How to socialize and speak skills

As a leader, you not only hold a superior position, but also need to master more skills than others in daily life and work. Senior leaders interact with many people on a daily basis. At this time, it is necessary to ensure that one's language is generous and appropriate while also convincing others. This is a skill. Next, let’s take a look at what are the speaking skills when socializing?

Speaking skills in workplace entertainment

First, be reserved.

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When socializing, using implicit language is the most common way. It is not as superficial as speaking directly. An implicit language can make both parties understand each other and feel happy through laughter.

2 When the writer Feng Saocai visited the United States, an American friend took his son to his apartment to see him. While they were talking, the child, who was as strong as a calf, climbed up on the bed and jumped around. If you directly ask him to come down, it will inevitably make the father of the child feel apologetic and appear that he is not enthusiastic enough. So Feng Dian4' said something subtle: "Please ask your son to come back to the earth." The friend said: "Okay, I will discuss it with him." The result not only achieved the goal, but also seemed very interesting. .

Second, overtly belittle and covertly praise.

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One day, a rich man congratulated his mother on her birthday. Tang Bohu, a talented man from the south of the Yangtze River, was specially invited to draw and write poems.

The tiger swiped his pen and instantly painted a picture of "Strengthening Peach and Offering Longevity".

Then he wrote another sentence and read it loudly:

"This old woman is not a human being."

As soon as this sentence came out, everyone in the room was shocked. Everyone was shocked. The rich man and his children were also very angry.

When I was not busy, I wrote a second sentence and continued to read loudly:

"The Nine Heavens Fairy descended to the mortal world."

This time, The rich man and his children turned from anger to joy, and the four guests were all full of praise. Tang Bohu wrote a third sentence:

"All the children and grandchildren are thieves."

This once again shocked everyone, and the rich man’s family was also furious. They were about to have a fit when Tang Bohu's fourth sentence came out again:

"Stealing wax peaches to offer to the birthday star."

These four sentences formed a poem, and everyone was amazed. Unexpectedly, the rich man and his family were very happy.

Tang Bohu’s four-line poem tells the truth. The irony is correct, one positive and one negative, every sentence is catchy, and it also makes the guests and the rich man's family shocked, happy, angry, and happy for a while, which produces excellent results.

Third, adapt to changing circumstances.

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People who can use the art of speaking flexibly and know how to adapt to changes can resolve embarrassing situations.

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There was a man who was very annoyed by his wife’s friend who often came to the house and started nagging her. One day this man came again, and the husband took refuge upstairs. A few hours later, he shouted loudly from upstairs: "Hey, has that gossipy woman gone?" The wife was startled, and the husband Why are you so reckless? Just when I didn't know what to do, I suddenly had an idea and said loudly: "That woman with a long tongue has left long ago, and Mrs. Lin is here now."

Fourth, clever questions.

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In socializing, it is sometimes inevitable to make mistakes in front of everyone. In this case, you can use interrogative sentences to end the embarrassment. Actively make up for mistakes and maintain one's own image.

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That year, US President Richard Nixon visited the Soviet Union. Once at a Soviet airport, the plane was preparing to take off when an engine suddenly failed. Brezhnev, General Secretary of the Central Committee of the Soviet Union, who saw him off at that time, was very anxious and annoyed. It is very embarrassing for such a thing to happen in front of foreign political dignitaries. He had an idea, pointed to the civil aviation captain standing aside and asked President Nixon: "How should I punish him?"

Brezhnev's question can not only temporarily relieve his embarrassment, but also equal to giving him a President Nixon posed a moderately difficult problem. If Nixon didn't answer it cleverly, the Soviets could take the opportunity to make him look embarrassed.

"Promote him," President Nixon said easily, "because it's better to have a malfunction on the ground than in the air*" As soon as Nixon said this, everyone laughed.

Fifth, communicate in a pleasant tone.

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In social interactions, you should always say the following sentence patterns: "I'm glad to see you...", "I'm glad you said..." in the sentence "Happy" emphasizes your feelings and ensures correct communication.

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Once you start a perceptual conversation, if you want to make your facial expressions and gestures more humane, you must actively adjust your movements and expressions to synchronize with the perceptual conversation. , your tone should be firm and confident, your eyes should be squarely on the person speaking to you; your body should be relaxed, and supplemented by a lot of gestures. Excited emotional expression will make you feel good, because emotional expression and stimulation enhance the excitement function of the brain, making you a more energetic person. At the same time, it also suppresses the anxiety concentrated in the brain, making you less anxious; after the anxiety is reduced, you can express your feelings more perfectly.

Sixth, choose a good topic.

There are many topics that can be discussed during socializing, such as one's own experiences, memories of past lives, news and anecdotes from daily newspapers, magazines, radio, and television can all be used as conversation content. When talking about u; pay attention to each other's attitudes towards the same topic and the need to coordinate the content of the conversation. You should talk less about topics that you are interested in but the other person is not interested in. For example, if you talk about popular songs to an old man, your interest may soon become dull.

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In addition, topics that the other party is interested in but you are not interested in depend on different situations. If the other party is a superior, a customer, etc., you must learn to be patient and accommodating and change the subject. Or you can use the topic to change the topic unintentionally during the break in the conversation. If the conversation is of interest to both parties, you should be careful not to get off topic easily so that you can enjoy the conversation.