Mei Mei died on foot in Tibet: poetry and distance are not as important as it.

Nowadays, the speed of social development is increasing day by day, and people's lives are full of various elements closely related to economic life: every day, we should think about how our work goes smoothly, how to maintain the relationship between family and relatives, and how to develop our future life. ......

So many people's lives have become very stylized and even very boring. So in such a big environment, there will always be some people who "escape" from the stereotyped life, go to nature and pursue themselves on the journey.

Especially in recent years, with the development of some tourist areas, more and more people travel to distant places.

Among many routes, the most popular is the Sichuan-Tibet route, which is far from most provinces and can achieve the purpose of "traveling far"; On the one hand, the Qinghai-Tibet Plateau has a high altitude, which makes people feel closer and purer to the sky. Secondly, the local popular Tibetan Buddhism makes people feel very religious.

Among these travelers, some are from road trip. They ride bicycles or even walk. We know that if you want to go thousands of kilometers away, you will still face many dangers when driving, let alone walking.

Therefore, in recent years, the number of cases of unfortunate deaths on the Qinghai-Tibet line has gradually increased.

For example, the girl who died in Hoh Xil last year and the "adventure king" who disappeared in the Qinghai-Tibet Plateau, these tragic cases seem to have another tragedy on the journey just yesterday, 202 1 August 21day. Mei Mei, a girl from Henan Province, died in a car accident on the Qinghai-Tibet Line.

This has caused a heated discussion among many netizens: Why are some people obsessed with traveling to Sichuan and Tibet on their own? Is the so-called "distant place" so beautiful compared with your life?

The girl left her hometown in Henan for Tibet in May this year. During the trip, in addition to my own strength, there is also a "RV" modified from a non-motor vehicle and driven by my own manpower. But just three months away from home, it's unfortunate.

Unfortunately, according to the clues provided by the local police, Mei Mei suffered misfortune precisely because this "RV" was out of control and crushed to death on the ramp.

Unfortunately, the travel helper who relied on it eventually became a murderer who took his own life.

Mei Mei's unfortunate experience tells us a truth: Even if you want to travel far or do other things, you should do what you can.

In the frequent cases before, many people concerned said that this kind of non-motor vehicle modified car must not be used, because there will always be unexpected road information and unexpected situations on the distant roads.

Therefore, when we really want to take some "escape" trips, we should make full plans, or use modern means of transportation, or drive some RVs and off-road vehicles. Only in this way can we ensure our own safety.

In addition to some points that should be paid attention to from a realistic point of view, we should also think about whether we really need this trip. If it's just because you envy others or "follow the fashion", it's actually unnecessary.

In fact, about these unfortunate accidents, the focus of netizens' discussion is also such a contradiction: life is very tired, and a lot of time and energy are invested every day, and it is true, "fists and fists add up"; The so-called "ideal" will often give people an unrealistic sustenance and make people have infinite reverie about things that have not happened.

For a simple example, for many young people who are restricted by the "996" work system, life is doing jobs that they are not good at every day and coping with the same life. In fact, don't they also have their own ideals hidden in their hearts?

Maybe programmers who struggle with code words want to be pilots; The boy who works as a clerk wants to be a professional football player. The girl who is engaged in human resources career dreams of becoming a fashion designer. ......

I believe that everyone has ideals, and the role of these ideals is to cheer themselves up and regain their enthusiasm for life when they are confused; When you are overwhelmed by work, it may be more powerful to think about your original ideal.

Even if the ideal is illusory and temporarily far away from yourself, as long as it exists, then you can find some comfort in your busy life. This is the meaning of ideal existence and real life.

However, as a pragmatic person, we always seek a balance between ideal and reality. As sigmund freud said, individual experience has three different levels: ego (completely subconscious), id (mostly conscious) and superego (partially conscious).

Living in an ideal, we are relatively unrealistic, but we can motivate ourselves in reality; The real self is the most practical because people's lives are practical. Unless absolute economic independence can be achieved, everyone has to rush about for his own life every day, which is determined by the objective laws of society.

However, for many people, it is not unrealistic to make a dream come true. How can I find my true self and catch up with my "ideal self" in the real life that I have to work hard?

In fact, there is no other way, that is, to make time in real life, improve your quality of life or related skills, and then live the life you want.

For example, Xiao Zhang, who always wanted to improve his education, had to stay in a company to make a living. His ideal life is to enter the university and continue the historical research he is interested in. Therefore, Xiao Zhang sacrificed a lot of leisure time after work. For a whole year, he hardly had any rest time. When he returns to the rented apartment, he will take out relevant materials, concentrate on reading, write papers and be hired by core journals.

In the end, he passed the application for doctoral examination, successfully returned to the life of academic research and continued his ideal.

It is good to have ideals, but it is irrational to pursue them blindly. What we should do more is to be more handy in the present life, and then we can make time for ourselves to pursue our ideals.

The ideal is to be pursued, but we can't give up our present life. Physiologically speaking, life is a necessary way to continue oneself; On the other hand, we must maintain real life.