Seven communication ways to improve children's emotional intelligence

Seven communication ways to improve children's emotional intelligence

0 1 When the child doesn't want to sleep

Mom would say: It's time to go to bed in five minutes. Do you want to wash or tell a story first?

Not that it's so late! Stop playing, come on, wash and sleep! I have told you several times, but I still won't listen!

The child thinks like this: Mom, I'm not sleepy. I don't want to sleep. Maybe I want to do something interesting. I don't know what time is! As long as you set the bedtime, maybe my biological clock will be adjusted. If you say that to me, I will choose what I like and go to bed.

When the child dawdles.

Mom would say, 10 minutes, we'll go out. Do you want to get dressed now or take your clothes?

Instead of saying, what are you dawdling about? It's so late, hurry up! Did you hear that?

The child thinks like this: Mom, I don't know what muddling along is, especially when I am doing what I like. I have no concept of time. If you say that to me, I will make a choice.

When the child says "no"

Mom would say, well, you can say "no". However, I want to hear your reasons for saying "no" so that I can understand you.

You can't say: you are a child, what do you know? Don't be so stubborn to me. This is for your own good. You must listen to me!

The child thinks like this: Mom, every time I say "no", you always refuse me. Actually, I want to be independent I want to prove that I have grown up. If you say this to me, I will bravely express my true thoughts.

When a child accidentally breaks something.

Mom would say: it doesn't matter. With this experience, it won't break down in the future. Everyone makes mistakes, even mom. Let's see if we can repair it.

Instead of saying: look at you, how can you be so careless! This thing is too expensive, so I won't buy it for you next time!

The child thinks like this: Mom, every time I break something and make a mistake, I am afraid that you will scold me and hit me. If you say this to me, I will feel that you can understand me. I will be careful and pay attention in the future.

When children don't want to talk to us.

Mom wants to say this: honey, mom feels you have something on your mind. Can mom help you? Tell mom, and you'll feel comfortable. Mom is worried about you.

Instead of saying, hey, I'm talking to you! What happened? What happened? Why are you ignoring people?

The child thinks like this: Mom, actually I just want to be alone. Sometimes, I think about my secrets. If you say this to me, I will think that you love me very much, and maybe I will tell you the secret.

When children are not playing with toys.

Mom wants to say this: Do you want to play for 5 minutes first and give him 10 minutes, or give him 5 minutes first and play for yourself 10 minutes, or give him another toy?

Instead of saying, give it to him later! Learn to share.

The child thinks like this: Mom, I like my toys very much. I don't want others to play with them. I'm afraid others will break them. If you say that to me, I might play another song for him.

When children cry to achieve their goals.

Mom would say: don't cry, let's work things out together. Calm down first. What do you want to say to me? Instead of saying, stop crying and you'll know what's the use of crying! Cry again and I won't want you!

The child thinks like this: Mom, when I cried before, you satisfied me and I got what I wanted. And crying is my instinct, and I haven't learned how to communicate.

If you "say that" to me, and you patiently teach me a new method, I will get another harvest.