How should teenagers view the strict education of their parents?

How should teenagers treat their parents' strict education? Children's disobedience to their parents is largely due to their education, and there is not enough communication between parents and children. When children and parents have conflicting opinions, they can argue and argue, but in the end, they must convince others by reasoning, and whoever is right will listen to them, not who is old. We often argue about their views at home, but I have never been rebellious towards my parents. You are angry with your parents because you are too young and have no social experience. Every parent is full of wisdom! Maybe you think they can't understand your thoughts, then you can chat with them, that is, talk about their childhood, and then they will understand your thoughts better! They have worked hard to raise you, hoping that your son will become a dragon and your daughter will become a wind. You are sensible, but you are still a child in the eyes of your parents. Although they sometimes nag, you should listen calmly and don't contradict them. They are experienced and don't want you to experience too many setbacks, so they are strict with you. This is the nature of all parents in the world. But I don't quite agree that everything parents do for their children will seriously affect their mentality and mental health. Adolescent boys and girls, no matter how good and obedient, will have some doubts about their parents' words. First of all, I think parents should also consider their children's ideas and reach an agreement when considering their children's future. This will not only make children doubt their parents, but will make them trust their parents more. As parents, we should communicate with our children more and talk about our own ideas. So are the children.

How should teenagers treat Lu Xun? I think we should only regard Lu Xun as a great scholar in the old society. His article is out of date, and its meaning is too hidden, which was forced by political and cultural reasons at that time. The culture and ideas we need now are accurate, clear and simple, which is why modern people want to explore hidden culture.

Here is an article.

I am twenty years old this year. If Lu Xun were still alive, he would be one hundred and twenty years old. At the beginning of my life, Lu Xun and I seemed to have some connection. My great grandfather was a man who went to Shanghai from an island in Zhejiang to catch up with the world. So Lu Xun and I are also fellow villagers. But all this is not the reason why I miss Kan Kan Luxun today. Just like this year, 200 1 is the 654 38+020 anniversary of Lu Xun's birth this year, which cannot be the reason for me to talk about Lu Xun here.

Lu Xun once wrote in his will

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Second, quickly converge, bury and pull down.

Third, don't do commemorative things.

Fourth, forget me and mind your own life-if not, that's the real idiot.

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Today, Lu Xun's will is really unlucky. Look at the overwhelming radio, television, newspapers and magazines, and constantly quote this will in the special topic of commemorating Lu Xun. Its embarrassment really corresponds to the name of a novel by Milan Kundera, The Will to Be Betrayed. Fortunately, Lu Xun left himself a little happiness of calling those fools fools fools.

Anyone who has read Lu Xun's essays should know that Lu Xun is very abusive. And Lu Xun is the kind of person who takes pleasure in calling stupid pigs stupid, although those pigs are often as stupid as Stalin in Orwell's Animal Farm!

Of course, there is another explanation for this will of Lu Xun. That Lu Xun himself is hypocritical. He knew long ago that after his death, he could never "converge, bury and forget." On the contrary, anyone who can touch the magnet with him must not let him go. His emaciated and shriveled body is doomed to be drowned by the vanity flag that says "soul of china".

In view of the fact that one year before Lu Xun's death, he wrote a letter to the Chinese Red Army of Workers and Peasants who had just arrived in Yan 'an through the American female journalist Smedley, which wrote: "The future of mankind and China depends on you." Telegram. At the same time, a Lu Xun held the salary of the Kuomintang until his death. In addition, together with the payment for the best-selling books written by Lu Xun himself, Lu Xun is definitely a high-level cultural white-collar worker today.

In this way, at the level of "the most sinister speculation about China people", the above assumption cannot be said to be completely unfounded.

However, no matter what Lu Xun wanted when he made this will. But that doesn't mean anything.

In any case, it is indisputable that Lu Xun is a great man in the cultural history of China. Let's see how many people behind Lu Xun made a fortune by eating Lu Xun, a dead man. It is not difficult to imagine the greatness of Lu Xun.

Remember, Mr. Lu Xun once compared China to a big dining table. It is said that the people above are eating, eating, eating or eating people. For example, Lu Xun is a monster in China. Moreover, considering that Lu Xun was no longer a vigorous seafood since 1936, he said that he could keep the people of China from 450 million to1500 million eating, eating and eating until today. Not only did I not finish eating, but I was tired of eating. On the contrary, I can eat with the times, full of weather, majestic and healthy atmosphere. I have been eating for decades, and I have been eating new ideas, new styles and new levels. Of course, China people can eat "people", which can be said to be a wonderful flower in the forest of the world, with a 5,000-year uninterrupted historical tradition.

But Lu Xun's greatness can also be seen from it. If we admit that Jesus, who bears the cross for mankind, is a great man, how can Mr. Lu Xun, who was eaten by the people of China after his death and is still loved today, not be a great man?

Let's cry in memory of Lu Xun and the greedy Harazi at all the gatherings commemorating Lu Xun's birthday from 65438 to 020 ~

Thank you, Lu Xun. You are a model of China people. Not only did I complete myself, satisfied my life and despised the world, but I also smiled at a bunch of people who ate you, making them look at you happily and scold them!

Come on, let me eat you here too!

Lu Xun! The people of China are with you.

200 1/9/22

Hu

It is about the style when I was fascinated by Lu Xun's essays in high school. I hope I can help you!

How should we teenagers treat love? I'm glad to answer your question. Love is feeling with your heart. Love is a responsibility, a responsibility between two people, an unavoidable responsibility, and a responsibility that men must face and bravely bear. If a man really has love, he should be brave and strong to bear the responsibility that a man should bear, because I also want to protect a man when he is in love. Men accept her, not only her good, but also her bad. Don't give up that hard-won love just because of her bad words. If he has true love, he should know how to cherish it, so that he will regret it all his life. If you love her, you must tolerate her and everything. Let love fill the whole world! Don't let things that shouldn't appear in this beautiful world fill my space with hers, let those beautiful things stay between you and me forever, and let us live in the ocean of love. Love and being loved should be happy, but not all love is the same. There are often cases of deliberate falling flowers and ruthless running water. When you are in love with each other, he is lukewarm to you and has a pair of hands waiting for you to turn around and hold hands. At this time, do you stick to your choice or give people around you a chance? To love or be loved, some people think that if you can spend a lifetime with the person you love the most, it is the happiest thing. But if the person you love the most marries you not because of loving you, but because of gratitude or other factors. Every day you treat him like fire, but he is as plain as water. Is this life still a kind of happiness? Between men and women, the most basic thing is to have a good impression on each other, so that further development is possible. Everyone has his own responsibility. If you choose someone who loves you, you must learn to love him. I have always believed that the feelings between people can be cultivated, depending on whether you are willing to try. It is natural that you will get someone's love. Love is equal. If you get it, you must learn to give it. I remember reading an article that people will meet three people in their life, one is the one you love, the other is the one who loves you, and the other is the one who spends the rest of your life with you. We have been looking for the true meaning of love all our lives. We have been playing the game of chasing love, and we will experience being missed, and then we will gradually understand that love is just a feeling. The person who suits us best is not necessarily the person we love most. The person I love most is probably the one who hurts me the most. Love is tolerance, not indulgence. Love is caring, not conniving. Love is blending with each other, not unrequited love. Love has a hundred flavors, but not all of them are sweet ... True love is not necessarily a perfect match in the eyes of others, but the harmony between people who love each other is to make each other live better and contribute silently. This love not only warms oneself, but also warms those secular hearts. True love is to cherish true love when you can, and let go when you can't, because letting go is everything ... Please love when you cherish it, and bless when you let go ... Don't regret it after you love it, don't forget it, don't care how much she hurt you, as long as you always love her in your heart. Try to turn this love into your blessing to her. Put your love into someone who knows how to cherish you and really deserves your love. When you find that you have fallen in love with another person, you will unconsciously forget the original person. Sometimes, the more you deliberately want to forget something, the more impressive you are. Finally, love breeds bitterness. Love and bitterness are intertwined, which makes you forget and hurts others. Try to look at it with a normal heart. You decide for yourself how much time you need to face yourself again. No one can help you. True love is a kind of heartfelt care and care. Without flowery rhetoric and grandstanding, you can only feel it in words and deeds. So plain and so firm. On the contrary, oaths and promises explain its uncertainty. Never believe sweet words. Feel with your heart

How should teenagers treat this temptation? She asks you for your name by your side. If you don't give anything to others, how can they go with you? What should she say when asked?

How should contemporary teenagers view learning? Many people think that studying means studying at school and going home to write homework exams, but I think this concept is actually wrong. Learning is a process in which everyone explores the unknown, including academic knowledge and interpersonal communication. We should never stop studying.

Of course, the most important thing for teenagers to learn is to ask questions at school. What do you think of study? Win honor for your parents? Or find a good job in the future? Meet the teacher's expectations? Or just buy enough to eat? No matter what the reason, there is no right or wrong, just look at personal pursuit. But in my opinion, learning in school is not all about actually applying knowledge itself, but teaching people how to "learn" how to know the world. The best students in Qian Qian are actually people with strong learning ability. They often not only study well, but also cultivate perseverance, patience, confidence and courage in their studies. This is the so-called pillar talents, not determined by their actual knowledge of professional textbooks.

So as a teenager, you know that reading is not the only way out, but reading is for your future, and you have the right to choose, not to make a living. Believe me, study hard and stick to it until you are old, and you will find its value.

It's written very seriously, I hope it will be adopted ~

How should we teenagers view curiosity 1? It is normal for teenagers to be curious, so don't deliberately suppress it.

The curiosity of teenagers may make them learn and promote their growth.

3. If some curiosity becomes an unhealthy hobby, which has an impact on body and mind, we must know how to overcome it.

Try to focus your curiosity on what is beneficial to your physical and mental health and growth.

How to educate teenagers? Ten suggestions from American excellent teachers to parents in China:

First, praise children as much as possible. Children will be willing to learn only when they have a certain degree of self-confidence. Let children feel that they have made progress in their studies every day, even if they have corrected a shortcoming.

Second, pay more attention to children's learning content and actual progress. Parents should ask their children more about what they have learned recently and how they have mastered it.

Third, often set a few small goals for children that are easy to achieve. This can make the child feel that he can do it, and the child is confident, which is conducive to the child's potential.

Fourth, * * * children's desire to learn. We should seize every opportunity in life to let children practice.

Fifth, help children build a sense of responsibility. Let children learn to wash dishes, wipe handkerchiefs, make beds and tableware, and do their duty well.

Sixth, set an example in front of children.

7. Try not to talk about teachers in front of children, especially not to belittle teachers in front of children.

Eight, formulate family study rules and implement them from beginning to end, thus forming good study habits and work and rest habits.

Nine, guide children to be good at asking questions. Cultivate children and ask why.

Ten, let children pay attention to school, try to avoid the absence of children.

How to cultivate a spiritual child;

First, the education model, "let the top students" become "problem students" with such a girl. When she was in primary school, the teacher gave lectures above and she played below. For this reason, she doesn't know how many times she has been kicked out of the classroom by the teacher. But she was very good, and the teacher kicked her out of the classroom. She happened to watch the ants fight.

Someone asked her why she didn't attend the class. She said, "Well, the teacher said that I can understand some things as soon as I read a book, and I can listen to some things in class, but what about the teacher? It's annoying to talk and practice over and over again! " She was considered a problem student by the teacher at that time.

But it is this problem that students graduated from Beijing No.8 Middle School with excellent results and went to the United States to study undergraduate courses. One year later, they stood out because of their excellent results. Ranked among the best in a chemistry competition in the United States. After graduating from college, seven or eight famous universities sent invitations. Finally, she chose MIT as a graduate student.

This example reflects the disadvantages of traditional education in schools at present. Traditional education is a model education to a great extent. They ignore children's personality differences, set unified goals for students, use the same textbooks, do the same exercises, require the same pace, and use the same test papers. This will inevitably lead to top students not having enough to eat. Forcing children to speak and practice again and again will only make them feel uncomfortable, produce weariness, make their curiosity and initiative to learn disappear, and lose their original spirituality. It is good to cultivate a learning machine with high scores and low energy.

The girl was lucky enough to enter the junior class of Beijing No.8 Middle School, which is famous for being good at cultivating children with extraordinary intelligence. The relaxed learning environment can give full play to children's character strengths and make this problem student become an excellent student.

Second, relax the environment and give full play to children's personality advantages.

There is another boy in Beijing No.8 Middle School who didn't like doing homework in primary school. His reason is: "Homework is just for us to practice. I see, why do you still do it? " Her mother went to consult the teacher first, and the teacher didn't agree that the child could stop doing it when he was ready. Later, my mother imitated my son's calligraphy and helped him with his homework every day. Mother thinks that repetitive work will stifle children's creativity. It is said that it is this child who makes the teacher in the child's class set a "rule": children who pass the teacher's exam can not do their homework.

More interestingly, this boy has a little cousin who was as clever as him when he was a child. In the past, my younger brothers had more ways to see who climbed the wall, and the result was neck and neck. But my cousin often writes a wrong word in his homework and is fined 100 times. Later, his energy was confiscated by this punishment.

The more exercise, the better. The sea tactics may make children get high scores in a short time, but it will increase their burden. Children's homework should aim at mastering knowledge and review appropriately to deepen their impressions. Because the homework assigned by the school is based on most students, children can be allowed not to do homework on the premise that they have mastered the knowledge. Don't force children to do those simple and repetitive questions, which will wear away their learning advantages as defects and lead them to be tired of learning. Doing fewer questions can make children focus on developing their learning ability, and their stamina will be great. To do this, we must have a peaceful attitude and don't look at the score very uniquely.

Third, expectations are too high, which makes children miserable.

Yang Yang's grades are average, but parents are eager for their children to be admitted to famous schools. This school ranks among the best in all primary schools, with more than 95% students entering key high schools every year. In the third year, Yang Yang took the penultimate place in the whole school, but failed to get into the ideal high school, and stayed to repeat.

In the case of Yang Yang, one can imagine his situation at school. Entering key schools or key classes can enjoy high-quality teaching resources. Although it has its advantages, it is easy for children to lose confidence if they are kept in that kind of learning environment with a big gap for a long time. If a child like Yang Yang went to an ordinary middle school, he wouldn't have this kind of trouble.

There is a person whose screen name is painstaking. He said: "After entering middle school, children do their homework every day until around 22: 30 or 23: 00 in the evening, and they still can't finish their homework after spending all their weekends. It often happens that the words in the last class are not remembered and the previous math content is not mastered. Doing it too late every night is exhausting, and it also affects the digestion of new lessons. " I said, "If he really can't finish his homework, then contact the teacher for a while, do less questions and concentrate on really understanding the questions." Others advised him to leave school. But he felt that this showed that he had failed, which was hard for him to accept.

Some parents expect their children and their daughters to succeed. They are unwilling to face up to the gap between children and expect too much from them, which can only make them exhausted. It is necessary to set learning goals according to the actual situation of children and let them jump up and pick peaches. Children like this netizen should aim at mastering basic concepts, and let them do relatively simple topics first, such as class A topics in exercise books, and the number can be less, so as to truly understand the topics. In fact, the basic concepts are reflected in type A questions. The key to doing the problem lies in understanding, not in more. Basic concept questions occupy considerable weight in the exam. Only in this way can children move forward step by step.

Fourth, make the best use of the situation and let children enjoy learning.

Every child is an independent individual. Because of their growing environment and their own reasons, they not only have different levels, but also have different learning styles, which requires us to have flexible educational wit and guide them according to the situation. In this way, children will be in a happy state of mind and regard learning as a kind of enjoyment, thus improving learning efficiency.

Allow children to choose the learning style that suits them. For example, some students like to strengthen their knowledge through discussion, while others like to think quietly and alone. For the former, we should try our best to create an atmosphere of discussion, while for the latter, we should provide them with a quiet learning environment. Other children like to help them remember English words by word formation, while some students are good at increasing their vocabulary by reading. For the former, we can provide children with books about word formation, while for the latter, we must provide some interesting English reading materials at the same level. Some children like to extract, and some children are used to reading their favorite articles repeatedly, which can improve their writing level. Therefore, there is no need to ask children to extract the latter, and providing some corresponding extracurricular books for children to read can also achieve the purpose of learning.

It is necessary to master the psychological characteristics of children, find the right starting point, and guide them according to their hobbies. If some people like idolization, you can explain to them how stars are successful, thus stimulating children's positive and enterprising heart; For children with strong personality and self-control, they can make their own relevant regulations, so that children can feel respected and consciously abide by them; For children who are relatively weak in self-control, but like to "wear a top hat" and are more obedient, they can be properly supervised by combining praise and punishment, so that children can develop good habits.

Five, teaching students in accordance with their aptitude, every child can become a talent.

Otto, Nobel Prize winner in chemistry? When wallach was in middle school, his parents chose a literary path for him. At the end of a semester, the teacher gave him a comment: "Otto? Wallach works hard, but he is too rigid. Even if such a person is perfect in morality, he will never be able to play in literature. " Therefore, parents have to respect their son's interest and let him learn oil painting instead. However, wallach is neither good at composition nor polishing, and his understanding of art is not keen. His grade is the lowest in the class, and his comment is: "What a pity: your artistic quality of painting is disappointing, and I am afraid it will be difficult to achieve anything in the future." Faced with such a "clumsy" student, everyone thought he was hopeless, but the chemistry teacher found that he was meticulous and patient and had the quality to do chemical experiments well, so he suggested that he change to chemistry. After wallach switched to chemistry, his potential was activated and he finally won the Nobel Prize in chemistry.

Robin, a successful expert, once said, "Everyone has a special talent. That talent is like a sleeping giant, waiting for us to wake him up. " Every child has his own bright spot. As parents, we should have a clear understanding of children, understand their advantages and disadvantages, tap their potential, teach students in accordance with their aptitude, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and each child can become a useful person.

A good parent wants to create a bright future for his children. Spring reminds us of the following points:

One: treat children as equal members of the family, respect their personality and dignity, and let them think independently and choose freely. Letting children choose freely does not mean that parents do nothing. Parents can guide and help with analysis, and the final choice is in the hands of children. If the child makes a mistake, she will take responsibility for it herself. Once she realizes that she is wrong, she can correct it quickly. If you help her make a choice, even if she is right, she may not do well; If she is wrong, she will resent you, because the responsibility lies with you.

Two: Listen carefully and patiently to the children's opinions. If you want to be friends with children, you can't "talk at home". Parents are in charge. Especially when it comes to children, parents must discuss with their children and listen to their opinions. They should accept the correct opinions and explain the wrong ones. When parents decide to do something at home, they should also ask their children's opinions, which is conducive to the healthy growth of children, and children will feel that they are equal members of the family, and they will actively consider the family in the future, on the other hand, it is also conducive to the completion of things.

Third, try to understand children, go deep into their inner world, understand their wishes, respect their choices and support their legitimate demands. At the same time, we should also open our hearts to children, let them know their parents' thoughts, feel their parents' joys and sorrows, and strive for their trust and understanding. This can not only help parents truly become friends with their children, but also help parents better guide their children to grow up.

Fourth, in the success of children's growth, we should use practical and reasonable methods. Don't make comments and instructions on children's behavior easily, but try to guide children to think. We should pay more attention to children's thoughts and behaviors. We should communicate and understand each other through talks and consultations, and finally get a fair and reasonable answer.

Five: Being a child's friend does not mean giving up the principle and accommodating the child's mistakes. We emphasize children's freedom to develop hobbies, but we don't let them go. We should grasp certain standards and set strict requirements. If the child is really wrong, he can't make any concessions. He must point it out carefully and make corresponding explanations to avoid repeating it next time. If you are wrong, dare to admit it to your child. We should set an example for our children with our words, deeds and styles, and guide them to form a good personality.

Six: Take the initiative to communicate with children. The purpose of communicating with children is to enhance mutual understanding. Clarify your views and requirements to your children and let them understand what their parents mean. This is communication. In fact, this is not enough, because it is only one-way, and the purpose is only to let children know their parents and let them do what their parents expect. Have these parents ever thought: You ask your children to be obedient and understand what you mean, but have you ever understood their thoughts? Communication requires parents to actively express their inner world to their children, and at the same time listen to their children's voices, listen to each other and understand each other. Only in this way can we understand what the child is thinking, and then "prescribe the right medicine" and give appropriate guidance to let the child grow up healthily.

The following ten sentences are best not to say to children:

1. Why can't you be like-

The contrast between children is likely to increase their instinctive hostility and even disgust.

You should explain your specific requirements to your children. Focus on the bad behavior you want him to change.

Why are you so ignorant?

Children who are stabbed by words will only resist and make things worse.

Only kindness and patience can achieve the expected goal.

You are simply stupid.

This can only hurt their hearts greatly. Some people feel inferior and don't work hard to make progress.

The active encouragement and effective help of parents is the fundamental way to help children develop good habits and master life skills.

Go away, can you leave me alone for a while?

It will make them feel redundant and feel indescribable loneliness.

If you really want to be alone for a while, you can patiently explain to your child: I am very happy to be with you, but I am too busy now, please forgive me.

5. Cut the crap and shut up

Children will feel that their parents don't value my opinion at all. In this way, children will become indecisive, dependent and regard themselves as insignificant people.

6. Do it honestly, otherwise-

Empty threats will eventually damage parents' prestige. Instead, children will continue their bad behavior. See what you do.

The best way is to choose specific compensation and punishment means according to the actual situation.

7. Mom, please.

Education is most afraid that rewards will not work and punishment will not be used. Children don't eat hard or soft, but don't say mom please. This means that parents will submit, and children will look at you more from the heart.

8. I have no skills

Show your inferiority when talking to children. Most children's inferiority complex is induced by their parents.

If parents can be confident and optimistic, then children are full of confidence in the future.

9. Kill you

When you say that, you can't think of any good ideas. This is a big lie that cannot be fulfilled at all. Children will not stop their activities because of this.

10. Go away and go where you want to go.

The ultimatum overwhelmed the children. Although he doesn't want to run away from home, he doesn't want to bow his head. A wayward child may want to be a hero and really run away from home.