How to be a good boy?

Educating children, in my opinion, is the most difficult thing in the world. First of all, determine what a good boy is. Different parents will have different answers. In fact, the standard of good children is set by parents, and this goal is also implemented by parents. Now, the standard of a good boy in society is universal; Obedience-especially parents' advice, excellent academic performance-it is best to take a part-time job, get into a good university-have a good job-can make a lot of money, and it is best to repay your parents on this basis. My answer is; Physical and mental health, honesty and kindness, practicality and kindness. My daughter has been admitted to a provincial key middle school, which seems to be the only topic that can be discussed. I'm a sophomore, and my academic performance is average. I can't play the piano (learning the piano for a year is equivalent to talking nonsense), I can't draw pictures, I can hum songs, I have never participated in interest groups since I was a child, and I haven't won any prizes. The school consciously does not work hard, does not do housework, can take care of itself, is a bit smooth and selfless, and is simple and kind in distinguishing right from wrong. I can't say filial piety, but I know manners and rules. Every year, two-thirds of the lucky money is donated to Project Hope. Whether she can get into a good university or have a good job, she is a good child in my heart and in the eyes of the public, although she is not a perfect child. Even if the future is an ordinary life, at least she is a dutiful person. The earlier children receive education, the better. Some parents think it doesn't matter that children are not sensible in early childhood. Relevant information report; Before the age of five, children's thinking, habits and personality have been stereotyped, and it is only a perfect process in the future. The later, the harder it is to change. My early education for children is mainly in the aspect of behavior norms. The specific method is: teach her manners and share with others. Give verbal praise, not material stimulation. Parents keep their word. After a child makes a mistake, he admits that he has not lied. Parents will not punish him, but educate and guide the child to reflect. It's best not to let children make the same mistakes often. Break the glass and pour water, laugh it off and tell you to be careful. It's a big mistake (rummaging through other people's things, taking things home, telling lies), being strict (only beating and not cursing, being tough once) and never tolerating it, so that she will always remember it and it will make sense in the future. Intellectual education mainly includes: often telling stories, getting in touch with nature and playing more. Children go to primary school mainly for supervision and guidance. However, at any time, children's moral education is the first. At this time, the child's ideology is growing, and some bad style in the society will affect her. Therefore, some disadvantages in society are also told to children to increase their ability to distinguish right from wrong. In view of the problem of children being bullied at school, parents had better not come forward easily and let the children solve it themselves. Parents can provide methods. For example; My daughter was very weak in the first grade and was often scratched by the boy next to her with a pencil. Her father was so distressed that he wanted to scare the little boy and I stopped him. I told my daughter; Tell the teacher first and warn him. If you don't change, fight back hard. At the same time, let her recite a quotation from the great leader Chairman Mao; People don't attack me, I don't attack. If people attack me, I will attack. In fact, she didn't really understand it, just told her what it meant. When the little boy bullied her again, the daughter tried her best to put the boy's head under the table and recited quotations, which surprised the teacher. Afterwards, the boys never bullied her again and treated her well. As for not being a class cadre, if you think you have the ability, you can run for office or volunteer yourself. Although others are not satisfied, you dare not go to class. Cultivate children's tolerance and generosity. Parents should pay special attention not to talk about others in front of their children, let alone make irresponsible remarks and haggle over interests. Junior high school and senior high school are children's adolescence and rebellious period. Communicate with children more than preach. We should talk about the pros and cons of puppy love and social phenomena, not kill them with a stick. The child is not ignorant, but a problem of poor management. In terms of learning, habits have been formed, as long as they are properly reminded and urged. And pay attention to it at will on the surface. Don't put too much pressure and expectation on children. Now, my daughter has a tight study task and little psychological pressure. I basically don't ask about academic performance. She and the teacher will pay it back, so why bother? She often says, "Don't worry, Mom, people like us are proud and can't be worse." The above is only mutual assistance. As long as the child is born, parents will never feel at ease.