Such a vulgar "noisy bridal chamber" should be closed.

The day before yesterday morning, I had been unable to listen to books for several days. As in the past, I listened attentively to "China Contemporary Scholars" in the form of "reading on WeChat" with my mobile phone in my study. I studied in the United States and later returned to China to teach at Peking University and the National People's Congress. Wang Xiaobo, a writer who died young at the age of 45, was the first of a series of "eras" (golden age, silver age, bronze age and black iron age).

So I went to the window and looked down. I saw a young man in the yard of the community, stripped of all his clothes, leaving only a pair of close-fitting briefs. His hands and body were firmly attached to a circular steel pipe column with transparent glue, and his private parts were tied with tape similar to balloons. At the top of the two small round balloons, a long gelatinous trachea is placed, which looks like the organ shape of the male lower body. In front of him, a young woman in a festive red wedding dress was shy. In public, she was pushed around and hit the man's "organ shape" again and again with her sz part. Every time she called, everyone burst into laughter. ...

Listening to everyone's chatter, I had an epiphany. Oh, it turns out that this is a couple's wedding, and everyone is making trouble in the bridal chamber, also known as "making trouble in the bridal chamber". Such vulgar behavior of "making trouble in the bridal chamber" is really speechless!

"Making trouble in the bridal chamber", also known as "teasing the daughter-in-law" and "making trouble in the bridal chamber", exists in many places in China. This custom is usually carried out on the night of the bride and groom's wedding. That night, no matter the elders, peers or the younger generation, they all gathered in the new house to congratulate the couple and were happy. Without taboos, the host must not be angry, let alone angry. There are so-called "three days without size", "having fun, making more fun" and "having more fun, making Chinese New Year doubly happy".

The custom of "disturbing the bridal chamber" has a long history. It is said that it originated at the end of the Warring States period and experienced endless generations. In the old days, "making trouble in the bridal chamber" was mainly a trick to make fun of the bride and groom, especially the bride. Insulting, molesting, embezzling oil and even taking the opportunity to "fish in troubled waters" to create tragedies are not uncommon.

After the founding of New China, the state vigorously publicized and advocated changing the marriage customs, and those bad habits of "disturbing the bridal chamber" were effectively stopped. Especially in the "bridal chamber" after 1950, most of them ask the bride all kinds of interesting questions or even "tricky" questions to answer, such as riddles for the bride to guess, couples for the bride to answer, stories about the beauty of men and women who have been in love or don't talk often, and the bride is ashamed to talk about it, either considering the bride's mind, reaction ability and knowledge, or making a fool of herself. Of course, sometimes the bride and groom will be asked to eat a piece of "hanging candy" or "hanging apples" together, or the husband and wife will hug each other on a narrow bench at the same time. Test the teamwork ability and tacit cooperation between husband and wife. It is polite and interesting, and it can also make noisy people laugh. Some people tease the bride, but it's not out of line. Sometimes bridesmaids will "step forward" and bear half of the burden for the bride.

In order to resist teasing, the bride and groom or bridesmaids often throw candy at troublemakers. Everyone likes to hold candy and be happy to disperse. Therefore, there is also a saying among the people that "there is a lot of noise and candy in hand". Therefore, the custom of giving wedding candy continues everywhere to show everyone's happiness and congratulations to the couple.

However, in recent years, those vulgar "noisy rooms" have not only revived in some places, but also "kept pace with the times" and "carried forward", and even more "shine on you is better than blue".

First, it ignores the time and space of "disturbing the bridal chamber". In terms of time, judging from the origin of "disturbing the bridal chamber", according to "Han Shu", "on the night of Yan Di's wedding, there was no difference between men and women, and they were only proud of it". The "evening" here does not refer to the evening when the sun sets, but generally refers to the evening, such as New Year's Eve. The custom of "disturbing the bridal chamber" probably originated from "listening to the bridal chamber", that is, on the wedding night, some naughty relatives and friends, like Freud's "psychosexuality", eavesdrop on the whispers of the bride and groom outside the bridal chamber window to meet their own private needs, and then gradually evolved into the current custom of "disturbing the bridal chamber". Since "listening to the room" is a whisper between newlyweds, it could not be done in broad daylight in feudal ancient times, but only at night. Therefore, the time of "making trouble in the bridal chamber" should be carried out on the night when the newlyweds get married. Now, it is day and night. Just like the scene I saw downstairs the day before yesterday, in the morning in broad daylight, a vulgar "noisy bridal chamber" was staged "in advance".

In terms of space, the "noisy bridal chamber" is not only lively and creates a festive atmosphere, but also a preliminary sex education, but also a little ignorant. People in the past were not as open and conservative as they are today. Many couples have no intimate contact before marriage, and they blush at first glance. What's more, the matchmaker said that he would never meet again, but on the wedding night, he had to get in touch closely, which was inevitable, especially for the woman. So through "making trouble in the bridal chamber", some relatives and "friends" poured into the bridal chamber to tease the bride, and together with the vegetarian, deliberately turned the shy yellow flower niece into a generous and provocative daughter-in-law. What's more, when making trouble in the bridal chamber, some people want the couple to do some intimate and secret actions with a certain sexual orientation, so as to dispel the strangeness and shyness of the newlyweds and pave the way for the exciting moment of both sides. Since it is an intimate and secret action, the spatial position of "disturbing the bridal chamber" can only be in the bridal chamber of the bride and groom, not anywhere else. Moreover, as the name implies, the spatial position of the "noisy" bridal chamber should also be in the bridal chamber of the newlyweds. Nowadays, many tricks of "making trouble in the bridal chamber" have been moved to the stage of the wedding scene and performed openly in public. No one is surprised. It's really embarrassing.

The second is to "enrich" the content of "disturbing the bridal chamber". One day not long ago, I attended the wedding of a friend's son. The content called "the old man's daughter-in-law" is also called "the fire burner" and "picking up ashes" (local dialect, meaning the affair between the old man and his daughter-in-law), and "making trouble in the bridal chamber" really makes me yell.

Before the wedding, everyone forced their friends to sit in chairs. First, they put on makeup. Black coal ash and greasy red Indonesia were smeared on their faces, and their faces and noses could not be seen clearly. I can only tell the whites of their eyes. It looks like neither a bad face nor a red face, but it looks like the faces of Japanese officers who have just been bombed by grenades in some war movies. Then there are props. What props are there? You may not believe it, but a poker with a diameter of very thick (I don't know how many mm) is nearly 2 meters long, with a net weight of 88 kg. There are three coal stoves with honeycomb briquet in the furnace, and the special ash pinch has a net weight of nearly 10 kg. These things are locked on a friend with a thick chain, and a pair of 65433 is used at the joint of the chain to prevent the friend from unloading it himself. He wore a three-foot trumpet hat with the words "ash picker" written on it, and a heavy wooden sign hung on his chest. There are also three Chinese characters "stove" in the book. This dress adds up to 130 kilograms, but unfortunately my friend's thin body can't bear such a heavy weight. After dressing up, he sat in a chair, shaking all over and sweating profusely on his face. ...

My friend's wife is also dressed very chic, and her face is covered with white powder. She wears a pair of glasses, one eye socket with black sunglasses and the other without glasses, which implies that she is "lighting a fire" for her husband's daughter-in-law, "turning a blind eye" and twisting a fire extinguisher in her hand, which means to put out the fire for her husband's "lighting".

What is even sadder and more "funny" is yet to come. The wedding was held at noon 12: 38 on time. When the wedding goes to the ceremony where the "groom's parents" come to the stage to welcome their new wife, friends and couples want to go to the stage with the music of "devils entering the village". I don't know that my friends are overwhelmed by "costumes" and can't get up in their seats, but the wedding is waiting. There is no way. My friend just walked slowly with the help of four boys. Looking at the mess of friends and couples, looking at such a "bridal chamber" content, all the guests laughed their heads off, but I couldn't laugh. ...

The third is to "expand" the goal of "making trouble in the bridal chamber". As far as people know, the object of "disturbing the bridal chamber" should be the bride and groom who got married that day. However, in some places, the bridal chamber has expanded the target audience, not only the bride and groom, but also the couple's family. As mentioned earlier, the groom's parents also enjoy the rare treatment of being difficult. Some places "make trouble" with the bride's "uncle" brother, and what's more, some take the opportunity to hijack and make trouble with the "maid of honor". Not long ago, I saw in the headlines on the Internet that a teenage girl who was only 16 years old and was still in junior high school was "noisy" by a group of young men in her twenties because of her beautiful appearance and well-proportioned figure. At that time, she was invited by her classmates' friends to be a bridesmaid. They jumped around the girl, and everyone reached out to her like a hungry wolf.

Afterwards, he even casually said, "Didn't you just touch it twice?" It can be seen that these people are so dirty that they are simply "scum".

After the girl went back, she was exhausted and depressed. She was awakened by nightmares many times and tried to suit herself several times. Fortunately, her family found and stopped her.

In the face of the above situation, I want to shout loudly: I hope the relevant parties will control this bad habit, and this vulgar "noisy room" should stop!

20 19 July 3, Xiangyang, Hubei