Suggest eating and drinking and let the old lady do whatever she wants! My father-in-law suffers from this disease. At that time, he borrowed money to be filial and wanted to treat him. As a result, he was able to walk and eat before the operation. After the operation, he was admitted to ICU three times. I suffered everything before I died, leaving only a skeleton! Losing money is a trivial matter, but the old man is really bitter! In fact, it is much better to let the old man leave peacefully with as little pain as possible than to leave the hospital with a knife and needle! And the postoperative life expectancy is shortened, and my father-in-law is gone in just a few months!

It's really sad My father had this disease for a month, from diagnosis to death.

I chose not to let my father suffer. I didn't even have a puncture. CT and Ca 199 have explained everything. It's not that I'm cruel, but this Ca is too dangerous. Any treatment is futile, not to mention multiple systemic metastases.

Although emotionally painful, I can't sleep all night, cry all night, and watch my life lose a little, but I can't do anything. Only those who have experienced that kind of pain can understand.

However, the onset of this kind of Ca is too hidden. Even if it is discovered early, losing everything may not be redeemed.

I am a medical student. I only hate that I care too little about my father, and even my father's wish to travel to Beijing has not come true. I also hate my lack of knowledge. I didn't find it earlier, at least I can let my father not regret it.

So while life is still alive, try to make your loved ones eat and have fun.