Pay attention to body language in meetings.

according to the three stages before, during and after the meeting, let's talk about the body movements that should be paid attention to:

First, let's talk about two things that should be paid attention to before the meeting:

First, don't be late unless you arrange it deliberately.

In most cases, being late will make your body embarrassed. You will feel embarrassed to be late, so you can't hold your head high and enter the conference room, and you will lose the aura first.

besides, if you are late, you have to look around for a seat, and you can't sit down. This not only bothers others, but also embarrasses yourself. Therefore, it is best to arrive at the meeting a little three to five minutes in advance.

there is only one exception, that is, deliberate arrangement, in order to achieve the purpose of attracting attention. For example, there are scenes like this in many TV dramas. On an important occasion, the main characters came in last to create momentum, which left a deep impression on everyone. Need to be reminded that this sword is biased and used with caution. Most people can't hold this field.

Arrive a little earlier, and you will have time to remind yourself to reconfirm the purpose and nature of the meeting. For example, do you want to find out whether it is a brainstorming seminar or a tit-for-tat business negotiation? Do you also need to confirm your role in the meeting, whether it is the host, the speaker or a speaker attending the meeting?

Only by making this clear can you consciously pay attention to what body language you should use to help your language expression when speaking or listening.

Because only one person has room in time and space, can he gain a sense of control, be not nervous or embarrassed, and be comfortable in body language expression, showing confidence and decisiveness.

second, choose your own seat.

if you are the meeting host, you may have to arrange everyone's seats in advance.

Except for the meetings where the leaders speak on the stage and the employees listen at the bottom, most of the meetings in the workplace now have tables and chairs arranged in a sitting manner, whether it is a U-shaped table, an oval table or a long table, which is convenient for all participants to see each other and for grouping if they want to discuss or debate. But you are also particular about where you sit.

If there is a long table in the conference room, the unspoken rule is that the person sitting on the innermost short side of the rectangle is usually regarded as the most powerful person in this meeting, and his words and deeds often have the greatest influence on others. This has almost become a rule of cross-cultural communication. If you are not the biggest leader at the table, don't sit there.

The long side of the remaining rectangle basically has the division between Party A and Party B.. Generally speaking, if you are Party B and away, try to avoid sitting on the side opposite the door by the window. As a rule, the back window is opposite to the door, which is a privileged position and should be reserved for Party A or the decider.

Therefore, it is very helpful for you to sit in the right place by making clear the purpose of the meeting and the background identity of the participants before the meeting.

If you are Party A, take the initiative to sit in the right position according to your own status and role. If you are Party B, it is best for the guests to follow the host's instructions, be polite to each other's arrangements, smile and observe silently.

during the meeting, I remind you to pay attention to your sitting posture, eyes and hand movements, and I will also talk about what the speakers should pay attention to.

let's talk about sitting posture first.

don't think it's enough to sit down, how to sit down is also very important.

what is a proper sitting posture?

first, sit a little more than half of the chair. Don't cross your legs, let alone shake your legs. Shaking your legs, in your view, is relaxing or thinking, but in others' view, it will convey nervousness, anxiety and impatience. Practice shows that it is not easy to shake our legs when we are sitting correctly and relaxed.

avoid three sitting postures

one is that the body is completely filled in the chair. Whether you are Party A or Party B, it is not recommended that you fill your chair. Lean back, cross your legs, tilt your head, and cross your hands on your chest. These body languages are very tough. Friendly conversations and meetings should be avoided as much as possible, but put pressure on the other side in the negotiation and give them a strong hint. You may wish to use this trick occasionally.

If the chair is full, then slide the chair forward hard, and finally your chest will rest on the table. This is also a very awkward sitting posture. It feels like a person is caught or stuck there, which makes people feel that you are nervous and cramped like a fledgling student.

and don't sit in the front of the chair. Lean forward and be ready to nod at any time. This posture will make people feel humble, but they are not expert enough. Moreover, if you sit too far in front, you will unconsciously start to nod when others are not finished, which makes you seem to have no intention to listen and think, and you will be suspected of being inattentive and flattering.

Secondly, look at the speaker with intermittent eyes.

When someone speaks, always remind yourself to make eye contact with the speaker. Don't stare at the computer all the time, unless you are a professional conference stenographer.

In those meetings where you have to bring a computer, you should also look at the computer and then at the speaker, so that there will be an echo and connection, and let the speaker know that what you are recording now is related to him. Because everyone wants to be valued.

speaking of which, I suggest you measure the necessity of bringing a computer to the meeting. Unless there is something to synchronize. Otherwise, the computer will not only disturb the concentration, but also form a natural barrier in physics, which will affect communication.

here, I suggest you take an efficiency manual to the meeting, preferably one with a calendar. In this way, not only the contents of the meeting can be recorded, but also the questions about the time nodes can be reflected in the calendar.

the third is hand movements: three wrong movements should be avoided.

first, some people will habitually turn around with a pen in their hands, pick it up after dropping it, and then pick it up after dropping it, which is a great disrespect to the people present.

second, put the pen to your mouth to bite, or bite your finger directly. This is a subconscious action, but also to attract special attention. Biting a pen during a meeting will send a signal of anxiety and inner confusion.

third, touch your face or hold your cheeks frequently. Holding your hand over your nose or mouth will convey a feeling to the speaker-that is, you disagree, and you will doubt or not support his point of view.

The most undesirable action is that the whole person is prone on the table, holding his cheek with one hand, plus a pair of dull eyes, which undoubtedly convey your disinterest and boredom.

What body movements should the speaker pay attention to

If you know in advance that there is something you need to speak at today's meeting, I suggest you sit a little forward, try to keep your eyes on the whole audience and show your professionalism and confidence.

In case you talk about the part with a unique sense of scene, don't dance. If you want to express it with the help of visual effects, you can also get up and draw with a whiteboard. Here, drawing itself is also a body language.

if you choose to speak standing, stand in a position where you can see everyone. When you get up, you should tidy up the corners of your clothes and walk to the position where everyone's eyes are focused. Stand up straight after taking the stage, look at everyone with a smile, and then get to the topic of the speech.

when you speak, don't lock your body, and don't use one finger to express emphasis. You can express it with the deformation of the ok gesture instead. If you are afraid of being nervous, you can take a sip of water to relax before you go on stage. After speaking, thank you by leaning forward.

when you return to your seat, walk back gracefully and sit down gently. Here is a little detail to remind you not to drink water as soon as you sit down. Because everyone's attention is still on you at this time, drinking water immediately will make you look very nervous.

There is also a plan to leave after the meeting:

First, when you leave, keep your seat as it is. Of course, you don't need to walk around the field like a professional cleaner to collect all the rubbish, you just need to make sure your seat is clean and tidy. Please note that the action at this time must not be grandiose, that is, take all the items in your seat away and push the seat back to its original position. This is a good habit in itself.

For interested bystanders, you will also feel that you are a careful and warm person after seeing it. It's like a person who writes with a whiteboard pen will cover the cap after writing, and will pick it up immediately if it falls off. These actions are small enough that you are too lazy to pay attention to them, but they are also big enough to affect others' judgment of your character and quality.

In addition, I would like to remind you in particular that after the speech, if it is a conference on recruiting, motivating or looking forward to the future, the speaker must not finish stating his vision, frown and even deal with mobile phone information anxiously.

At this time, with a smile on your face and an expectant smile in your eyes, your arms are naturally placed at your sides, draped around your waist or easily placed in your trouser pocket. You are welcome to join us and give me an open body language that I am ready to answer your questions at any time. It will deepen the other party's affirmation and trust in what you said at the meeting.