What does it mean that there are many things in front of the widow's door? What is the first half of the sentence? But little is known.

As the saying goes, "There is more snow in front of the widow's door", why is the first half of the sentence rarely mentioned?

"There are many things in front of a widow's door" is a well-known saying, and few people have never heard of it.

But this sentence is only the second half of the proverb, and what the first half is is little known. It's not that people don't want to talk about it, but that too few people know it.

So what is the first half of this sentence? ? "There is less smoke on the widower's roof."

Why do you say "there are many things at the widow's door"?

What do you mean there are many things in front of the widow? Widows are men who have lost their husbands. Why are there so many things at the widow's door? Because a woman's life after losing her husband is very sad, and she will encounter unexpected difficulties in life.

In the past, men were independent, whether they were doing business in the sea or fishing by boat; Cutting firewood, transplanting rice seedlings and weeding in the fields are the hopes of the whole family.

A woman with a husband only needs to cook at home, look after the children and wash clothes. In today's words, she is a husband and a child, and she doesn't have to worry about anything and sit back and relax.

But after losing my husband, I have to face the pressure of life alone, and I need to face the wind and rain, and my weak shoulders are overwhelmed.

In this case, the widow is helpless, very difficult, often Lacrimosa, sighing for the sky. Every woman who has lost a man has a lot to say, tears to shed, and someone to talk to. I really hope someone will share it.

Supposedly, a distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor, and the widow's neighbors should lend her a helping hand. But wait a minute, if you were her neighbor, you wouldn't have thought of this. If you help her, you will hurt her.

Because everyone in the village focused on the widow's door after dinner. Whoever greets the widow and does something for her will be thoroughly studied and analyzed by the gossiping village women. After processing, the news soon spread to the outside.

Whoever comes closer to the widow, they talk vividly with their noses and eyes.

Within a meal, I will definitely make a fuss about you, which is well known to all women and children, spreading more vigorously than paparazzi, and causing more sensation than celebrity blind date.

They have no other skills, just want to see the widow's jokes and don't want the widow to live well.

My neighbor's eldest brother's father lost his grandfather when he was four years old, and grandma supported the family by herself, but many men at the door harassed her with malicious intentions, and honest people would be chewed up if they went to help her normally. His grandmother couldn't stand the gossip of others, so she hanged herself, and his father became an orphan early.

In the past, once a woman lost her husband, it was difficult to survive, or she committed herself to others, gained benefits, and was gossiped and looked down upon by her children. Either you dare not talk nonsense all day, even so, gossip will be overwhelming.

If you don't go out, they say you are hiding at home, and there are ghosts in your heart; You want to go out, they say you come out to seduce men. In short, in the old society, widows were hard to distinguish between inside and outside.

In ancient rural areas, if a widow is targeted by a gossip and has sex, how can she live in the future? I'm sure she will drown in saliva.

What does "widowers smoke less on the roof" mean? There is little smoke on the widower's roof, among which "widower" is a man who has lost his wife, and "widower" comes from Mencius? There is a saying in Liang Xia that "an old man without a wife is widowed, and an old man without a husband is widowed".

Some people say that "widower" is an old bachelor, which is not entirely correct. A "widower" is a bachelor, but it includes a man who has married a daughter-in-law, married a family, and lost his wife. He must be an old man in age. Young bachelors cannot be regarded as "widowers".

In other words, a single man who has lost his wife can only be considered a "widower" when he is old, and in the old saying, he is old without a husband? Single women whose husbands have died are called widows, but later they have evolved into widows of all ages as long as there are no men.

To put it bluntly, a widower is a man who can never have a second wife. Because in the past, the elderly in rural areas had no financial resources and no pension, it was difficult to maintain their lives. Remarriage is out of the question.

"A widower has less smoke on the roof" refers to a widowed single old man who is left unattended, hungry, full, born and cooked, and rarely makes a fire to cook, so it is easy to see smoke on the roof.

Because there was no coal for cooking in the past, there was no induction cooker or gas stove, so we could only burn firewood. Chimneys on the roof should be designed to smoke. Only people who cook smoke from the chimney on the roof.

So why is this sentence not often said now? Because both modern people and ancient people only care about state affairs and erotic news in society? . Everyone will be attracted by the news made by a young widow. It is hard to arouse people's curiosity when they see the news that the widowed old man has a hard life. Whether widowed or widowed, it is not uncommon for widowed old people to die in the house, and no one cares.

With the development of the times and the progress of society, we should pay more attention to the elderly who have lost their parents, so that this poor group can also taste the dividends after social and economic development, in order to avoid the current situation of "widowers cook less cigarettes on the roof".

There is an old saying in the countryside that widows have a lot to do? Don't say it's a household name, but many people know that the last sentence associated with him is rarely mentioned, and even many people don't know the last sentence, that is, there is less smoke on the widower's roof? . I looked up a lot of information about the origin of this sentence, but I didn't find its true origin, which can be roughly regarded as an old saying handed down from the people? One of them. About the theory of widowhood, as early as in the Book of Rites, those who are widowed without a father are lonely, those who are old without children are alone, those who are old without a wife are widowed, and those who are old without a husband are widowed? . Made an accurate description of widowhood.

It can be said that this sentence is only a superficial phenomenon, but in essence it is full of too much bitterness and helplessness of singles at that time. I remember when I was a child, there was an old man named Liu in our front yard, who was over 70 years old. His wife died when he was 60. Because he has no children and daughters all his life, he lives alone in two small grass houses that have not been maintained for many years. It was a shabby scene, and winter was fine. You can often see smoke from the kitchen stove. Perhaps it is because it is too cold in winter that he has to make a fire to cook, but in summer, he has to cook.

Get to the point, then why is the previous sentence rarely mentioned? There may be two reasons for the analysis: one is that the first half sentence is too famous and the existence of the first half sentence is lost. Perhaps since the beginning of human history, women's affairs have been a hot issue, even this sentence is no exception. There are not many things in front of the second half widow? In this word-of-mouth communication, there is less smoke on the widower's roof? There is no chance to be a green leaf, so few people have mentioned it so far.

The other is that there was no entertainment in the past, at the widow's door? It has become an important topic that rural women talk about. I remember when I was a child, I could always see some rural women sitting in the shade of the roadside, chatting while holding the soles of their shoes, laughing and enjoying themselves. After talking about the parents in the east and the family in the west, what may be said most is what the widow borrowed today. Yesterday, her dog bit her. Some people even said that it is better to have more children than to have fewer children. What about the widower? We may not have much interest in something, so the more we talk about it, the longer it spreads, the less we know, and the first half of this last sentence will be lost in the long river of history.