The best filial piety is to treat your parents as children.

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Yesterday afternoon, the sky was gray. I was sitting on the sofa outside my father's room reading a book. After my mother had finished her chores for the day, she took advantage of my father's sleep and stroked his face and was in a daze for a long time. After a while, he walked out of the room and sat next to me. After a while of silence, he suddenly said softly to me: I have never taken a wedding photo with your father. Then he recalled the simple wedding ceremony of that simple era. Mom said, your dad and I just took a photo by a flower bed on the roadside. I didn’t wear a wedding dress or take any wedding photos.

I was dumbfounded for a while, not understanding why my mother suddenly mentioned this, but I felt a sense of sadness and unexplained distress at my mother's words. My mother excitedly asked me again: "I'll take out your sister's wedding dress and try it on. Can you take some pictures for me? Do you think it's okay?" I saw a childlike mischief in my mother's eyes, and I felt that if I rejected her at this moment, it would be too cruel, just like rejecting a child who is offering a treasure, even if what she desires is something we can easily achieve. I immediately showed great interest, nodded my head, and said yes, yes, yes. I'll take pictures for you, I'll help you dress up.

My mother was a little in disbelief when she heard what I said. She seemed to be greatly affirmed. She ran all the way to my sister's room and took out the wedding dress and wedding dress, and then ran back with an innocent and childish look on her face. Ask me: Which one is better to wear? I smiled and said, I want to try it. For the next hour, I accompanied my mother upstairs and downstairs, turning on and off the lights, moving flower pots and stools, making concave shapes, and taking many photos, which were crude but full of romance. For the first time, I discovered that my poor photography skills could still capture my mother’s bright, childlike smile. It was also the first time that I deeply realized that my mother was getting old, as old as a child, and she needed me to spend more time and energy with her.

At this moment, I ask myself, what is true filial piety?

Now that I have become a mother myself, I can better understand the feeling of being a parent who cannot let go and constantly worry about things, and I also understand better the meaning of children to parents. Our parents have accompanied us for half of our lives and are getting older. They can no longer keep up with our pace and match our rhythm. They don’t understand WeChat, don’t play QQ, don’t understand the Internet, and have never even played with a computer or left home in their lives.

I think that at this moment, facing our aging parents, we need more patience and more tolerance. Old children, old children, the older they get, the younger they become. True filial piety is to treat your parents as children, and be willing to accompany them to realize their wishes, no matter how outrageous or ridiculous.

Just like me now, with more patience, I will listen to my mother's nagging, and then talk about the family's shortcomings and accompany her to relieve her boredom. I don't want to make her angry anymore, I would rather tolerate her and treat her like my own child. It feels like after so many years, now is the time when I get along with my mother the most harmoniously.

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During the period when my father was ill, he was unable to take care of himself and became more dependent on us. Even if we just chatted with him every day, he felt quite satisfied. After I left for a while, he called my name, needing me to be in his sight and give him a smile. Many times, when he is still conscious, I tell Dad that the weather is very good today and the sun will come out tomorrow. When can I go to bask in the sun with you? Tell him that the baby can turn around and recognize people. If you want to get better, your granddaughter is waiting for you to hold her. Dad often cries, like a wronged child, and asks me with a confused look: Are you here? I said, I'm here, don't be afraid. Then a faint smile would appear on his lips and he would sleep peacefully.

At this moment, I asked myself again, what is true filial piety?

When parents get older and younger, they are more eager for their children's attention than before, and they will do strange things like children to attract your attention. At this time, please don't blame her, give him a smile, or talk to him, and don't let him feel that you are not with him. Affirm his existence and satisfy his sense of existence. Let him know that you can depend on him. Don't blame him for talking nonsense, don't let your parents feel frightened and trembling in front of you.

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The issue of empty-nest elderly people, which is becoming more and more concerned now, has aroused many people’s cries. Your parents, my parents, may be among them. It was a rare trip home, but my parents were busy preparing large sums of fish and meat as if they were offering to the Bodhisattvas. But you just sit there, playing with your phone, and you still think this dish is not delicious and that rice is too hard. Even washing the dishes has become a luxury. For a few days after you left, I lived on the leftovers you had eaten. You think that by going home like this, you are being filial to your parents and accompanying them. I want to tell you that you are not filial. You are the emperor on a tour. Your so-called filial piety is just increasing the burden on your parents, not only financially, but also psychologically. Your parents have dedicated their lives to you, and they will grovel in front of you when they grow old. How can you bear it?

You think filial piety means giving your parents money for retirement, and then you look calm and proud: Look, I have already given you money, I am so filial. Your filial piety is superficial and superficial. Sometimes, parents just hope that you can understand, understand that he is lagging behind, and don't blame him for his brain and thoughts that have begun to decline. He begins to walk towards another destination, and I hope you will accompany me on this journey.

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What is true filial piety? What is the best form of filial piety? I think it should be that I am willing to get close to my parents psychologically, face all their shortcomings and deficiencies calmly, and be willing to spend more energy and time, be calm, smile and encourage, and say to them: Well, I am here.

The best filial piety is to treat your parents as your own children. Tolerate his occasional naughtiness and be willing to be childish with her. When you were a child, your parents grew up with you. Now, it's up to you to play with them.

Such filial piety should be true filial piety, right? What do you think?

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