Don't blame your relatives. Tell me about it.

When I watched The Legend of Mi Yue recently, I often heard a line in the dialogue "Climb higher and tread lower": Mi Yue offended the queen of the harem because of trivial matters, and all the people who had a good relationship with her before alienated her, so all the maids around her were indignant. Mi Yue said: "People in the harem climb high and step low like this." Zhang Yi was framed. Later, the king of Qin understood the truth and asked Mi Yue to rehabilitate him. Zhang Yi was so happy that she had to change clothes to see the king of Qin. At this time, he doesn't even have a servant. Zhang Yi said to Mi Yue with a wry smile, "That's how people climb high and step low ..." It seems that climbing high and stepping low is human nature, which has existed since ancient times. It should correspond to the "law of the jungle" in the animal world, but as a human being, it adds a lot of emotional color, and it is precisely because human beings are trampled by thousands of people when they are in a "low" position.

I saw my sister with my own eyes. In 10 years, she experienced the process of falling from the highest point to the lowest point in her life, and then picked up everything she lost bit by bit through her own efforts.

In our six-line town, her background is very superior. Her father is the leader of our city and one of the most powerful figures in this city. Her mother is a civil servant in a good unit in the city, and a younger brother at home also works in a good unit. It can be said that she has never worried about material problems since she was a child. At that time, her job was stable. Although the salary is not very high, but the working conditions are comfortable, she is still in the middle of the unit and is highly valued by the leaders. What no one expected was that she resigned and wanted to start her own business! The news came as a bolt from the blue not only for her family, but also for everyone who knew her. Because everyone who knows her knows that she is too unsuitable for business! Businessman's intrigue and haggle over every ounce naturally won't happen to her. She is also a kind-hearted person. How does such a person struggle in the business world? However, she took the initiative to leave her job without pay and went into business.

In fact, I know that she made this decision with one person. This man is a Shanghai man she met at work. On the surface, he is excellent, and he speaks clearly about any problems in society, but in essence, he is an "embroidered pillow" with little strength and no higher education. At that time, she was carried away by love and obeyed the Shanghai man (for the sake of narrative convenience, the Shanghai man will be called H for the time being). Through the relationship of H, they quickly took over the agency of a certain brand of food in Shanghai, and the business began.

I have to admit that at the beginning, their business was very good and they made a lot of money. She is the kind of person who doesn't take money seriously. She runs her own business, has money, and can control her own time, so whenever children or family members are free, she takes them to go on road trip. They have visited almost all the scenic spots inside and outside the province, and of course all the expenses are paid by her. At that time, the family had a dinner (it must be said here: their dinner was not just a dinner at her parents' house, but a dinner at her aunt's house and her uncle's house, with about 20 people). She didn't realize that no one had breakfast in advance. Her brother-in-law told everyone that her child had a rich aunt who bought all the clothes she wore to school. Her parents will also ask her for advice before deciding on major and minor matters at home.

The good times didn't last long. The quality of the brand they represented was problematic and was exposed by the "3 15" party. The business situation took a turn for the worse, and business suffered losses. What's more, H, who has always regarded her as her "fiance", moved on and soon married a Shanghai girl. In a short time, she seemed to have gone from "heaven" to "hell": the bank's loan was not repaid, and the payment of the following dealers was confiscated. Not only did she lose her income, but what made her chilling was that her relatives, friends and classmates avoided her! Everyone knows that she is in the most difficult situation now, but everyone is unwilling to lend her money for fear that she can't afford it! Not only that, her best friend once invested money in her company in the form of "shares" and asked for the money. Because I am a best friend, I told her the truth and told her my difficulties. I hope she can help her and don't take the money away in a hurry. Unexpectedly, my good friend's husband came to me the next day and pointed to her nose and said, "I don't think you can earn so much money to pay me back even if you die!" " But I don't care so much. You must give me the money this Saturday, or I won't let you feel better! "

The elder sister said that hearing him talk like this was like a knife deeply inserted into her heart and turning violently! She can almost see bright red and warm blood flowing out of her heart! Relative to her best friend's rude remarks, relatives at home have not hurt her so bluntly in words, but she can feel that the once strong family relationship is getting cold and weak! Many family dinners didn't inform her at all, and she didn't know until she happened to talk about it afterwards. Whenever this happens, someone at home will always say, "I knew you were busy with business, so I didn't inform you ..."

For the first time, she went home and cried! After several times, she almost lost her feeling! She doesn't blame them for not informing her, but only blames herself for not attending such a dinner party. If she participates, what can she say? How much did she lose? Or how much foreign debt has she not recovered? Later, even if someone informed her that there was a dinner, she found a reason to turn it off because she didn't want to appear in front of them as a loser!

She mortgaged her car, which is the kind of loan that only mortgages the registration certificate of the car but not the car. Part of the mortgaged money was used to repay her best friend's investment, and part of it was used to find a chemical product business as a start-up fund through relationships. Although there is no risk of cooking food, it is impossible to bring her income immediately because she has not done it. In order to earn daily income and control her time, she joined a carpooling team for short-distance transportation. There are many people here who do this kind of carpooling, that is, people who need to go from our city to neighboring cities will be sent there by their own cars, which is a bit like Didi. Everyone charges about 20 yuan, and passengers are arranged by the carpool company. Each round trip can have a net income of about 100 yuan. Because it meets the needs of the market, there are many tourists and carpoolers, but the woman is just the big sister. Because this job is very hard! When you are busy, you start soliciting customers on the road at 4 am and you can't go home until 9 pm. I can't eat and drink on time, and sometimes I don't even have time to go to the bathroom! Since joining this team, the earliest bus is the eldest sister's, because no one wants to get up so early, especially when it is cold.

The work is hard, but at least I can make money. Besides, she can make her own decisions on time. Sometimes you take a day off when you are tired, and sometimes the new company talks about business when it has business. The turning point of the matter appeared more than half a year after she started carpooling, and her new company finally took over a business, which made the elder sister earn more than 500 thousand. She called me that day and said that she would invite me to dinner in the evening. I joked with her as before: "when you make money, please invite me again." It's my treat today. " She was silent for a long time and said, let's talk about it when we meet. After the meeting, she said that she would invite me to the best restaurant in the city. I didn't take it seriously when I was in her car. I smiled and said, "Did you make money?" She turned to look at me and said seriously, "I made money!" " "I saw her eyes were red, as if she had just cried. So I asked seriously, "Really?" "Really!" She nodded and tears came out!

We really went to the best hotel in the city, and she took out her mobile phone to show me the balance in her account. I counted with my mouth open for a long time. Oh, my God! 560 thousand! I cried happily, hugged her, and tears filled my eyes with laughter. She kept laughing and crying! I'm really happy for her, because I saw her suffering and the hardships she went through. God has eyes! She can finally stop working so hard. We drank a lot that day, but no one was drunk. She has been crying, I know, it is tears of joy, it is tears of hard work, it is tears of her being wronged and humiliated!

In fact, 560 thousand is not enough to buy a house in our small city, but for the big sister, there are many things to do. She doesn't have her own house. When the business was good, she and H rented a big house of 150. Later, H left her, her business went bankrupt, and she moved to a small two-bedroom apartment. Now that she is rich, I think she should have moved back to her old big house in the first place, but she didn't. The first thing she did was to take her parents out for a trip. Her mother once said that she wanted to visit Taiwan Province Province in her life, because her great uncle went to Taiwan Province Province before liberation, and she never got in touch again. She contacted the travel agency and only brought her family on this trip. Of course, the cost is very high. When she got home, she told her parents about her arrangement. When she first came, her parents didn't believe her. After she showed them the money in her account, her mother cried! After crying, she asked her parents' opinions and asked the elders at home if anyone would like to go with her. As a result, six old people signed up! She took them to Taiwan Province Province for more than half a month. Of course, all the expenses were borne by her, and she brought back different gifts for every member of her family. The elder sister said that when she saw the smiles on their faces when they got the gifts, she deeply felt the happiness and dignity brought by money!

Big sister's own life hasn't changed much. She continued to drive carpools, and her new business brought her more and more income. Her classmates and best friends have got back in touch with her. Her best friend husband who asked her for money later sent her a WeChat apology. She only replied with four words: "Nothing, thank you!"

She and I still keep the same contact information as before, sometimes on WeChat, sometimes by phone, and we will have dinner together later. Of course, it's time for her to pay the bill. Sometimes when she talks about her own experience, she always simply says, "To make others respect you, you have to stand on high ground. Don't blame others for stepping on you when your status is low. "