What is "feeling" between men and women?

There are thousands of stories about men and women. Some people end up eating meat in the name of feeling, while others cheat in the name of not feeling. After all, what does it feel like?

Have you ever been fascinated by her,

Have you ever been touched and felt an electric shock?

This feeling is very subtle, it makes people insomnia and confused, as if everything in the world is connected with him.

When I don't see him, I toss and turn every night, waiting for a good night. The first thing you do every morning is to grab your mobile phone and see if there is any unread message from that specific number.

When you go to see him, you have spent several days doing maintenance, skin care and losing weight, and tried all the clothes in the closet again and again, but you still can't make up your mind. You've thought about the meeting scene a thousand times, but you still don't know what to say or do.

Seeing him, the deer in my heart seemed to jump out, and my cheeks were as red as ripe tomatoes. His every move is infinitely magnified by you. Is he looking at me? Will he hold my hand? Will he kiss me? I'm so nervous, how can I look natural.

What is "feeling"? This is an unspeakable thing. It's so mysterious and obvious. When you meet, please feel it with your heart, don't grab it deliberately, because you can't control it. It is the catalyst of your love. It surrounds your every little move, and in the eyes of the other person, it makes you hug each other tightly. Enjoy it, you who have feelings.

I think when both men and women have psychological and physiological reactions, it is "feeling".

First, psychological comfort.

If both men and women feel very happy in communication and contact, and sincerely want to have more contact with each other, and they are in harmony in this process, it proves that your thinking views, temperament and even hobbies have a high degree of tacit understanding. In this kind of atmosphere, our psychology will react and produce an inexplicable attraction. We feel very eager and naturally want to be close to each other, which is a manifestation of psychological comfort.

Second, physical and physiological desires.

We have many instinctive reactions. When we see the object we like, we naturally have physical desires. There is nothing to avoid, and this phenomenon should be acknowledged. So if every time you meet someone, whether attracted by their looks or temperament, there will be an uncontrollable desire that will make you have a physiological reaction, then this person is the right person in your heart.

Third, summary.

So, to sum up, my personal opinion is that when both men and women react to each other psychologically and physically, that is what we call "feeling".

There is a feeling between men and women, which is the popular word "call". If you are electrified, your whole body will be numb, your heart will beat faster, your face will be red and your neck will be thick. The so-called feeling is that you have a good impression on her, want to get close to her, understand her impulse, and even yearn for her to be your girlfriend in your heart.

This is the early stage of love. Maybe a smile from her can make your little heart beat wildly and your blood pressure rise again. Talking reminds me of the first time I met my wife. At that glance, she smiled at me, and her face was a little red, which was very beautiful. I feel it.

It seems that I met an old friend who has been separated for many years and often meets in my dream. I immediately decided that she would not marry in this life. From that moment on, I embarked on the bumpy road of pursuing her. Every step is a story. After 81 difficulties, I finally got married and lived together for 30 years.

First of all, for men and women who meet for the first time, "feeling" largely refers to love at first sight, that is, having a good impression on each other, that is, a relationship that is expected to develop.

Secondly, for some friends, "feeling" means meeting and hating each other late. If you like each other too much and can't wait to see each other early, then the relationship may be closer.

For some reserved friends, "feeling" is heartbreak, which is often felt by many blind date objects, and they feel that they are still suitable for each other.

For men and women, "feeling" means feeling that they are still suitable for each other, and the relationship may develop further, which is also the best answer to people who often ask who feels. Of course, for men and women with different relationships, the meaning of "feeling" is different, depending on the specific situation.

Boys and girls, what is feeling?

I think the first sight is very important. It is said that the first sight is "seeing color", which I think is quite right. Why do you say that? I tell you from my personal experience.

The first time I met my boyfriend was at a dinner party. At that time, I thought he was handsome, knew more than I did, and spoke humorously. That should be a warm feeling. But we are not together, because he doesn't like me. Now I ask him why. He said rudely, "when we first met, you were wearing ordinary clothes, and you didn't talk or stand out at the dinner table." You think you are older than me. " As a matter of fact, I have just finished my work, and I am completely ashamed and hungry. I went out wearing glasses and a down jacket.

A whole year later, we met again in my friend's studio. I didn't care at the time. I simply said hello to him, ignored him and forgot that I had a secret love. Asked why he took a fancy to me for the second time, he said, "You were elegant, beautiful and charming that day. You look comfortable in it. I feel my heart moving, so I decided to chase you. "

So the feeling is not necessarily the first sight, but the first moment I like you.

This photo shows me at school.

What is feeling between men and women? I understand the tenderness in the eyes of both parties during the first love. Heart-to-heart collision sparks. Casual physical contact leads to the feeling of electric shock. It's an unprecedented heartbeat, which is hard to calm down. It feels beautiful and refreshing. I'll share my personal experience with you.

My husband and I met at my grandmother's house 30 years ago, when I just left school and was only 19 years old. I am very introverted. He is of medium height, wears a pair of glasses, and his gentle and scholarly temperament deeply attracts me. I glanced at him, blushed, bowed my head shyly, dared not look him in the eye, and was embarrassed to talk. From then on, he often came to chat with me, gradually became familiar with each other and developed a good impression on each other. I was conservative in the 1980s, so I was embarrassed to watch movies together. I didn't dare to go in until it was dark one after another. I sat by and watched. Inadvertently, his hand touched mine, and suddenly it hit my whole body like a warm current, and my heart was pounding until the end.

Then I went out for training for two months. On the day of separation, my thoughts never stopped and I was tortured. He couldn't eat or sleep, and he lost weight. He can only express his homesickness through letters. When we met again, he was waiting at my door early. The moment he saw me, he held me tightly in his arms, and his two hearts melted together and shed tears of excitement.

Now more than 30 years later, we still love each other, and that feeling still exists.

"Feeling" is what others call "intuition", and some people call the sixth sense "telepathy", that is, the psychological feeling of prediction and inference. If a person has no feelings, there is no sense of existence. When they have feelings, they can surpass everything, regardless of age, education or wealth. It can be seen that people who can really walk together are people who follow their feelings, which is the premise of feelings between men and women in the simple world:

1. Good eye contact (the first impression gives others a psychological feeling, a look and a look back will make your eyes shine, make your heart beat and you will never forget it).

2. Good expression (keeping a relaxed and cheerful smile can impress, influence and infect people. This heartfelt confident, friendly and optimistic smile brings you infinite goodwill.

3. Good health (keep healthy inner cultivation and pay attention to the maintenance of good health. Only in a good body structure, the state of life you show is fascinating.)

4. Being in good condition (maintaining a high concentration of thoughts, having the communicative ability to improvise, and having the wind of a general in troubled times, which is the feeling of inner temperament)

All the so-called feelings are to make the other person feel comfortable, relaxed and comfortable first. This "feeling" between men and women takes time to get along, so older young men and women are more rational and pay more attention to practical significance. Young men and women prefer to rely on their own intuition about "feeling". Modern people pursue spiritual feelings as well as material feelings, which is why many people say that feeling is like dreaming, but it is forbidden in reality.

"Follow your heart! Hold the hand of dreams, live more and more easily and faster, enjoy your smile, and love will leave me anywhere. " Let's find that feeling in the song! "!

Take my own experience as an example:

Before my wife and I met, we each experienced more than twenty blind dates, and we didn't feel anything. We were also introduced. When we first met at that time, we both thought, "Well! This person is very pleasing to the eye. "

We talked for a long time when we first met, from morning to afternoon. Later, I asked her, at that time, her thoughts were the same as mine, and they all felt "amazing! He actually likes what I like. "

Later, we progressed smoothly, that is, in a year and a half, we completed the whole process of parent-teacher meeting, obtaining a license, buying a house and getting married. Now we have been married for eight years, have a lovely son and live a very happy life.

We don't really know what we really want until we meet the right person. People around us asked what we were looking for. We will cite one, two, three or even several criteria for mate selection.

But when the real fate comes, you will find that those messy standards are actually not important. The happiness we want in our hearts is often relatively simple. To put it bluntly, it means "as long as it feels right."

In fact, we set the so-called mate selection criteria just to filter out people we don't want to see. Because we can't predict who we will marry in the future, and we can't just list everyone as blind date, which is too perfunctory.

However, when the real him/her appears, the standards in our hearts may be compromised at any time. When you think the person in front of you is worth giving up some standards, you may soon "feel".

Finally, I will summarize this "feeling" roughly. I think it should be three stages:

1. When they meet for the first time, they are satisfied with each other's visual characteristics, such as appearance, voice, manners and temperament, and think that they meet (or are close to) their own standards;

2. We haven't been together for a long time. Through some basic communication, the two people know that the other person's three views are consistent with their own. There is no obvious conflict, and almost all issues can be agreed.

After getting along for a long time, I naturally feel that I can't live without this person anymore, and I have a strong desire to live with each other.

After these three stages, we will be willing to pay or sacrifice something for each other. I think at least this should be called "feeling"!

We often hear men and women say that they have feelings for a certain opposite sex. "Feeling" seems to be a very mysterious thing. Sometimes this inexplicable feeling even makes the parties unpredictable.

I want to explain this "feeling" from the following three points.

First, what is feeling?

Some people will say that the so-called "feeling" is nonsense. This is a world of looking at faces. Is that really the case?

"Feeling" not only refers to a person's appearance, but also includes many ugly people, and some people like him strongly.

"Feeling" should refer to a person's comprehensive quality, including dressing, words and deeds, as well as the connotation and ethics of the whole person. Although some people are ugly, they have some attractive advantages, such as integrity, kindness and faithfulness. Just like in Jin Lao's novels, Huang Rong met Guo Jing and was deeply attracted by his loyalty to others.

The so-called "feeling" means that you meet someone who may not meet your original expectations, but when you see him, you somehow know it's him. You can't tell whether it's because he's good-looking, because he talks well or because he's humorous.

Emotion is a perceptual thing, just like many things in the world have not been explained, so they can't be explained. It is precisely because of this unprovoked "feeling" that love adds mystery and makes people pursue things like love tirelessly from generation to generation!

Second, where does the "feeling" come from?

Biologically speaking, dopamine is a neurotransmitter secreted by the cerebral cortex. This neurotransmitter acts on your neurons, which will make you feel happy and beautiful, sometimes accompanied by symptoms such as blushing, heartbeat, deer collision, ear fever and crazy love. This is the mechanism of love.

You meet someone who makes your cerebral cortex strongly secrete dopamine, which is why you feel it.

However, the stimulation produced by dopamine will not last long. Generally, after you have been in love with this person for one to three years, the excitement will gradually disappear. This is why in our daily life, when we are in love, we feel that the passion in this relationship will fade after a long time, and it is also the reason why many men and women finally break up or move on.

Many people rush into the marriage hall during the love period. Finally, the stimulating effect of dopamine disappears, there is no love in marriage, and there is divorce or even single.

Third, if you want to have a long-term relationship, what else do you need besides "feeling"?

It's easy to start a relationship, but difficult to maintain one. If the difficulty of two people falling in love is 10, then the difficulty of maintaining this relationship to the end is at least 50.

There are thousands of relationships in the world. If we have met someone we like and are dating, we should maintain our relationship until dopamine disappears completely. In my opinion, there are two main things to do.

A healthy and long-term relationship must be that the two sides are evenly matched in this relationship, with equal value or little difference. Imagine how many men and women will eventually break up because of unequal values.

The so-called value includes your material conditions, social status, as well as your connotation, knowledge and demeanor. If you start dating, the conditions of the two people are not much different, but after a long time, one party's career suddenly gets better, while the other party stagnates, even feeling indifferent and comfortable. Over time, the stagnant side will be easily abandoned. This is the law of value equivalence in the field of gender emotion.

We didn't come to this world to walk alone. Why are you in love? Isn't it just to have someone here who can understand your pain and care about you?

Whether men or women, we may start a relationship because of passion, but we must rely on deep affection and true feelings to run this relationship.

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In the emotional world, feeling is only the first step in your communication, and there is still a long way to go. For a relationship, the key is that two people manage with heart.

I wish you happiness.

What is "feeling" between men and women? This question is very abstract. Let me explain it with one of my personal experiences.

I forgot the specific year. We met on WeChat. Just after that meeting, I habitually like to look at each other's circle of friends first and get a general idea of what kind of person he is! In my impression, his circle of friends is not many, but each one is very interesting. He seems to be an unconventional person, and he should be a person who loves life very much, which is in line with my criteria for making friends!

However, this is not the most important point. The key is that I want to see his appearance, so I patiently searched his circle of friends and finally found his photo. Through the circle of friends, I firmly believe that this is him. He doesn't look very handsome in person, but he is clean and fashionable. Generally speaking, this young man is good-looking, but just looking at these doesn't really feel special, just thinking that we can have a chat!

He is very active. He doesn't talk much every day, but he still chats, mainly daily greetings and greetings, so he still feels nothing! Then we talked for about three or four days, just in time for the weekend. He said that he works near where I live, so he doesn't mind coming out to chat and get to know each other. It was really nothing at that time, plus I had a good impression on him, so it didn't hurt to meet him!

Then the point comes. . . Feel what happened when we met! ! Be sure to read it! !

He is not much different from the photo, quite white (one white covers nine ugliness, in fact, his facial features are really average _), and he is dressed very cleanly. It was summer, and he was dressed a little casually, with flip-flops, big shorts and a white T-shirt. It sounded casual, but I didn't feel anything at the time. On the contrary, I think it's just a casual acquaintance, which is not so formal but looks relaxed. In short, I am deeply impressed and think it is best to stay with him for a while. He seems to have a good impression on me and asked me if I want to go to the game hall to play games. Since he invited me, what are you waiting for? Here comes the opportunity. Ha ha laugh

Actually, I don't know how to play games. Into the game hall, most of them don't know how to play. So I went to the motorcycle model and pretended to like to play, but I couldn't find the doorway to how to start it! He seems

I noticed that I was walking beside me. At that time, I just wanted to withdraw my hand from the handle of the motorcycle and look for a new starting breakthrough. As soon as he reached out his hand, I went back to him, and two small hands sparked on the handle of the motorcycle! (everyone made up the picture themselves. O(∩_∩)O Haha ~) I didn't even notice that his hands were so beautiful, delicate and still smiling. . . I felt it instantly. How to describe the specific feeling? Just excited and embarrassed, and then I was obsessed with the feeling of that moment. . I think this is the so-called feeling of male and female electricity! ! !

Having said that, I want to sum up that in fact, between men and women, two strangers know nothing about each other. It's almost impossible to make two people feel at the first meeting. I feel this thing not because of you, Gao Fushuai, but because I feel it when I see you. It is this subtle chemical reaction based on the casual physical contact of mutual dislike that is called "the feeling of coming". What needs to be emphasized here is casual physical contact, but it should not be understood as forced and obscene physical contact of the opposite sex. The latter is a rogue behavior, which will not only strengthen the feeling but also make people extremely disgusted! !