How harmful is parental verbal violence? Some people spend their whole lives curing it.

I once dreamed that I was scolded by my parents and woke up crying in the middle of the night. I found that I have been away from home for a long time, and I am no longer the little girl who can beat and scold casually.

I always felt that my parents didn't love me. When I was a child, I grew up with my grandmother. In my childhood memory, my grandmother occupied a vast space.

I remember grandma cooking and feeding pigs behind my back; I remember grandma holding me and putting me to sleep with a small cattail leaf fan. I remember grandma taking a bath for me, wiping my body and putting on talcum powder that children loved at that time; I remember grandma braiding my hair and telling stories.

In my childhood memory, I cried, laughed, was tired and was hurt. My grandmother is with me.

And my parents, in my memory, can only be seen for a few days. Every time I see them, I'm either beaten or scolded. I always have painful memories of their childhood.

At that time, parents seemed to like to show their authority by beating and cursing.

You are naughty and don't go home until the sun goes down. What awaits you is not a delicious dinner, but a scolding and flogging.

You go out to play with your little sister on your back, and they come back dirty. Waiting for you is not hot bath water, but still a scolding and whipping;

If you don't go home to cook on time, you won't be asked with concern, but you will be scolded and whipped.

As far as I can remember, the favorite thing parents of that generation did was to beat and scold their children. Because in their inherent concept, children will be beaten if they are naughty, and filial sons will be born under the sticks.

But will this really happen? Actually, it is not! Excessive verbal violence and physical abuse will only make your child worse and worse. The shadow scolded by his parents will follow him all his life.

Lucky people use their childhood to cure their whole lives, while unfortunate people use their whole lives to cure their childhood. This is really not just talk.

The eldest brother and sister-in-law in the family were the victims of verbal violence by their parents, but they were also the exporters of verbal violence in those years.

They have a lovely daughter who has been nearsighted since childhood because of watching TV. In fact, I think myopia is actually a very normal thing in this era of popularization of electronic products.

But my sister-in-law may not think so. Since the little niece put on glasses, they have been asking her, "How much are the glasses? You have spent so much money because of your eye problems at such a young age. " "Look at all the other children who don't wear glasses. Do you think you are ugly in them? "

I took my little niece out to the movies, and my sister-in-law blamed me for taking her to the movies for two hours, which would lead to deepening myopia. She scolded my little niece in front of me, saying that the more she looked, the more blind she became.

Originally a lively and cheerful little girl, she became more and more autistic because of her parents' scolding. Last time, I couldn't see the words on the blackboard clearly because of the scratches on my glasses, and I didn't dare to tell my parents that I had endured it alone for more than ten days. After I found it, I took her for a new pair of glasses.

Parents always think that it is good for their children to beat and scold them. But verbal violence is verbal violence after all, and even the damage value will be doubled because of your parents' identity.

I admit the parents' efforts, but such efforts are no reason to insult children. It is our fate to walk in the world once and be your child. But for the sake of children's sound personality, I hope parents will stop using language violence against their children.