It's been almost five months since I broke up with my first girlfriend of three years. What if I can't forget it?

Friend, I'm just like you. /kloc-broke up with his girlfriend in July of 0/8. To tell the truth, she broke up with me and I love her very much. I care about her very much. Because I didn't want to ask my parents for her, she didn't contact me when she came home in July 18. No matter how hard I try, I can't reach her. Her parents said it was too far away to agree that we could not exchange for two years. On a phone call, people also said that lovers share joys and sorrows. Well, now that we are separated, I can't let go of our feelings. I've been looking forward to her return, and I'm disappointed after so long, but I'm much better now. My family and friends enlightened me. Yes, losing her may give me a chance to make others really love me and give me more views on future love. The pain is unforgettable. Don't think about it deliberately. Finally, I'll show you a passage, hoping to help you. Socrates talked with the lovelorn.

Socrates met a lovelorn person, so he had the following dialogue.

Socrates: "Son, why are you sad?"

Lovelorn person: "I am lovelorn."

Socrates: "Oh, this is normal. If there is no sadness in lovelorn love, love will probably have no taste. But, young man, how can I find that you are more devoted to lovelorn than to love? "

Lovelorn person: "I lost my grapes." This regret, this loss, you are not from China, how can you know the bitterness? "

Socrates: "If you lose it, you lose it. Why don't you continue? There are many delicious grapes. "

Lovelorn person: "I will wait until the seas run dry and the rocks crumble, until she changes her mind and comes to me."

Socrates: "But this day may never come."

Lovelorn person: "Then I will commit suicide to show my sincerity."

Socrates: "If so, you will not only lose your lover, but also yourself, and you will suffer double losses."

Lovelorn: "What do you think I should do? I really love her. "

Socrates: "Do you really love her? Then of course you want the person you love to be happy? "

Lovelorn person: "That's natural."

Socrates: "What if she thinks leaving you is a kind of happiness?"

Lovelorn: "No! She once told me that she is happy only when she is with me! "

Socrates: "used to be, that was the past, but she doesn't think so now."

Lovelorn person: "That is to say, she has been lying to me?"

Socrates: "No, she has always been loyal to you. When she loves you, she is with you. Now she doesn't love you. She's gone. There is nothing more loyal in the world. If she no longer loves you, but pretends to have feelings for you, or even marries you and has children, that is the real deception. "

Lovelorn person: "but she doesn't love me now, but I am still in love with her." How unfair! " "

Socrates: "It's really unfair, I mean you are unfair to the person you love. It was your right to love her, and it was her right to love you or not, but how unfair it is that you exercise your rights and deprive others of the freedom to exercise their rights! "

Lovelorn person: "according to you, all this has become my fault?"

Socrates: "Yes, you made a mistake from the beginning. If you can bring her happiness, she won't leave your life. You know, no one will escape happiness. "

Lovelorn: "But she won't even give me a chance. Do you feel hateful? "

Socrates: "Of course it's hateful. Fortunately, you should be happy that you are rid of this hateful person now, son. "

Lovelorn person: "Happy? How is it possible, but after all, I was abandoned. "

Socrates: "Time will heal the wounds of your heart."

Lovelorn person: "I also hope to have this day, but where should the first step start?"

Socrates: "Thank the person who abandoned you and bless her."

Lovelorn person: "Why?"

Socrates: "Because she gave you loyalty and gave you new opportunities to find happiness."

It is not difficult to cope with fate safely. It depends on how you look at yourself. )

Everyone will go through your present stage more or less when they are in love. This is a very common thing. Don't take it seriously. There are many more important things in life.

By the way, people who love each other may not all come together in the end, and the people who come together may not be the people you love the most; To love each other is to hope that they can be happy.

For everything you have paid in love, if you want something back from the beginning, it is not true love. Maybe it is just that ignorant young people are not firm enough in their commitment to each other, so don't feel sorry for losing it. The feeling of being lovelorn is like a child losing his beloved toy. Over time, there will be new toys. The new one is not only a substitute for the old one, because you have also given your love and it is also your beloved toy.