The custom of crying in marriage

Weeping wedding is the crying and singing ceremony performed by the bride when she gets married.

The contents of crying marriage mainly include "crying for parents", "crying for brothers and sisters-in-law", "crying for sisters", "crying for uncles", "crying for guests", "crying for matchmakers", "crying for combing hair", "Crying for the ancestors", "crying on the sedan chair", etc.

The main content of "Crying to Marry" is to express gratitude to parents and elders for their upbringing and the care of brothers, sisters-in-law, brothers and sisters; it also expresses the sadness of the happy life of girlhood about to pass away and the confusion and uneasiness before the new life comes. Some of them vented their dissatisfaction with the marriage, their hatred of the matchmaker for a lifetime, and so on.

Extended information

Crying and singing usually begins half a month or a month before the bride gets married, and some even begin the process of crying and singing in the first three months. However, it was all off and on in the beginning. Feel free to cry. Relatives and neighbors come to visit with gifts, and whoever comes cries as a gesture of thanks. From the night before the wedding day to the second day when you get on the sedan chair, the crying marriage reaches its climax. The crying and singing during this period must be carried out according to traditional etiquette, and no random crying is allowed. Anyone who cannot cry will be laughed at and even discriminated against by others.

I heard from the old people that in the early days, there was no one who could not cry when getting married. If a girl gets married and does not cry, she will be regarded as an uneducated person by her neighbors and become a laughing stock. According to legend, there is a story of a married girl who did not cry and was beaten by her mother. Of course, the mother can be regarded as a leading director.

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