How can we get to the point?

How can we get to the point? In daily life, speaking is something people do every day, but many people can't grasp the key points and speak incoherently, which will make others feel bad. Let's share how to cut to the chase. Let's have a look.

How can we reach the point of 1 1, the golden pyramid principle, and let the conclusion go first?

Say the result of things first, and then analyze the causes of things, so as to make things clear in an orderly, logical and focused way.

2. "Golden Trinity Theory", highlighting the key points of the speech.

Divide what you want to say into one, two and three points, that is, use the "golden rule", and the other party can easily understand your intention. For example, students' "three points and one line" life-dormitory, canteen, classroom; Division of time periods-past, present and future; The whole story-beginning, process and ending ...

3. Catch the key words that others are saying.

In short, we should be good at listening and give each other the right to speak, so that we can be targeted! Secondly, we will understand each other's language! Being good at grasping the key words in the other party's speech requires us to understand the real purpose and idea of the other party's speech, grasp the key words, remove the modifiers and understand the real meaning of the other party.

4. Express accurately and avoid misunderstanding.

So how do you express yourself clearly and accurately?

(1) Don't lose the theme and keywords.

(2) Try to speak Mandarin or a language that the other party can understand, not dialects.

5. Grasp the steering wheel of the topic.

Firmly grasp the key points of the conversation, and don't be led by yourself or the other party. Ask yourself a few more questions, why you speak, and what's the purpose! There is an old saying: "If you talk too much, you will lose."

How can I get to the point? 2. How can I get to the point when I speak?

First, talk about "process" instead of "result"

When we talk, especially about our own experiences, we often unconsciously talk about a lot of "what happened in the process" instead of "the final conclusion". "Many people tend to talk about the process as the center!"

Especially when it comes to "bitter words", for example, many people often unconsciously focus on "their own efforts and hardships" when describing goods, business activities or products.

Spending a lot of time explaining the cause and effect of things wastes a lot of time, because for most listeners, what they want is often not the "process" but the "final result".

"To be an attractive speaker, the most important thing is to think clearly about the difference between what you want to say and what you want to hear, what you will be happy about and what you will be happy about." Only by recognizing these differences will you not become a nagging and boring speaker.

Second, consider the "part" first, as opposed to the "whole".

Once you think about things with yourself as the center, you will unconsciously ignore the whole and start talking about only a few things around you. But because these little things usually lack the same experience, even if the speaker thinks it is wonderful, the listener is still difficult to understand and very boring.

The bigger you put yourself, the easier it is to ignore important things.

Third, think about "small things in front of you" first, not "things long ago"

People who think that they are self-centered will not only pay attention to themselves, but also tend to ignore the "big things" long ago and pay attention to the "small things" in front of them.

For example, if someone asks you to "list the top ten news in the last five years", most people can only think of all kinds of small things that have happened recently;

If this habit has not been adjusted, when asked by the supervisor, "How do you plan the budget for the next five years?" It will also become only citing the immediate necessary expenses, which makes people feel short-sighted.

Fourth, don't look at "your own shortcomings", just observe "the shortcomings of others"

This is another performance that will make others hate you silently. Of course, look at yourself objectively,

It's not easy to admit your own shortcomings, because most people want to be loved, but if you exaggerate your own strengths, casually mention the shortcomings of others from time to time, and use others to boost yourself, it will only attract the listener's disgust.

Why am I so unlucky that he is lucky again and again?

Five, don't pay attention to "* * * through points", only pay attention to "difference"

Many people will pay more attention to their differences from others than * * *, which often becomes the most commonly used means of "making excuses for themselves".

For example, after hearing the successful experience of others, I can't help but blurt out: "Because he has money", "He has lived overseas for a long time", "Their company belongs to a foreign-funded enterprise" and "Their unit budget is relatively large" ...

It seems that others' success is not due to hard work, but to the abundance of resources.

Sixth, "specialize" yourself.

You must have met some people who like to complain that "only I have unknown hardships" "I'm in a difficult position, but you just can't see it!" It seems that only one's own life is full of wrinkles, and others are smoother and luckier than themselves.

In fact, everyone has a "unknown" hard side, but if we let self-esteem play a role and constantly emphasize that we are special, in the eyes of others, it is just nothing to complain about!

Seven, others' "generalization"

In addition to their own "specialization", many people tend to "generalize" others.

For example, when you see someone's personal behavior, you will unconsciously relate to his origin, gender, age, background,

I feel: "XX people are like this!" Being used to explaining problems with simple prejudices will only make people feel that you are useless.

The more professional you are, the more complicated your speech will be.

Eight, compared with the "outline", more rigidly adhere to the "details"

The deeper you study a field, the longer your experience. Because you know it in detail, you will be more likely to cling to unimportant details in others' eyes, rather than important outlines, which will lead to "the richer your knowledge, the more difficult it will be to understand your speech", which makes people simply don't want to communicate with such people.

Nine, more obsessed with "exceptions" than "basic principles"

You must have met such a person. When you talk about a thing or put forward a plan, he will definitely use counterexamples to refute you, thinking that what you said can't be successful or wrong.

Such people are usually experienced people, even experts. Because of their experience, they will become particularly persistent about the "exception" that violates the principle. "I have had this experience, and this situation is absolutely irreversible!"

Someone had this idea before, but it didn't fail in the end! "Become a special cold water against the king. It is emphasized that the more proficient people are in the professional field, the more likely they are to have this tendency. Be sure to pay attention!

Rejecting others doesn't hurt the spirit.

Look at the occasion before refusing.

Private refusal is often better than public refusal; If someone else exists, if rejected, it will make the other person feel humiliated and kill more. If you really can't avoid others, it's best to find an opportunity immediately after the incident and explain it to each other clearly.

Second, be friendly, first affirm and then refuse.

A friendly attitude, giving affirmation first and then refusing, can reduce the feeling of being "denied" by the other party. Don't say "I don't agree with you", but smile and say: "Your briefing is really wonderful! But some parts can't completely convince me. "

Third, "belittling yourself" is better than "denying others"

Compared with unilaterally denying others, we can show a modest attitude, appropriately belittle ourselves, balance each other's expectations, and remember that "things are different."

Rather than saying "I can't help you", let's say "I really want to help you, but I'm really not good at it"; Or recommend a more suitable candidate.

Fourth, cleverly borrow other people's words to refuse

Cleverly borrowing other people's words and expressing apology or sympathy at the same time can let the other person know your difficulties. For example, "I'm really sorry, our company rules can't ..." "I know you need this thing very much, but our supervisor has explained it ..." When the other party knows that you can't make a decision unilaterally, they shouldn't blame you, and they will shrink back.

5. A short delay can imply that you have a dilemma.

Unscrupulous and immediate refusal has powerful lethality. In the face of other people's requirements, looking at each other's eyes with rapt attention and being silent for a short time are enough to imply that you are in a dilemma.

Or postpone the refusal a little and tell him, "Let me think about it, ok?" ? I'll call you again. It can lower his expectations, and it is often easier to refuse by phone than in person. But remember not to delay for too long, waiting for nothing will make people even more unhappy.