How to get along with roommates? Advice to prospective freshmen

Soon, the students will live a college life. Some students will worry about how to get along with their roommates. Now let me tell you some skills!

1, don't bother roommates.

Franklin once wanted to cooperate with a congressman, but the congressman was a stone-hearted man and wouldn't even talk to him. Franklin learned that the congressman had a classical library, so he borrowed it for two days, and the congressman agreed. When they met again, the senator took the initiative to chat with him.

This is the Franklin effect: people who have helped you once will be more willing to help you again than those who have helped you. Popular point is to make a person like you, and then ask him to do you a favor.

In fact, good contacts are always troublesome. So are college roommates. Don't be afraid to trouble others. For example, if you ask your roommate to help you pack vegetables, buy things and get express delivery, then the next time your roommate asks you to help TA pack vegetables, buy things and get express delivery, it will enhance feelings in the long run.

Many things between people are mutual. If you never bother others and do everything by yourself, it means that you are very independent, but your roommates are embarrassed to bother you, although you are willing to help TA.

In addition, if you trouble others and others help you, you should also readily agree when others trouble you. Don't be reluctant, since you promised others, don't be unwilling. Of course, the best thing is that you can offer to help others, so it is easy to close the distance with your roommate.

In addition, when you trouble others, you should master a degree to see if this busyness will bring more trouble to the other party.

For example, borrow money from a roommate from a poor family, and let her go a long way to buy you ice cream in hot summer.

You'd better trouble your roommate yourself, so that you can return the favor. It's best not to involve financial interests, because at this stage, you all rely on your families to pay for your living expenses. Except for a few local tyrants, most people are not rich.

In addition, it is important for others to help you. This is a kind of friendship, but you can't take it for granted. Although it is trivial, it will take a long time, so try not to disturb others for a long time.

2, consider the feelings of roommates.

My schedule is contrary to that of the people in the dormitory. They always like to stay up late. I like going to bed early and getting up early. When I get up every morning, my roommates are still sleeping. I am always careful. I feel guilty if I disturb their dreams.

When I wash, I will close the balcony door and turn on the faucet so that there is no sound inside.

When I get up early to read a book or surf the Internet, I will put my things on the table the night before, and the computer will plug in the wires so that there will be no sound of looking for something to rummage through the drawers.

Sometimes I get up early to study by myself and go back to the dormitory at noon. My roommate always asks me, when did you get up? I thought you were still sleeping ... when something happened, another roommate would get up earlier than me. She began to climb down from the bed, the sound of slippers mopping the floor and splashing water, brushing her teeth, applying skin care products and rummaging everywhere. When she tidied up, almost everyone in the dormitory woke up, so roommates often complained.

In dormitory life, you should not only care about yourself, but also consider the feelings of others. After all, this is a collective life, and any casual actions you make may affect others. We can't guarantee to do everything best, but we can try our best not to affect others.

For example:

Don't talk on the phone loudly in the dormitory, especially between couples.

Don't talk when someone is sleeping in the dormitory.

Close the door gently.

Don't mop the floor when you walk.

Don't play computer loudly.

Dormitory life always involves many details, and sometimes a contradiction may be accumulated from these details. As long as you think more about your roommate's feelings, the atmosphere will be much more harmonious.

3. Share more with roommates.

Educate us from an early age, share happiness with others, and you will reap two happiness. Share your pain with others, and it will be reduced by half. Personally, I think this is more suitable for friends, but it may not be realistic to talk about spiritual sharing in roommate relationship.

What can I share with my roommates? Share food.

People in dormitories often come from all directions, and everyone has their own specialties, which will always arouse the curiosity of roommates. When I brought my specialty to my roommates, the dormitory immediately became lively. Talk about these specialties while eating, as well as the local specialties of other roommates. Eat happily, chat happily, and your feelings will be improved unconsciously.

When I go home on holidays, I will also bring something to eat. Last Dragon Boat Festival, I asked my parents to wrap 50 zongzi for my roommates and other students. At the same time, I got zongzi from many people and tasted the characteristics of various places. When traveling, I will also bring some local specialties to my roommates, which will always arouse their interest. Then we can lead to the topic of tourist destinations and share some travel experiences with them.

Food always has a special power, which can create many topics and enhance feelings.

Besides food, there are many things to share with roommates. For example, you can share the experience of your roommate's clothes getting dirty, his illness and cough, etc. Roommates come from different places, and some indigenous methods are also very effective. You can also share your learning experience with your roommates, such as how to think about some difficult problems and how to review Band 4 and Band 6.

Sharing is a beautiful thing, which can not only enhance the feelings between roommates, but also bring happiness to yourself.

4. Actively integrate into roommates

Many people feel out of place with their roommates and have different interests, so it is difficult to play together. Actually, it's not hard to understand. After all, people come from different places, and many differences are inevitable.

But there are still many opportunities for you to integrate with your roommate. For example, if your roommate goes to study by himself, you can offer to go with TA, and you can exchange and study together. When your roommate is ill, you can take the initiative to accompany TA to see a doctor, and before you know it, your relationship has reached a new level.

For group activities, don't shirk, this is the best opportunity to integrate into roommates.

On weekends and holidays, you can also take the initiative to invite roommates to go out to play. An active person can never be too bad luck.

In fact, the relationship between college roommates is not so difficult, but many times we are proud and impulsive and always take some small things seriously. In addition, universities should study hard and take exams like middle schools. Everyone has their own goals in college, and everyone wants to do different things.

You have to understand that everyone in this world is an independent individual and everyone has different ideas. We should learn to respect and tolerate, and also learn to understand and be sincere.

University dormitories are like a micro-society. If you can't handle the relationship between five or six people, what will you do when you go to work in the future?

I have always thought that being able to get along in a dormitory is a great fate. Three or four years passed quickly. After graduation, everyone will go their separate ways, work, get married and have children, and live their own lives. After separation, few people can meet, and some people may never meet again, only cherish gratitude.

What other ways to get along with roommates?

Let's take a look at the summary of seniors and sisters.

It is understandable to try your best to choose a good dormitory and bed, but you should know that many school dormitories have to move every year. Knowing this, you will understand that it is not worth fighting for a good dormitory and a good bed.

★ Whether it's a 4-person room or a 6-person room, the dormitory is a public space for several of you. You are the owner of this room, but you are not the only owner of this room. So please always remember one sentence: "The dormitory is ours."

No one wants to live in a messy environment, so don't shirk the assigned duties. When you see garbage in the dormitory, you should clean it up conveniently. A good environment needs to be maintained by everyone. When I was in Peking University, I drew water for my classmates every day and often cleaned my dormitory. Later, when he needed a partner to start New Oriental, he went to North America to find his former classmate from Peking University. The classmate decided to come back and help him. They said, "We came back to sweep the land and pump water for four years." So, it doesn't hurt to be diligent.

Get into the habit of paying attention to the bulletin boards in schools and dormitories. Many things in school will be missed if you don't pay attention. Cultivate your ability to collect information and don't rely on others for everything.

★ Many things are informed by others. Say thanks. Don't blame others for not informing you, because those things should actually be discovered by yourself.

It is extremely important not to judge yourself and others. What you have seen and heard may be only one side, and it is not worth it for this friend who has lost the possibility.

★ Getting to know each other in one room is everyone's luck. When you get help from your roommate, please remember to express your gratitude, no matter how big or small.

★ Get along with roommates, help others more and think less of yourself.

★ When you meet a classmate who comes to the dormitory to sell from door to door, no matter how tempted you are, please compare it with the regular store outside before making a decision. If you are worried about missing a good opportunity, you can leave your classmate's phone number and call him on the spot. If they don't even want to leave their real phone number, do you still want to buy it?

Whether it's music, variety show or TV play, not everyone will have the same interest as you, so don't forget to wear headphones in the dormitory.

★ There are really many people getting up, so when someone is resting in the dormitory, be sure to keep quiet. No matter what exciting things happened to you at that time, please try to restrain yourself.

Please learn to live with roommates whose living habits are completely different from yours, and learn to be friends with them. Some people are not considerate of other people's feelings, but many times, your roommate also comments on you like this. It is best that these roommates can become unforgettable alumni.

It is polite and respectful to say hello before using other people's things. A word or two more won't waste your time.

We can accept well-meaning jokes, but don't laugh at your classmates' shortcomings, such as accent.

Remember, the dormitory is not a safe. Valuables must be properly kept. Please deposit a lot of cash in the savings card, and don't use your birthday or mobile phone number as your password.

★ Don't use "fast heating" or "electric stove" in the dormitory. Really, many fires started because of it.

I know you have a lot to say to your peers, but learn to protect your personal topics. They may not know how to keep a secret.

★ Living together, it is inevitable that there will be small frictions. When encountering problems, roommates should communicate in time to eliminate misunderstandings. There is no contradiction that cannot be solved in a few words. If so, say more.

★ If you want to send text messages in the middle of the night, please set the keyboard ringtone to mute.