Wu Mi's Love in Literature and Life

Wu Mi left an impression on later generations as a rigorous academic master, but his marriage and love were like a hard olive.

That future generations dare not compliment.

Some people say that he is a real "womanizer". Although his words are extreme, they reflect his restless side in marriage and love. To this end, Chen Yinque saw it thoroughly, saying that he was naturally romantic, but he was "bound" by the old ethical code, and his feelings could not be relaxed, and he was on the verge of rupture for a long time. So "it is better to let the kettle burst than to let it boil when heated."

There is an old saying in China that "a matchmaker jumps on a sedan chair", which means that a third party who is a matchmaker falls in love with one of them, but instead becomes a bride or groom and gets on a sedan chair that shouldn't belong to him. Wu Mi's tragedy of marriage and love is the best footnote of this famous saying.

191810/In June, Wu Mi, who was studying at Harvard, suddenly received a letter from Chen Liexun, a classmate from Tsinghua who was studying in the United States, and wanted to introduce his sister Chen Xinyi to Wu Mi as his wife. The letter said that Chen Xinyi graduated from Zhejiang Women's Normal School in Hangzhou, and now she is 24 years old. She is a primary school teacher in Dinghai County, Zhejiang Province. She has a high heart and is very strict in choosing a spouse. In the letter, Chen Liexun clearly pointed out that her sister heard him talk about Wu Mi many times at home, and then read Wu Mi's poems in Yizhi magazine and Tsinghua Weekly, especially when she saw the photo of Wu Mi in Tsinghua Weekly, and she sprouted love and was willing to marry Wu Mi and serve for life. After receiving the letter, Wu Mi was heartbroken and immediately wrote back to agree. He immediately packed his bags and rushed back to China. The curtain of tragedy slowly opened.

192 1 In August, Wu Mi, who returned from studying in the United States, hurried to Hangzhou to meet Chen Xinyi. However, this meeting is very dramatic, and it seems that there is some tragic image hidden from the beginning. When he arrived in Chen's family, Wu Mi was dressed in a suit and tie, in high spirits, like an international student. According to the narration in Wu Mi's diary, as soon as Chen Xin was pulled out, everyone just looked at each other silently. Unexpectedly, in a short time, another heroine came out.

This is another key figure in Wu Mi's life tragedy-Mao Yanwen. As it happens, Mao Yanwen and Chen Xinyi are good friends. On this day, she came to visit with great interest, prepared not to be close friends and went to school in Beijing, and didn't want to meet Wu Mi by chance. Except Mao and Chen are classmates, her fiance is Wu Mi's deskmate friend when she was studying in Tsinghua. Mao Yanwen, a 4-year-old Junyi Zhu, is an aunt and cousin. She has always been a childhood friend and has deep feelings. At the age of 9, he was betrothed by his father to the son of a friend named Fang. When Zhejiang Women's Normal School graduated, Fang was forced to get married for fear of misfortune. Just as Fang's big sedan chair was carried to Mao's door, he was unwilling to be at the mercy of fate and bravely escaped from the back door. Before that, she and her cousin Junyi Zhu had been married for life. After the Mao couple broke off their engagement in Fang Jia, Mao Yanwen and Junyi Zhu were formally engaged. As a deskmate friend of Junyi Zhu, Wu Mi knew about Mao Yanwen when she was studying in Tsinghua. At that time, Junyi Zhu would let Wu Mi have a look after her cousin's love letter every time.

Wu Mi admired Mao Yanwen's talent in his letter. Over time, he had a strange feeling in his heart. Because of his classmates' friendship, he didn't show it, but it was deeply hidden in his heart.

When Wu Mi was studying in the United States, he received a letter from Chen Liexun to make up with his sister, so he entrusted Junyi Zhu to find Mao Yanwen to learn about Chen Xinyi and exchange information. In this sense, Mao Yanwen is actually a matchmaker between Wu Mi and Chen Xinyi. This time, I suddenly met Mao Yanwen at my home in Chen Xin. Wu Mi had a good impression, but seeing each other lively and elegant, generous and decent, just like a bride, Wu Mi suddenly felt a little lonely, but Mao Yanwen was occupied, and she was her best friend's fiancee.

In the afternoon, Mao Yanwen said goodbye to them and returned to Shanghai. Wu Mi and Chen Xin fell in love at first sight. Under the arrangement of Chen Fu, they went boating in the West Lake together, and Wu Mi was very happy. The next day, they both swam the West Lake early and had a good time. Wu Mi wrote in his diary: It was a trip to Japan, which was more enjoyable than yesterday's trip. My family, friends and friends of the country, I talk about everything at will ... The happiness of this day has been countless for more than ten years.

13 days later, Wu Mi and Chen Xinyi officially got married.

Subsequently, Wu Mi and his classmate Junyi Zhu were both hired as professors by Southeast University. Facts have proved that such a hasty marriage is a tragedy for Wu Mi and Chen Xinyi. It turns out that Wu Mi has carefully entrusted Mao Yanwen to inquire about Chen Xinyi at home. Mao Yanwen didn't exaggerate blindly, because he and Chen Xinyi are old friends. She thinks that Chen Xinyi has a good personality and can make friends, but there is no need to get engaged rashly. After seeing Chen Xin, Wu Mi forgot Mao Yanwen's advice in the letter. His friend Chen Yinque advised him: "It is shameful for a person to be less knowledgeable than others; It's better for a man to marry a wife. Why are you embarrassed? " Wu Mi married Chen Xinyi in a hurry.

However, in Southeast University, Mao Yanwen really entered Wu Mi's life. Junyi Zhu suddenly changed his mind at this time. He insisted on breaking off his engagement with Mao Yanwen on the grounds that consanguineous marriage would be harmful to the next generation. After waiting for 6 years, Mao Yanwen, who escaped marriage, only married her cousin, which was unexpected. In desperation, she had to ask Wu Mi and his wife for help. Wu Mi then shuttled back and forth between the two men as a middleman, trying his best to put out the fire. However, Junyi Zhu has made up its mind to refuse to enter into a white-headed relationship with Mao Yanwen. As a result, the marriage between Zhu and Mao failed and the engagement was finally dissolved.

Wu Mi who tried to put out the fire burned herself. After Zhu and Mao parted ways, they confessed to each other regardless of their marital status. Mao Yanwen flatly refused.

What she can't tolerate is that what Wu Mi has done is really ridiculous, regardless of his matchmaker status and friendship. In almost every letter, he will spare no effort to narrate that he read the letter she sent from Junyi Zhu and gradually became in love, which greatly disgusted Mao Yanwen, what's more, she and Wu Mi's wife Chen Xinyi were good friends and classmates.

I think this is also the doom of Wu Mi's emotional course. At the beginning, the two heroines made their debut at the same time. Chen Xin Yihe Mao Yanwen are both women who occupy an important position in Wu Mi's life. Chen is his married wife and has three daughters. Mao is his lover till death.

Of course, the initiator of this tragedy is Wu Mi himself.

British playwright Bernard Shaw once said, "There are two tragedies in life. One is to get what you want, the other is not to get what you want. "

After Wu Mi was rejected by Mao Yanwen, she was unwilling. He just did more deviant things. After seven years of marriage, Chen Xinyi couldn't bear Wu Mi's emotional rebellion and finally divorced. This rock-breaking move shocked the world. "Xue Heng School" colleagues almost unanimously condemned him, and his father even publicly accused him of being "heartless, rude and lawless, in order to safeguard the old ethics."

Mao Yanwen suddenly changed from a little-known figure to a "central figure in the three-person world", and she complained bitterly in her heart, but in the face of Wu Mi's courtship, she was still unwilling. Wu Mi is not discouraged. The pursuit of Mao Yanwen became more and more intense and turned into a love marathon. There are so many stories in it that in the 1930s, their stories became a hot topic in the tabloids.

Wu Mi's persistence finally touched the beauty's heart. In a woman's bones, she always likes to be loved, and Mao Yanwen can't avoid this. But the love between two people was hard-won, and finally matured. Wu Mi is a man full of contradictions, conservative and romantic, and the new school and the old school actually exist in opposition. When Mao Yanwen was attracted by him and prepared to talk about marriage, Wu Mi gave birth to a little worry. She wants to be married to Mao Yanwen, but she is worried about the disharmony after marriage. Two completely different moods made Wu Mi hesitate, and he was swayed by considerations of gain and loss.

193 1 March, Wu Mi went to Paris for academic exchange. Contrary to his former tenderness, he photographed a telegram sent to the United States, urging Mao Yanwen to give up his studies and go to Europe to get married, or break up. It was pointed out that he often issued ultimatums to Mao Yanwen, and his language was very vicious. At the same time, it is said that he wrote back to China to show his love to a woman named Xian, and at the same time he had an intimate relationship with a blonde.

Mao Yanwen came to Paris.

Wu Mi didn't want to get married again, but she was engaged. Enthusiastic Mao Yanwen felt very embarrassed. It turns out that the other party has tried their best to pursue her. Now that she has let go, the other party has changed her mind. Mao Yanwen cried and said, "You should always think about me, as an old girl in her thirties, what to do. Is our starting point wrong? "

Wu Mi was unmoved and said calmly, "People are often limited by time and space, with changeable emotions and no autonomy. There is nothing to do. " In this regard, Wu Mi described this in his diary:

But although I cried, it was not enough to touch my heart. It only made Amy hate her face, regretted that she didn't know anyone before, and felt that she had lost her ears!

It's really "how can I be embarrassed?" Interestingly, during this period, Wu Mi envied the love between Lu Xun and Xu Guangping, and made a lot of noise in the tabloids. He said: "Mrs. Xu Guangping is a capable and careful woman, who is good at spying on Lu Xun's joys and sorrows and coping with them. Even if Lu Xun is happy, she is willing to be directed. Yun Yun. Alas, why is the demand for rice different? The reality of Mi is better than that of Lu Xun, but his life has never been a happy encounter. How can Andrew's woman be Xu Guangping? Read this sadness. "

Wu Mi and Mao Yanwen came back from Europe after their wedding in Paris. Mao Yanwen stayed in Shanghai and has been waiting for Wu Mi to get married. 1In August, 933, Wu Mi went south again, with the purpose of going to Hangzhou first to make love. If he fails, he will go to Shanghai to continue to discuss with Mao whether to get married. Friends advised him not to play love games all the time, and he must get his wife back this time. As a result, both ends failed. Mao thought he was too playboy, so he also sang a high-profile song, saying that she wanted to be an old girl and tried her best to teach and save money and adopt a little girl. "Going home and joking with girls, I am also good at dressing up and pushing a car for a walk in the park for fun." Naive Wu Mi didn't notice the subtext of this sentence. He probably thought that Mao couldn't run away anyway, and he was still keen on his polygamous love. In a fit of pique, Mao Yanwen married Xiong Xiling, who was older than her father. Wu Mi didn't expect this move. Mao's marriage made him feel abandoned and guilty at the same time. He decided that Mao was angry, gave up on himself and had to get married. For a long time, Wu Mi was not sure what role he should play. Is it a negative lover or a negative infatuated man? Both, neither. In any case, Mao is the most beloved woman in his life. Only when he really loses it will he feel precious. After Mao Yanwen got married, especially after Xiong Xiling died three years later, Wu Mi has been entangled, not only unwilling, but also sincerely repented.

1999, "Wu Mi fever" appeared in Taiwan Province Island. 102-year-old Mao Yanwen did not dilute her negative resentment towards Wu Mi because of the passage of time. She said that she had never loved Wu Mi.

What would you think if Wu Mi knew what was going on underground?

As Mao Yanwen quietly went to Taiwan, the love marathon between Wu Mi and Mao Yanwen also came to an end. After liberation, Wu Mi was in his twilight years, and his mind gradually became peaceful. But at this time, he ushered in a shocking marriage.

From June 65438 to June 0953, Wu Mi married Zou Lanfang, a former law graduate of Chongqing University in her twenties.

"Yellow flowers and white hairs hold hands, and people look at them coldly when they give them." Is it the magic of love that lures the amorous Wu Mi into the yellow shirt, or is it his pity that drives him to help a weak woman in trouble? Did Zou Lanfang take advantage of his personality weakness, Wu Mi's sentimentality, and like the psychology of his female students, or did Zou Lanfang set a trap and tease Wu Mi? These have laid a big question mark in many people's minds, and there is no clear statement so far.

Zou Lanfang's life experience is really pitiful. A lovely girl from a landlord's family went out of Dashangou to study in Chongqing, and finally finished her studies, relying entirely on the help of her two brothers who had served in the former Kuomintang Sichuan Army. After liberation, the two brothers were suppressed by the * * * production party for participating in the armed rebellion, leaving several orphans unattended. Zou Lanfang was full of affection for her brother and had to take over the burden of feeding orphans. Unfortunately, she was born in a bad family, and she already has severe tuberculosis. The situation is difficult. When she saw Wu Mi's article on Thought Review in Xinhua Daily, her eyes lit up as if she had caught a straw. She decided to catch Wu Mi immediately.

So, for the first time, she wrote to Wu Mi enthusiastically, claiming that she appreciated his moral articles and worshipped him very devoutly. Wu Mi wore reading glasses, read the letter once, and then answered it bookishly. Immediately, Zou Lanfang came uninvited, went to the door for advice, and sewed clothes and washed pulp for the teacher as a student. Gradually, she stopped avoiding the world, and finally Wu Mi married her at once.

It should be noted that Wu Mi was a second-level professor at this time and his salary was very high. Moreover, he is also a senior United front object, and his political treatment far exceeds others. Wu Mi complained bitterly. The love between teachers and students has made him look down. In addition, Zou Lanfang is a sick seedling and can't get away all day. Afterwards, Wu Mi once told a friend that this was not a romantic love, but was actually treating Lan Fang and raising a family of nine.

Three years later, Zou Lanfang died of lung disease. Since then, Wu Mi has shouldered an ambiguous debt of love. With his integrity and kindness, he supported Zou Lanfang's nephews and nieces with more than half of his salary. This kind of support and nurturing didn't stop until after the Cultural Revolution, when Wu Mi couldn't take care of herself.

Wu Mi and Mao Yanwen.

In 1930s, Mao Yanwen was admired by many scholars including Wu Mi for his talent and good communication skills. Wu Mi, then a professor at the Department of Western Literature in Tsinghua University, was married and had children. When he met Mao Yanwen, he fell in love at once. "Wu Mi bitter love Mao Yanwen, tri-state people * * *. Divorce is not afraid of sages, and money and reputation are not enough. " Wu Mi published love poems in public. In pursuit of Mao Yanwen, he really divorced his first wife and abandoned his three young daughters. Wu Mi's rock-breaking move was condemned by most colleagues, and his father even publicly accused him of being "heartless". But Wu Mi still went her own way, still infatuated with Mao Yanwen.

However, Mao Yanwen did not love Wu Mi. One is a trendy woman who is keen on politics and public welfare, and the other is an old-school scholar who can only write old-fashioned poems. It can be said that they are running on two roads-they are not going the same way. She only respects her. Facing Wu Mi's persistent and intensified pursuit, Mao Yanwen didn't know what to do, so he had to keep close relationship with him. Wu Mi feels that this is her reserve, or that she is testing herself, so she loves more and more warmly. In this way, seven years later, Wu Mi was deeply in love, but Mao Yanwen resolutely married Xiong Xiling, the former prime minister of Beiyang government. After being lovelorn, Wu Mi was miserable and wrote 38 poems in capital letters, all of which were self-pity. After the poem was published everywhere, Wu Mi did not win the sympathy of others, but was ridiculed by many people as self-inflicted. Before Wu Mi woke up, he took these poems to class and told them, which became a joke for his classmates. Qian Zhongshu, Wu Mi's most proud disciple, was deeply saddened. He angrily wrote a poem to the teacher: "If you have all the ups and downs, who will pay the bill?" Because of their different views on Mao Yanwen, Qian Zhongshu and Wu Mi have misunderstood each other for decades.

After Xiong Xiling's death, Wu Mi rekindled the hope of pursuing Mao Yanwen. He wrote many touching long letters to express his feelings, but he didn't get any response at all. Some letters were even returned intact. Wu Mi still won't give up, waiting for the good news that he will never come back. Later, Mao Yanwen crossed the ocean and came to the United States. When Wu Mi learned the news, she tried her best to ask people who came back from overseas about her. In the second half of his life, Wu Mi was unhappy and miserable. Because of his profound thoughts, he often sees Mao Yanwen in his dreams. When he woke up, his pillow towel was wet with tears. During the "Cultural Revolution", Wu Mi, who was tortured, finally closed his eyes forever in his endless yearning for Mao Yanwen.

/kloc-0 One day in 999, Professor Shen Weiwei, an expert on Wu Mi, visited Mao Yanwen in Taipei. At present, Mao Yanwen is over 0/00 years old, dizzy and hard of hearing. Professor Shen said to her loudly, "Wu Mi's diary is published, which contains a lot of information about you and expresses Mr. Wu Mi's love for you." Do you have anything to say? " Mao Yanwen deadpan, coldly replied: "It's boring. He is unilateral and a nerd. " This is Wu Mi's lifelong infatuation with the person he loves.

"If you are sincere, the stone will open." In the emotional world, this is a "wise saying" that harms others and does not benefit others. Professor Wu Mi, who can read gobbledygook and gain insight into the world, has never understood this simple truth in his life. Mr. Lu Xun once said: "If you don't love, you think that love is the greatest pain in life."