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Seven effective communication scenarios to solve children's complete disobedience

1. Children always procrastinate and refuse to sleep.

Wrong way

Hurry up, hurry up, it's late, stop playing and go to sleep (nagging command is the most ineffective)

The right way

10 minutes, we will go to bed (give the facts, set aside some time, let the children prepare psychologically and feel respected). Or, it will be bedtime in 10 minutes. Shall we wash up first or tell a story first? (The way to urge is to provide choices)

That's what the baby thought at the time. I'm not sleepy at all and I don't want to sleep. I want to play a little longer and do something interesting. I still don't understand the concept of time. But my mother told me bedtime, told me to abide by it, and gave me respect at the same time. I can also choose what I like to do. I will try my best to have a good sleep.

Children play while eating.

Wrong way

Stop playing. Eat like you eat. Sit down and eat. (nagging again)

The right way

Baby, you must sit at the table when you eat. Let's go to play after supper. Let me see, you can eat well and have a good time. The rules must not be changed. Tell them clearly and then give them encouragement. If it still won't, tell the child, "Then let's eat, and then eat after eating! But when we're done, we'll take it away.

The baby thought at that time: actually, I haven't distinguished between eating and playing, but now I understand, or I'm not hungry and really don't want to eat; I'm having fun, and you want to interrupt me again. I just don't want to do what you say, but you've all eaten, and I'm bored playing alone. Let's have dinner with you. Please remember, if he comes, don't sound like your compliment! )

The child watches TV for a long time and refuses to turn it off.

Wrong way

No, you've been watching it for a long time. Why are you still watching? You have to turn it off and just "bang". (command, blame, it sounds unacceptable)

The right way

It's about time. Oh, we'll turn off the TV in ten minutes! (Inform in advance) or: When the time is up, will you turn it off or shall I? (Give a choice)

The baby is thinking about his parents so much, and the TV is so good that I am watching it enthusiastically. I don't want to turn it off yet. But you reminded me that time is up. Okay, I get it. Will you turn it off or shall I? Of course I know. I don't want to be controlled by you!

Children like to lose their temper.

Wrong way

Why did you lose your temper? Losing your temper is not a good boy. If you lose your temper again, I will ignore you. (impatient, threatening)

The right way

I think you are very unhappy. You can talk to your mother slowly or think about what you can do to be happy.

When a child can't express himself well, he can divert his attention and find something he might be interested in. )

The baby thought this at the time:

I am very unhappy, but I don't know how to express it correctly. I've seen people lose their temper and think it's okay to vent like this. It really makes me feel better that you can understand me.

5. Children cry when they are not satisfied.

Wrong way

Don't cry, why are you crying? Don't cry again.

(impatient, ordered)

The right way

I'll wait for you to cry, and then we'll discuss what to do together. What do you want to say to me? (Wait for the child to answer you) Do you want to go out for a while? Or do you want another biscuit? Or? The child will tell you.

This is an effective weapon to make the baby want to cry. I cried before, and you agreed to my request, so I cried this time. Well, sometimes I really don't know how to express my demands, except crying. I know everything you said, so I don't have to cry anymore.

6. Do children need to buy inappropriate things?

Wrong way

How do you buy everything you see? There are already many at home, so I won't buy them for you today. (blame)

The right way

I can't buy it for you. Please remember this truth: none of us can buy whatever we want. (gentle and firm)

The baby thought this at the time:

Growing up, you bought me books, toys and many things. I didn't say to buy it. You all bought it for me. Since I want it, you should buy it for me. When you say this, I understand that you don't have everything you want, so I understand.

7. Children always hit others.

Wrong way

The baby can't hit others, which is wrong, understand? ()

The right way

Baby, if someone hits you, will it hurt you? Do you want others to hit you? If you don't want others to hit you, you can't hit others. Let's think about it. What can I do without hitting people? Let the child feel with empathy, explain the truth and let him think and digest by himself.

The baby thought this at the time:

I am anxious to hit someone; I want to attract attention. I hit people. I also saw other children hitting people. I learned, and I think it's ok. You say this, oh, I see, I don't want to be beaten by others, so I won't beat others in the future.

The child was beaten by others.

Wrong way

Ah, let me see. Who hit you? Does it hurt? Next time, you must hit them back. (Contradictions and rudeness are increasing)

The right way

Can you talk to mom? Why did they hit you? (Listening to the child) Mom knows you are sad, but you are great and told me. Next time, stop him with your hand, protect yourself and say, "You can't hit me". Remember: you're not afraid of him if you don't fight back. (Listen, guide and provide effective solutions)

That's what the baby thought at the time.

Mom, I was beaten by others, and I was a little sad. I don't know what to do. In particular, I want to say that sometimes parents feel distressed when their children are beaten, and then I try my best to ask him how he is, but in fact, it is very likely that the children are not so injured at all and can resist completely. And our nervousness made him feel uncomfortable and flustered. Let children learn to cope by themselves and teach them how to protect themselves instead of being unnecessarily nervous.