Want to know about the customs of Tongchuan, Shaanxi before marriage?

Agree to get married through a matchmaker. When meeting, the man should simply entertain, and the main relatives of both parties should attend and participate in the comments. After the conversation, the two people should give each other gifts, usually the man gives the woman a suit, and the woman gives the man a lighter gift. If the other party accepts the gift, it means that it agrees, otherwise it means that it is not desirable (viewing the house). It is a custom for the woman to go to the man's house to see their living environment accompanied by her main relatives. When looking at the house, the man should hold a decent banquet and give the woman a heavier gift than when they met, at least a good dress to reassure her relatives. (Having an engagement party) This is the most important part of engagement, mainly to recognize the son-in-law and daughter-in-law. The man gives the woman a certain amount of bride price, and the etiquette of bride price is the "levy" in the "six gifts". Because it is the most important relative of both sides, the number is relatively small, so the man usually orders two or three tables of rice in the county seat to entertain the relatives of the woman. After engagement, both men and women should be bound by social ethics, and don't abandon marriage easily. Of course, the relatives of the woman should also give gifts to the new son-in-law, but it will be much lighter. (Pulling clothes) After the engagement party, the man and his parents, the matchmaker, the woman and her parents will go to the streets to pull clothes for the woman and buy clothes, usually four clothes. The next step is to choose an auspicious day, which is called "inviting day" in the "Six Rites", that is, choose an auspicious day to get married and the man will get married. After the matchmaker persuaded the woman, he asked someone to count it as an auspicious day. Finally, marriage, also known as marriage, is the "kiss" in the "six rites" and the most grand, lively and complicated link in the whole marriage custom. (preparing for the wedding) decorating the new house; Please ask the deacon, that is, the person who presided over the wedding; Please write a gift pen, that is, Mr. Li was asked to write a wedding couplet the day before. If there is a gate or hole, write a gift list on the wedding day; Invite guests, that is, five or six so-called lucky married people who are about the same age as the groom, have a good relationship and have good family conditions. The task is to accompany the groom to the woman's house to pick up the bride, and the woman's house should invite an escort; Ask a chef; Asking for township service is to help in the village; Please turtle, that is, the folk band; Rent fluctuations and so on. (Wedding) First of all, the groom, accompanied by Bing Xiang, took a caravan to pick up the bride in the early morning. Cars and buses in strange clothes slipped away in a row. As soon as the car enters the village where the bride lives, firecrackers will explode. The children in the village ran after the float and kept shouting, "Here comes the groom! The groom is here! " By this time, the bride was dressed up and sitting on the kang, waiting for the groom's official to marry her. As soon as the groom got off the bus, he gave meat, snacks, wine, cigarettes, lotus roots and so on. To his parents-in-law. In addition to the guests, there is also a "chicken catcher" who is carrying a chicken with HongLing tied around his neck. It is said to bring back the soul of the bride. After the groom and others entered the woman's house, they began to eat and enter the banquet. At the banquet, the bride will show her elders wine, of course, there will be red envelopes, and the aunt will give the groom a red coat. It's almost time to eat, and the women who send flowers will blush the groom's face. It is really easier said than done. A group of women rushed to the groom's side and couldn't wipe it, because a group of guests were blocked by the groom. Women's gossip is not as strong as men's, but today is different. Anyway, the groom will put some red on his face. Even if you don't wipe it at the beginning, it should be auspicious to let people wipe it at the end. That's enough. The guests need to move furniture, which is the bride's dowry. The furniture is already on the bus, just waiting for the groom to get on the bus with the bride in his arms. If the groom wants to get on the bus with the bride, he has to give his mother-in-law 800 to 1000 yuan. He finally got on the bus, but the bride didn't wear shoes yet. My aunt will help everyone wear one, but a shoe costs 50 yuan. Now that the bride has finally received it, the float can be driven away. But sometimes people in the village will draw a red line in the middle of the road to show that they like candy. When the bride's sedan chair arrives at the man's door, the sound of gongs, drums, firecrackers and bands will shake the world. The bystanders are also nearby. "Grandma" (the groom's father) and handsome "Grandpa" (the groom's mother) will dance yangko to meet their daughter-in-law at the village entrance. Today, I deliberately dressed up as a villain and made a lot of noise. When the car arrived at the man's house, "Grandpa" held a torch tied with hay and turned around the car three times. One is to flush the evil spirits on the road, and the other is to show that the righteous are in high spirits and continue the fireworks. There are people sprinkling walnuts and dates on the side. At this time, the groom bows to the sedan chair door, but the bride just won't get off the sedan chair. The bride twisted repeatedly, and finally she could not compete with the hard work of the strong man. However, the bride also has footprints when she gets off the sedan chair. A foot and a hundred dollars will be dragged to the gate by the groom with his face. The guest has crowded into a pool at the door, so he won't be allowed in without a handkerchief. The woman's family always gives a lot of handkerchiefs, and she will sweat, so the bride is rushed in by the groom. When there are many people at the door, the groom will always hold the bride to avoid the bride's feet touching the ground. It seems that this groom is not so good either. When the gate is crowded, it is much easier to enter the cave entrance. The relatives of the woman's family began to eat breakfast, and when they ate, they had to hang a curtain for the new house. Give the bride a dish after dinner, usually a dress and a necklace, and the rest of the needles, handkerchiefs, cups, bags, etc. It's all for women, and the rest of the buns should be pressed into the bed. The groom's parents have to wait for the rest home, which is where the woman's relatives rest and take wine, dried fruit and fruit to see the bride.