Mother-in-law has no food, daughter-in-law goes home to eat instant noodles, and son orders takeout crazily. Is this unfilial?

The role that a man plays in marriage is actually many times more critical than imagined, because the fundamental reason why a mother-in-law doesn't like her daughter-in-law lies in her son, and if this wife can't be respected by her husband, it will be particularly difficult to live in this family for a long time. It is said that in marriage, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has a particularly classic paradox: but if mother-in-law and daughter-in-law don't get along well, in the final analysis, it is still on men! But this view does not apply to all conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, that is to say, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can't live in harmony, and the responsibility is not entirely on men. The most important factor affecting emotional ups and downs is not external factors, but one's own feelings and values. If you are a daughter-in-law who is indifferent to the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, will you still blame your husband for not standing on your side? Furthermore, if you are a caring daughter-in-law, even if your husband has various hobbies, in your heart, what your husband has done can't satisfy you.

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In fact, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the family has always been antagonistic, and it is just a gear that actively promotes family harmony. Only when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live in harmony can the relationship between husband and wife develop effectively and steadily, and the members of the whole family can live in a peaceful and happy atmosphere. This interlocking logic does not depend on one person, but needs the Qi Xin cooperation and tolerance of everyone in the family. A man's position should always understand the truth that "small family comes first". He can love his wife but can't spoil her, he can be filial to his parents but can't be stupid. When necessary, the role of a man is like a referee. Ensuring the fairness between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will often solve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law most effectively and directly. Xia still broke up with her mother-in-law, but this time, her husband stood on her side. The root of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should start from an old story. My husband was married once. Five years ago, she had a daughter with her ex-wife. My mother-in-law is particularly patriarchal, and her husband is the only child in the family. Her mother-in-law has always wanted a grandson.

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But because of the granddaughter, there is a deep hatred between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law. Her ex-wife can't stand the run of her husband's family, and would rather lead a clean life than divorce. Her husband is a dutiful son. Among her parents and ex-wife, she finally chose the former. Her 3-year-old daughter was married to her husband. It was not until Xia married this family that her mother-in-law's temper changed slightly. My daughter did wrong homework before and just started playing. She never understood the meaning of education, let alone love her children as much as her family. In her old man's heart, it is like resentment against her husband's ex-wife, and her mother-in-law always complains about her granddaughter. Of course, my daughter is young and sensible, but grandpa is not good to her. She never told her father that she didn't want him to quarrel with grandpa. Marriage is easy, but divorce is difficult, because all aspects involved in marriage can not be ignored by the word "divorce". If the marriage runs well, children are the hope of the couple. If the marriage is not well managed, the children will be hurt by the unfortunate marriage.

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Although she is the child's stepmother, Xia really likes children. Although she is said to be a stepmother, since she married into this family, her husband has paid great attention to the care of her children, and even her mother praised her. Xia is a good woman. However, the mother-in-law doesn't like Xia to treat her children like this. The more kind she is to her children, the more unhappy her mother-in-law is. Everything my mother-in-law hates, her family must follow her disgust. As long as she shows a trace of joy, it is bad for her mother-in-law. This twisted feeling has quickly planted the seeds of retribution. Night shift in summer, working from 6 am to 7 pm. Usually, all the family members finish their meals at 6 o'clock. Usually, the husband will choose some meals for his wife in the summer in advance. That night, my husband was talking with friends, so he didn't eat at home. Please go home after the talk and find his wife eating instant noodles alone in the room. The husband suddenly felt a little uncomfortable when he saw this scene. He got married for the second time and still had such a good wife. No matter what he says, he can't let her suffer.

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"Wife, didn't you leave the food at home? What is the nutrition of instant noodles? If you don't eat it, your body doesn't know how to cherish it! " The wife was very warm-hearted by her husband's words. Xia doesn't know the reason for the invitation. In fact, my mother-in-law deliberately left no food, preferring to waste the trash can rather than give it to her daughter-in-law. Xia, who has always been honest, didn't think much. She feels that there is nothing to eat at home, which shows that the appetite of the family has run out. It's no big deal to eat one more meal. Husband is not stupid. What this mother has done is actually to retaliate against Xia's warm invitation and care for her children. Her inner preference for sons not only needs the support of her family, but also implants this abnormal idea into her daughter-in-law's heart to realize her long-cherished wish of having grandchildren. When the husband walked into the trash can in the kitchen, he really poured the extra food into the trash can. Water under the bridge. The husband, as a man, keeps silent between his mother's fury and his wife's generosity. Then I picked up my mobile phone and ordered a takeaway from 500 yuan for my wife in the summer. His mother saw this scene and began to have opinions again.

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"You are a waste. That's not how you live. You are a group of losers. " The unbearable husband directly angered his face: "My wife loves me! I lost my family? Mom, I have put up with you for a long time. You would rather throw away the food than leave it to my wife. My mother is a family, so family members should love each other. You are not pleasing to the eye. If dad dies, sometimes I really want to scold you, but you can't push your luck, can you? Your daughter-in-law works overtime to make money, not all for this family. People don't dislike that I am a second marriage and have children. Where can I find such a daughter-in-law What is your conscience when an elder goes home to eat instant noodles? It's worth it. " A man's responsibility, besides knowing how to make money, is to be able to rationally maintain a fair and just attitude and respond effectively to the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Men who want to please their daughter-in-law and do their filial piety will not have a good end in the end, and often offend both sides. A man's attitude is important, but what a man does can't eliminate the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Take Xia He's mother-in-law in the article as an example. Even if the husband has a big opinion, if the mother-in-law can't realize her mistake from the bottom of her heart, this family contradiction will continue unless the son, daughter-in-law and the old man live separately. It seems that my husband doesn't understand filial piety and wants to fight back. In fact, this is a gesture that a real man dares to speak frankly. Filial piety is not a reason to condone each other's wanton behavior, and respect is mutual. Even between children and parents, please feel respect and promote the development of the relationship. There are not a few close family members, and cracks are common. So change your heart for your heart. If you treat each other with sincerity, you will naturally treat each other with sincerity, but only if the other person is not an unreasonable person. I also advised my mother-in-law how a family can have so many things to do.