What do you think of girls breaking up immediately when their parents invite their husbands to a roadside stall for dinner?

The combination of two people is never just a matter of two people, but a matter of two families.

However, when the two families haven't met, the first meeting with each other's parents basically represents the future combination of the two families. If the meeting with the parents of the other party is unpleasant, most of the marriages will not be happy.

Some people will say that marriage is run by two people and has nothing to do with parents. Actually, it has a lot to do with it Most young couples don't live alone, so getting married means integrating into each other's family. Then the good or bad of this family can't just depend on how the young couple get along.

Therefore, seeing parents before marriage is often a major reason for couples to break up. A good partner does not mean that he has a good family. This is a very realistic problem that we have to consider. If you wait until you get married and find that you are not suitable to live with your partner's family, it will be too late.

Xiao Zhang met her boyfriend Xiao Wang online before graduating from college. At first, she thought online dating was unreliable, but after meeting each other, she found that the other person really met all her imagination. Although the other person's family is average and his education is average, his personality is excellent, so the relationship between the two people has developed by leaps and bounds soon.

Xiao Zhang is from Guangdong. Although the conditions at home in the countryside are not very good, he still has a house. However, Xiao Zhang's house was newly built for his brother's future marriage, but his parents always treated Xiao Zhang equally, never mistreated Xiao Zhang, and made Xiao Zhang can grow up happily, never feeling that he was missing anything.

Boyfriend's family is different. Xiao Wang's family is in Hunan, and the only house in the family is reserved for her boyfriend's younger brother to get married. For Xiao Wang, the attitude at home is that she can only take one son, that is, Xiao Wang's younger brother. To put it bluntly, Xiao Wang and Xiao Zhang will not have a wedding room in the future, and Xiao Wang's family will not care.

Moreover, although her boyfriend has worked for several years and has no savings, he even put forward the idea of adopting a younger brother to carry on the family line, saying that it is enough to have a younger brother at home, but it is so simple to adopt a son-in-law. The family will not let her marry a foreigner, and Xiao Wang, who is from a poor family, is even less likely to adopt a son-in-law. Xiao Zhang has a good relationship with his brother and sister, so no one in the family knows about his love affair, only Xiao Zhang's brother knows.

My boyfriend always wanted to get married as soon as possible. Before Xiao Zhang graduated, he put forward the idea of taking Xiao Zhang back to his hometown in Hunan to meet his parents this year. But Xiao Zhang didn't tell his parents about her boyfriend at home at all. Of course, he couldn't find his parents to make up his mind, so he had to ask his brother for advice. Seeing that my sister really likes her boyfriend, I have the responsibility as a brother. For the sake of his sister's happiness, he made up his mind and agreed to let her boyfriend go home to see his parents and take care of it.

In fact, Xiao Zhang also asked many friends around him. Most people think that Xiao Wang is unreliable. He has worked for so long without saving money or buying a house, and even wants to adopt her family. Besides, it's a bit urgent to meet his parents after a long relationship.

However, Xiao Zhang took the high-speed train to Hunan with the idea that her brother had agreed to let her go to her boyfriend's hometown. Actually, she didn't care that much. She doesn't care about the result of meeting her parents this time, because she thinks falling in love and getting married is their business. As long as they have feelings, everything can be put aside.

After getting dressed, Xiao Zhang went to Xiao Wang's house with a carefully selected fruit basket and met Wang's parents, Xiao Wang's brother and sister-in-law. When we first met, Xiao Zhang had a good impression on her boyfriend's family. Although the family is not rich, her boyfriend's relatives are quite simple, which makes Xiao Zhang feel at ease.

But when it's time for dinner, I haven't seen my boyfriend's house for a long time. Xiao Zhang has a little drum in his heart. After all, when we meet for the first time, we always say hello to the guests. When Xiao Zhang comes, he thinks that if he cooks for himself, he can help and show his own.

But it wasn't until late in the morning, after twelve o'clock, that my boyfriend's house got up slowly. In order to do his best, he invited Xiao Zhang to a restaurant for dinner. Xiao Zhang was flattered at first, but her boyfriend still attached great importance to himself. After all, the Wangs' family is average, so eating out is better than coming at home.

But what I didn't expect was that Xiao Zhang was invited to dinner, but the Wangs and his party didn't even ask her opinion. Instead, I kept asking Xiao Wang's brother's opinion, and then I took her to a roadside stall near my home, a place to eat grilled fish.

Xiao Zhang was a little confused at the time. She never imagined that the first time she met her boyfriend's parents was at a food stall, and the other parents didn't consider that she was from Guangdong and didn't eat spicy food. She ordered the hottest grilled fish.

Xiao Zhang kept winking at her boyfriend, but her boyfriend hinted at her forbearance with his eyes. Don't comment at this time, just as her boyfriend reminded her when she left home, pretend to be good and show yourself well.

Xiao Zhang has heard from her boyfriend many times that his brother is especially spoiled by his whole family, and his boyfriend has no choice but to be embarrassed. Considering her boyfriend's situation, Xiao Zhang had to put up with it, but his heart still didn't taste good.

She suddenly felt that this was not the same person as the considerate boyfriend she usually knew. If two people get along normally, her boyfriend leaves her everything. When she reaches the border of her boyfriend's house, everything will change.

But even more incredible things happened at the dinner table. Xiao Wang's mother has been talking about Xiao Wang's younger brother and sister-in-law. It seems that everyone is sitting together for Xiao Wang's younger brother today. Xiao Wang doesn't care at all, and seems to be used to it.

Then the topic talked about the marriage of Xiao Wang's younger brother. Mother Wang talked about her daughter-in-law: "My daughter-in-law is worth it. We didn't pay a penny for the bride price, and the wedding didn't cost zero, saving money, or my youngest son can do it. " Xiao Zhang suddenly didn't know how to reply. Doesn't he want a bride price himself?

Xiao Zhang knows that this is unrealistic. His hometown attaches great importance to weddings. It is not only impossible not to do it, but also to do it with great fanfare. In his hometown, not only the man's family has to do it, but also the woman's family. Don't say much about the bride price and dowry, at least have it. Otherwise, it will make people laugh generously, and parents will never be able to lift their heads.

Even if I like my boyfriend again, I can't rush in with my bag. When I was still wondering why Xiao Wang's sister-in-law could accept it, I looked at Xiao Wang's sister-in-law. After hearing this, her face was not very good, and she lowered her head, as if she had become accustomed to her mother-in-law's words.

She has been picking up food for her husband, without taking a few bites, and dressed simply, but Xiao Wang's younger brother is dressed brightly, not like a couple at all.

The girl doesn't talk much, and her cautious appearance is incompatible with the excitement of this family. Xiao Zhang has a general idea in his heart. This family regards marrying a daughter-in-law as a free nanny! I feel horrible. I didn't know, but I was shocked.

This trip to Hunan made Xiao Zhang have mixed feelings. When he came back, he was afraid to tell his brother the truth. He was afraid that his brother would be angry, so he had to discuss it with his friends around him, and his friends were as angry as her. How could he casually talk about the bride price at the dinner table where he first met?

It seems that Xiao Wang's sister-in-law is actually mentioning Xiao Zhang, suggesting that there is a routine before being a daughter-in-law of the Wang family, so that Xiao should not be given a bride price. This move is really troublesome. Even the lines were prepared in advance, and I was disappointed with my boyfriend. I didn't even mean to help her after hearing such words.

Moreover, Xiao Zhang's friends don't understand what Xiao Wang's parents are doing at the grilled fish stall. How can they be so casual? At least I can see that Xiao Zhang officially came to see his parents, dressed like a fruit basket, but the man's parents didn't even do superficial work.

Xiao Zhang seems to see his future in Xiao Wang's sister-in-law. As soon as her heart tightened, she began to seriously examine this relationship.

Xiao Wang knew that his girlfriend had been wronged when she went home with him this time, so she had to explain to her: "Our family had a hard time before, and adopted me to a relative's house until I was in my teens. When I got home, my brother was born and my parents were very kind to him. Even I can only obey his wishes.

I'm used to my brother nodding at our family's big and small things. On the contrary, I lived a little warm at home before I was a teenager. My relatives are very kind to me and regard me as their own son.

My brother got married last year, and my family didn't discuss it with me. It is the default to give my brother the house as a wedding room. I have to rely on myself, either earn it myself or marry a wife. But don't worry, if you want to live in Guangdong, I have nothing to say. I can adopt my son-in-law to your home, and my parents agreed. "

Xiao Zhang thought about it and of course agreed. Not only does the son-in-law not have to spend money on bride price, but according to the custom, even his family has to give the Wangs a sum of money.

Although listening to these words, Xiao Zhang is distressed by her boyfriend, but a yard is a yard. Xiao Zhang has determined that the Wangs are not suitable for marriage through this meeting.

If the boyfriend can speak for her, win some face for her and show her importance, that's all, except that the boyfriend didn't try to speak for her in front of her parents. After marrying into the Wang family, I'm afraid everything is like this, and I'm full of anger.

Because I met my parents this time, the relationship between them is not as good as before. Xiao Wang kept talking about adoption as always, and Xiao Zhang only felt the pressure doubled. She found that marriage was not just about two people, so Xiao Zhang broke up soon.

Her boyfriend naturally disagreed. He desperately wanted to keep Xiao Zhang, but although Xiao Zhang loved her boyfriend, he still dared not be soft and completely broke contact with her boyfriend.

"I didn't marry you for material things, but your family really makes me unacceptable. They don't respect me, they don't respect me now, and they don't respect me in the future, so I'm sorry, I'm the little princess of my parents, and I can't suffer from your family. Please let me live. "

In fact, from the experience of seeing her boyfriend's parents, we can see how much a family affects the feelings of two people. Zhang was very satisfied with her boyfriend, but by knowing her boyfriend's family, her definition of marriage changed.

This is actually a good thing for Xiao Zhang. Through this time, Xiao Zhang decided to cut the gordian knot and cut off the possibility of marrying Xiao Wang. This is a very wise decision. Otherwise, if Xiao Zhang marries into Xiao Wang's family, I'm afraid he will face more grievances.

Although it is important to have a suitable family, Xiao Zhang didn't abandon Xiao Wang because of his poor family, because she thought that the future life was created by herself, but it was the end of meeting her parents. This is because the essence of marriage is the integration with a family and cannot be separated from nature.

A good family will add color to the life of husband and wife, and a bad family is doomed to a tragic ending. If you haven't started yet, people have no confidence to go on, so why choose to combine with this person and the family behind this person?

Xiao Zhang's boyfriend's responsibility cannot be shirked. Their breakup was not just about family. The performance of her boyfriend disheartened Xiao Zhang. If Wang Can Jr. stands up and expresses his dissatisfaction when his parents are talking, it will at least make Xiao Zhang feel that he will not be lonely in the future, instead of putting her in an isolated situation as he is now. After all, Xiao Wang didn't give Xiao Zhang enough security.

Boyfriend can't make up his mind and doesn't take responsibility as a man. Family is important, but it may not be as important as expected. However, the man's attitude is the key consideration. Xiao Zhang's boyfriend's attitude exposes his fatal shortcomings that he will not strive for any benefits for his girlfriend in the future and has no opinion.

Therefore, the combination of the two sides is not a single combination, but the integration of the two. To be precise, it is more about your personal integration into the other family, because after all, parents rarely live together.

And your partner is a bridge to help you integrate into his family. If this bridge is not reinforced concrete, but a bean curd residue project, then even if there is no problem today, it will still lay a hidden danger for your future marriage life, and it will detonate this time bomb sooner or later.

Therefore, the family quality of the partner and the auxiliary strength of the partner are indispensable. Therefore, when we enter this stage of marriage, we should not easily think that it is a matter of two people.

Through Xiao Zhang's story, it tells us that when considering marriage, we should realize that there are still many things we have to do, not only to manage the relationship between ourselves and our partners, but to try our best to examine each other's integration ability, the quality of each other's family and the acceptance of our own family, and to consider whether we are suitable for marriage at this time from all angles.

However, many people still advocate hot-headed flash marriage, which is romantic and fashionable, and that marriage depends on a little impulse.

They only see the romance on the surface, but ignore the integration of the two families behind them. Maybe what awaits them is unspeakable pain.

Therefore, girls still have to cheer up and consider each other and their families, which is related to all aspects of the quality of marriage, but they have to go to a special university to ask.