Talking about earrings

On the first day of the college entrance examination, my sister went to get her ears pierced and put on earrings that she had long liked.

In college, we all have such a situation: what we are afraid to do in front of our parents at home at ordinary times can be done at will when we get to college.

Before that, my sister didn't dare to wear earrings at all. If you are found not studying hard at home, you will be scolded badly by your aunt, not to mention wearing earrings, a rebellious thing.

At that time, in high school, she once saw a girl in her class wearing a super beautiful earring. After sharing this with my aunt, she just said "I think that earring is so beautiful" and was scolded by her aunt.

"Look at what good-looking. You should never be like that girl. Only bad girls wear earrings. "

My sister heard my aunt's tone was wrong, so she smiled and explained, "I just said, I would never do that."

Aunt nodded with satisfaction.

There is a saying that "only bad girls will do such rebellious things as wearing earrings." Where does a good girl wear earrings? "

It's just that the girls at that time didn't know that a few years later, earrings were already a kind of daily accessories, and it was no big deal.

Then why are you rebellious?

No one knows and no one will ask. At that age, saying something that adults don't agree with is "talking back."

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But my sister couldn't help wearing earrings after all.

When the third year of high school approached the college entrance examination, she sent me three photos of earrings on WeChat and quietly asked me, "Which one do you think is better?"

At that time, I was still in the first year of high school. No girl in our class wears earrings, and I don't even have the concept of earrings. I asked my sister curiously, "Sister, what is this?"

My sister sent me a smug expression pack: "I have never seen it. It's called earrings. Very trendy. "

If my sister hadn't told me, I might not even know that wearing earrings was so cool in high school for three years.

Later, my sister secretly put earrings on herself. When she comes home on weekends, she comes back by bike, and then hides in her room for fear that menstruation will see her get her ears pierced on the grounds of studying, whether it's eating or watching TV.

But paper can't wrap the fire. Once my aunt went to school to send her dinner without telling her sister in advance, so she saw her sister wearing earrings in the classroom.

My sister was severely scolded by my aunt in front of the whole class that day.

My aunt pointed to her earrings and asked loudly, "Look at you. You are the only one in the class who wears such a mess. It's really outrageous. Are you still like a high school student? "

My sister has been afraid to say a word. After that day, she silently took off her earrings. She is afraid that she will be labeled as a "bad boy".

Except for my sister, most of us are like this in real life, because we are afraid of being labeled as "bad children" and dare not do it or even think about things that seem rebellious.

But when we grow up, we will find that these things are really normal and have nothing to do with rebellion.

A large part of the reason is just that a group of adults are afraid of our premature contact, but why we can't get in touch too early or what harm it is, those adults actually don't know.

Many times, they just impose their emotions on us, and then call it relationship care.

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But do we deserve to be scolded?

In fact, I hate the saying that "rebellion is a bad boy" in my parents' mouth, and I hate that as long as we make a little different voice, my parents will be enemies with our ideas.

There is such a thing in senior three.

There are still two months before the college entrance examination.

There is no air conditioning in our school classroom, and it is really hot in Guangdong in summer. If I stay in the classroom for an hour, I will sweat. I have to take a bath at least three times a day.

I really couldn't bear to study in such an environment, so I said to the class teacher, "I want to go home and review for two months." The school is too hot to review. "

But when I said this, the class teacher's face changed.

I still remember what she said to me: "I can understand your idea, but everyone is insisting." You can't say that going home is unfair to others just because you feel that you can't stand it. "

Such an idea must be very rebellious in the eyes of the class teacher.

I retorted a little angrily, "Is it worth reviewing and sweating every day?"

But she refused my request on the grounds that "such an idea should not exist".

Although I finally went home to review at my strong request, I can understand that everyone seemed to think my ideas were rebellious during the whole process.

Or put it this way, people think I shouldn't have such a rebellious idea. In those months, I became a bad boy in everyone's eyes, and everyone thought I could go home and review.

I thought about it for a long time after I got home, and I couldn't figure out any rebellious ideas. Why can't there be a little different voice?

Just like my sister wears earrings, how to do something different and become what my aunt calls a bad boy?

What is even more frightening is not that we are rebellious, but that there is a powerful and terrible logic behind us. If you don't listen to me, you are making a mistake. If you violate it, you will be punished.

Does this look like a simplified version of "slave" education?

If you want to have your own hobbies, you can't disagree with your parents.

You want to take the initiative to choose which major and which university, but you can't because your elders don't agree.

If you want to stay in a city after graduation, that's no good, because you always keep your word.

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In fact, we do some rebellious things, which are really not as bad as our parents think.

And we do something that looks rebellious, is it really rebellious?

After more than a year in college, I failed at least three courses. In the eyes of teachers and parents, there is only one possibility, that is, they have not studied hard at ordinary times and must have played games again.

But do I really spend my time playing games?

No, because I want to do what I like, learn some skills I like, and even have no time to play games.

I don't know all the subjects I failed. I already planned it. Anyway, before graduation, I just need to pass all the subjects. Why should I worry if I fail?

We all know that those seemingly rebellious things are not really rebellious. We just say that some things we do may not be understood by our parents, so we are labeled as "rebellious", so we think we have failed in school.

Sister won't become a bad boy in menstruation's eyes just because she wears earrings.

I won't fail in college either. I just spend my time playing games.

I don't want to fail, but I'm a little rebellious now. I just failed a few courses, spent some time doing what I wanted to do, arranged my time reasonably, and gave all the failed courses before graduation. What's wrong with that?

However, our fathers always use their theories to stop us from doing anything rebellious, and even use coercive means to correct our behavior.

They will also explain to you, "It's all for your own good, and I don't think you want to be a bad boy."

Can rebellion be equated with bad boy? Is it correct that we must act according to our parents' theory?

There are many rebellious things in this world, and even some parents' behaviors are "rebellious" in our eyes, but have we said we missed them?

If rebellion is not a good boy, then I would rather be a bad boy in the eyes of my parents.

At least my life belongs to me. It's not terrible to take a detour and suffer. The terrible thing is that you have no choice.

finally

The post-1995 generation is often the most rebellious generation in the eyes of parents.

But it is precisely because of this rebellion that we have more possibilities and choices after 1995, and the world in our eyes has become rich and colorful, not just being a good boy.

It seems that everyone has forgotten why we "rebel" and what is the reason for our rebellion.

Rebellion is not for rebellion, but for our own growth, which is also a point that our generation has been misunderstood by our parents for too long.

Maybe there is no word "rebellion" in this world, but some people regard "rebellion" as a mistake in order to realize some absolute behavior in their mouth.

But this is wrong in itself, so I would rather be a "bad boy".

/kloc-after 0/995, we no longer agree that treason equals bad children.

And our rebellious behavior in the eyes of our parents is exactly what we least regret after 95.

When you grow up, you will find that boys who love to talk back to their teachers in junior high schools tend to be more organized, broader-minded and far-sighted than others when they grow up.

Girls who can make up in high school will be more diligent in the same group.

People who often break the rules and jump around in that university have richer life and experience than others.

It is better to be a good boy who is helpless and obedient than to be a person who has experienced thorns.

Above.