A poem with clear lines.

Jia Ni lived under the high-pressure control of his parents since he was a child, and all his food, clothing, housing and transportation were carried out according to his parents' plans. At first, Jia Ni could accept her parents' education, but as time went on, Janie became more and more disgusted with her parents' control, and even because of this, Jia Ni's grades plummeted. On this day, there will be a parent-teacher meeting in the class, and parents will sit together to exchange their parenting experiences. When parents are complaining that their children are not easy to discipline, the first parent in the class proudly said that he has never cared about his children's learning problems, and the children are very self-disciplined, and he did all his homework himself.

The parent also shared: In fact, if you take care of your children too much, they will be more rebellious and want to go out and see the outside world. On the contrary, if children are given a "free-range" educational environment and let them experience and learn by themselves, their independence will become stronger and stronger, and they will not have too many contradictions with their parents. If their children develop well, they may even thank you. Jenny's mother was deeply touched by this exchange meeting, and began to reflect on her own educational methods after coming back, and planned to gradually change the way of disciplining Jenny from now on. ...

The so-called "stocking" is to let children know and feel the world in a natural and relaxed environment according to the laws of their own physical and mental development, and accept social exercise earlier, so as to experience the fun. Both family education and school education should follow the natural law of children's development, and all activities and tasks should be as close to children's nature as possible.

As we all know, children's nature is to love to play, and it is easier to accept some new knowledge and skills in the process of playing, so as to gradually internalize them into their own abilities. Recently, a British primary school organized an activity to explore bumblebee foraging. In the eyes of these pupils, these scientific activities are like a game. The children actively explored and observed in this process, and soon observed the foraging habits and characteristics of bumblebees.

This way is much more interesting than learning boring book knowledge, and the knowledge that children learn through their own personal practice will be more impressive. Let the children leave their books to explore, and the activities should conform to the nature of students' love of play. Children are very willing to accept this kind of education, and the ultimate goal of education is to release nature and develop intelligence.

From ancient times to the present, many literati have been "stocked", such as Lu Xun, whose works range from "Hundred Herbs Garden" to "San Tan Yin Yue" and social dramas. In these works, his playful nature and longing for a free and interesting life are all revealed. Another example is the poet Shao Yanxiang, whose poems such as Children Flying Kites, Children Sticking Cicada and Children Catching Fireflies all reveal the beauty of childhood. If they have not experienced such an experience, it is difficult to write such a spiritual and fascinating work.

From the birth of the child, the parenting of the child has become a long and continuous process. In this process, parents are often used to taking care of and controlling their children. When society asks them to change their education methods and educate their children by "stocking", they will be very confused and think that stocking is to ignore and neglect their children. In fact, this idea is wrong.

We can't let children grow up blindly, but we also ask parents not to completely control their children's lives, so that children have no private space of their own and completely lose the ability to think independently. On the contrary, when they are difficult to distinguish right from wrong, good and evil, and when they are confused about the important decisions in life, we should give them some advice and guidance.

When faced with all kinds of good and bad information about right and wrong in this vast world, because children are young, their ability to distinguish right from wrong, self-control and willpower are still immature. At this time, parents need to be clear about what is right and wrong, so as to lay a solid foundation for their children to form a good outlook on life, world outlook and values.

There is an old philosophical truth that the sand in your hand is easy to run away if you hold it too tightly or too loosely. There is a song that goes like this: My best love for you is to let go of your hand! However, if we want to do "stocking", we should not let them keep it, and Yan Kuan should help each other. Knowing how to draw the necessary boundaries with children is the best education for children. If parents want to do this in their daily life, they must adhere to three principles.

1, establish a sense of rules for children

As the saying goes, "No rules can make Fiona Fang", it is very important to set rules for children in advance, because when children begin to know the world, they can't accurately distinguish right from wrong, so they will "run around" in this world, and various problems will follow. At this time, parents need to make certain rules for their children, tell them what to do and what not to do, and adopt appropriate educational methods according to their personality characteristics and development laws.

2. Make children aware of the sense of boundaries and draw the necessary boundaries.

It is children's nature to love to play, but children are always used to studying and living in this relaxed and happy environment. Once they encounter setbacks and difficulties, they will get away with it. They don't have a clear goal for themselves, and they don't have the motivation to persevere, so it's easy to give up halfway. Such children often have no sense of boundaries and do not know when and what to do. If this goal is clear, it is not easy to give up halfway, so they want to be better for their children.

3. Fully trust children and give them the choice.

Once a decision is made, parents will be "willing" to let go and insist on being a "lazy" mother. The "laziness" here is not to ignore children's affairs, but to learn to let go of "rights", which belong to children. In most cases, children only listen to and obey their parents, and have no right to express their opinions. Over time, children will become more and more timid and have no opinions, and parents should follow their children's nature. What?

The real "stocking" education is to put children's thinking into it and cultivate their behavior habits. And stocking is by no means laissez-faire. Parents should know how to assess the situation, manage those bears well when they are in charge, draw a clear line with their children, and let them develop good habits and abilities in an environment full of respect and equality.