How to get a woman to contact you?

The first trick: keep the mystery. What is mystery? This is similar to what storytellers say before each performance, "Predict what will happen, please listen to the next chapter." One sentence can leave enough suspense for the audience, so that the audience will always be full of curiosity and expectation.

The premise of maintaining mystery is to shut up. Some old irons can't keep their mouths shut when chatting with girls they like. No matter the days of our lives or bad feelings, we have handed in everything we should say and shouldn't say.

If you really want girls to know themselves, talk about their work, age and hobbies. If a girl wants to know more, she will definitely ask you, but telling her the truth yourself will put pressure on her. Think about it, you have told her all about yourself. Wouldn't it be unreasonable if she didn't come to the confession office? Just like a spoiler. There is no suspense. Who wants to keep watching?

However, chestnut does not mean that the old irons keep everything from girls and exchange information step by step, so that the relationship can develop steadily. When chatting, you can also take some small routines to create a sense of mystery, thus arousing girls' interest in you.

Take chestnuts for example. When we talk to a girl about something, we can say that we can leave half and half to arouse her curiosity, so that she will be interested in the next content.

M: How's it going recently?

W: As before, home and company, two o'clock and one line.

M: Well, guess what I've been doing recently?

W: Look at the photos of your circle of friends. Are you traveling?

M: Yes, I went to road trip, Tibet, and many things happened on the way, especially the rainstorm when I first got on the Sichuan-Tibet line. Guess what?

Woman: Is everything all right?

Man: Well, you can't chat with me if there is an accident. We are very lucky. We met the local Tibetans on the road, took us out of the most dangerous road, and then went to his house.

W: Is it so interesting? And after that?

M: What's interesting? This is the first level. I tell you, on the fourth day, we drove through the no-man's land, which was extremely thrilling. .......

The chat case mentioned above actually uses the psychological principle of "consistency of interests".

This principle points out that when a person is interested in something, he will involuntarily want to know more.

So when chatting with girls, you can try to tell things in this vague way, which can effectively arouse girls' desire to ask questions. This kind of chat can not only extend the topic, but also guide the chat direction well. When she asks more questions, she will feel that she wants to get close to you, so as to achieve the goal of letting her catch up.

Let's talk about the second trick first: keeping a certain sense of distance makes girls curious, then the sense of distance can let us keep our own framework. There are many old irons who always think that being nice to a girl can make her feel good about herself, but if the scale is not in place, good will become kneeling.

Give a chestnut:

M: Recently, her circle of friends has been sending some photos of yoga. Should I learn yoga?

Last time her computer broke down, I couldn't help it. It's really embarrassing. Looks like I'll have to make it up on the computer.

By the way, I don't know her mouth number yet. If I give her the wrong gift next time, won't it be overturned? No, I have to learn some beauty knowledge quickly.

Although we want to get closer to girls, we should not cater to them blindly. For these "misguided" little brothers, Chestnut suggests that you should first reduce your sense of identity, don't always think that you can please a girl by obeying her, and learn to shape your independent personality.

For example, we can refuse her unreasonable request; Questioning her remarks; Express your opinions without hurting the other person's self-esteem, and so on.

Give a chestnut: You asked a girl out for dinner, and she canceled the appointment temporarily. You should show her your attitude. You can tell her that something can be done this time, but after all, you stood me up, so you still have to take time to invite me to dinner to make up for my broken little heart. In this way, the girl will know your principles and positions, and she will not dare to consume your feelings casually.

Maybe some old irons will think that this will arouse girls' disgust, but on the contrary, serious girls will not get along with you because you don't obey her. If you can still show your leadership, you will attract girls to chase you.

Finally, tell the old irons the third measure: create a sense of low demand. Chestnuts are often asked, what is the sense of demand? In short, it refers to the intensity with which you want to accomplish something or get something. The stronger the need, the more I want to do it. In the pursuit of relationships, it means how eager you are to catch up with girls.

If you show a strong sense of need, it means that your words and deeds are easily influenced by the other party and you are always passive. Most old irons are too concerned when chasing girls. They don't know if girls have a good impression on themselves, so they will try their best to rush up. This way, girls will definitely know your thoughts. Then she won't hold you tight.

Therefore, before we know the girl's mind, we'd better hold back our love, don't show a special desire to catch up with her, start from the basic communication and slowly narrow the distance with the girl, so the psychological foot-in-the-door effect can be used here.

The Foot in the door effect means that once a person accepts a trivial request from others, in order to avoid cognitive disharmony or give others a consistent impression, he may accept a bigger request. This phenomenon is like climbing the door step by step. It is easier and smoother to climb higher.

For example, chestnut, you want to ask a girl out to dinner and watch a movie, but you are worried that the girl will refuse, or it is abrupt to invite her rashly. Then we can make a small request first to test the girls' affection for you.

For example, you can ask a girl to do you a small favor, such as what razor is broken, and ask her to help you buy a razor online. There will be a meeting on Monday morning, so let the girls remind you to prepare the meeting materials. I'm too busy at work today. Ask her to order a takeaway for me. Things like this, it's not too much trouble, test whether girls can accept it. If the girls agree, they can try to invite each other out for dinner, and then they can go to the movies.

So, if you like someone, don't be afraid to trouble them. When a girl realizes that she is willing to pay for you, she will also understand that this is a sign of love for you. You just need to push the relationship back a little bit, and success is a natural thing.

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