Mourn for grandma

Grandma finally left at the age of 94.

Attend the whole funeral without fear or special sadness. I just want to give her a good ride and send her to the grave.

It seems that most people's childhood is related to grandma.

This is especially true in our family. Everyone's childhood seems to be spent at grandma's house. I have more feelings for my grandmother than my mother.

From my home to my grandmother's house, I have walked countless times, and my memory is too deep.

The first one is a shortcut. You can walk there. There is a large persimmon forest and a river on the road, and sometimes there are boats in the river. There is a beach next to it, and many peanuts and sweet potatoes are planted.

Many interesting things will happen along this road. For example, stealing peanuts, sweet potatoes and persimmons, swimming across the river by boat and so on.

When I was a child, I was very shy and greedy, and I couldn't talk to others. A group of children secretly eat other people's food, but they feel very thrilling.

Actually, the main family is very good. They found us, said at most, and then personally brought us peanuts and persimmons to eat.

Taking a bath in the river is also carrying an adult.

In summer, a group of children run around the river like brown loaches.

Of course, there will be danger. For example, the eldest sister was once flooded, which was very scary and was saved by villagers working in the field.

The second road is a little farther, and you need to ride a bike.

At that time, they were all black bicycles, the kind that only my father or uncle could ride. There are many children at home, so my mother can only take one or two when she goes back to her mother's house, holding one and sitting on the beam.

Usually parents are too busy to have any parent-child interaction. Only on the way back to grandma's house by bike can we spend this wonderful time with them, which is equivalent to a small trip.

There is also a lot of scenery on this road, because there are reservoirs, so there will be many paddy fields on both sides of the road, a rare land of fish and rice in the north, and long winding dams.

Every time I talk about grandma's house, everyone always has a lot of memories.

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Grandma is an extremely hardworking and strong person. She is still helping her mother with her children in her fifties and sixties. Eighty or ninety years old, he still grows vegetables, farms and cooks for chickens and dogs.

Grandma spent her later years mainly with my uncle and my mother, but in the last stage, she was obsessed with my uncle.

My uncle was her first child. When she was extremely poor, she took out all her food and married a daughter-in-law.

The countryside is still an old saying: little magpies have long tails and forget their mothers when they bring their daughters-in-law. They separated, and my aunt and uncle never came back to see them.

Grandma was afraid because of the painful lesson left by marrying a daughter-in-law.

When my second uncle married a wife, she refused because the other person wanted to eat again, so my second uncle didn't marry a wife and is still single.

So my second uncle has been living alone with my grandmother, and he is almost sixty years old this year.

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After coming back from grandma's funeral, everyone sat at the door to rest. My husband and sister and I cook.

I looked around and there was sadness everywhere: my uncles, aunts and uncles in their seventies described them as gaunt and bony; My parents, my second uncle and my second aunt, all in their sixties, are exhausted.

The aging of families is getting more and more serious, and they have done their best for their grandmother who is over 90 years old.

On the day grandma was buried, her grandchildren came back, dozens of people, big and small. There were only a dozen people left when I visited the grave the next day.

Young people are too busy, so everyone goes home. The descendants of Yuanfen gradually dispersed, leaving only my mother, my second aunt, my third uncle and our sisters at home.

I can't imagine my second uncle after we all left. He is completely alone in this family.

I don't know what his mood is. Have you had a good time since grandma left? Or a person's sadness?

Mom is particularly sad. Since our sister got married, her whole life has revolved around her grandmother.

Although we often ask her to live in Luoyang, she always says that grandma is still here and can't leave. She rides an electric car back and forth between home and grandma's home every day, giving food and drink like going to work.

This makes her feel very meaningful and valuable, and it is also the only thing that makes her very motivated and motivated.

But grandma left, and her work came to an abrupt end.

My mother cries the most: I have no home to go back to.

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Actually, my mother has a bad temper. Although she provided a lot of materials for grandma, she didn't have intimate companionship and warm words.

I not only lost my temper with my grandmother, but also abused my father and my uncle. So no one appreciates her, no matter what she does, she is annihilated by her bad temper.

The elder sister said that we were not mature enough to accept our mother.

She is such a person, her life has come like this, and the past of life has made her like this. She is not the perfect mother in our mind. We should accept her as she is.

Indeed, only the eldest sister in the family can stand the mother's smelly temper. Except that my sister often calls her on her own initiative, our phone calls are so reluctant and scarce, and most of them are for my father.

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When I was leaving, a war broke out between my mother and my uncle, because my grandmother was going to hold a ceremony on May 7.

Mom means to do great things and not make a fuss. After all, grandma is also happy and sad, and she has never seen the scenery after working hard all her life. My second uncle objected. He wants to be quiet. He thinks money is for the living, so don't waste it. After all, he never mistreated grandma when she was alive.

I don't know why the quarrel is getting more and more fierce. Maybe both of them are in a bad mood and feel that the other party doesn't understand themselves. Even the second aunt who had stopped the fight was bombarded, so she quickly grabbed her things and walked first.

Grandma's funeral ended like this, and no one expected it.

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I used to hear people say that fighting between brothers and sisters was ridiculous, but it happened around me.

Why do people change so much when they grow up?

Why everyone likes children and doesn't like older children.

Sometimes I stare at my one-and-a-half-year-old penis for a long time, wondering why she is so cute and lovable.

She is so easily satisfied. Whoever gives her food and plays with her will be happy for a long time. The smiling little figure is very cute.

The older you get, the more demands you have, and the harder it is to meet. For example, a seven-year-old sister is much more difficult to deal with. So grandparents like to bring their second child and frown when they see the boss.

After all, children are children, which is very simple, but things between adults are too complicated.

If you are not related, it is easy to say that everyone has boundaries.

It is precisely between relatives that the sense of unconscious boundaries is blurred, all for the good of each other. I don't know if the other party wants it, if they want to pay, if they want it. Those who give are not understood, and those who take are taken for granted.

Just like between my mother and my uncle, my mother feels that she has been paying for my uncle and grandmother, but she has never realized each other's needs and feelings. She felt wronged that she couldn't understand, and her uncle felt that her mother's behavior made him depressed.

I don't know what they prayed at the funeral. I have only one hope in my heart: I hope grandma can bless her children to be as close as a family and not be separated because of her departure.