What if children are not responsible for learning to take care of themselves?

First, cultivate self-care ability, high requirements, low standards, accompanied by praise

There should be different standards for self-care of food and clothing for people of different ages and situations. Originally, it was entirely possible for the first-grade children to dress themselves, eat themselves and tidy their schoolbags. However, many parents use saving time for their children to study as an excuse to help them dress, feed their children and tidy up their schoolbags. Over time, the child will naturally wait for us to dress him and help him pack his schoolbag. I can't pack my schoolbag, so there will be a phenomenon that parents go to school to send homework to their children, and there will be a phenomenon that learning tools are bought every day and lost every day. Children have this habit of relying on their parents to help them do things, and it is impossible to do it by themselves at once. At this time, as parents, we can temporarily lower our self-care standards and give our children praise.

Taking Xiaoguo's children as an example, it can be seen from Xiaoguo's narrative that children eat by themselves. Why not praise the child and say, "You are really capable of taking care of yourself and can eat by yourself!" " Praise him for eating, and then encourage the child to do other things by himself. No matter what children do, even if they eat an apple, we should praise what children can do. As parents, we should learn to discover and amplify the advantages of our children and have enough patience. So parents should not complain, "It's useless to praise him." It's not useless, but as parents, we are too eager for quick success. We hope that once we boast, our children will reach our desired standards immediately. Think back to how we taught children to walk and talk. Teach children to take care of themselves by teaching them to walk and talk. I believe that with our encouragement, praise and patience, the child will certainly become a person with strong self-care ability.

Second, in order to form good study habits, parents should first set an example.

Xiao Guo said that his children are not enthusiastic about learning. I want to ask Xiao Guo what is learning enthusiasm. I guess Xiao Guo's enthusiasm for learning should be to do homework as soon as the children come back, and even read books after finishing their homework. In fact, this is a good study habit. So when each of our parents asks their children to do it, they do it themselves? I think the answer should be whether to settle down more. Many parents don't do this. You know, children's imitation is the strongest, and the power of example has the greatest influence on children. As parents, have we set such an example for our children? Many parents will say that we are too busy for life every day to set an example for our children. In this case, don't blame the child, because there is no learning atmosphere at home after he returns home.

In fact, learning is not the hobby of all parents, and we can't ask every child's hobby to be learning. But one thing can be unified. Our parents should try their best to do their own jobs, so should our children. Their job is to study. In this sense, children should try their best to do their own work. We know the importance of work better than children, and we know that we should work hard, so will we sneak out to play whenever we have the chance? Therefore, anyone who likes to play is the same, let alone a child. In the face of children's playfulness, we should not be anxious, let alone sad. We should be happy because we have a child who is very healthy physically and mentally. Just being happy is not enough. We should also set a good example for our children and guide them to work and study by themselves like us.

Third, different children, different treatment, cultivate self-confidence

Children are interested in reading at first sight, and they are happy to read with the teacher for the first time. The children's homework for the first time was also full of curiosity and hope ... but later, with the joint efforts of our parents and teachers, many children's initial interest was stifled by us. Both teachers and parents ignore the individual differences of children and demand every child with the same standards, and the standards we give are often those so-called "top students". If children are required by such standards, a large number of children will often be frustrated in their self-confidence because they can't reach their goals, which will eventually lead to giving up learning. At the same time, as parents, we are always dissatisfied with the performance of our children, and always take the place where our children are insufficient to the place where we are superior to other children. In this way, children are even less confident. In fact, we should not compare ourselves with others, but with ourselves today and yesterday. As long as today is better than yesterday, it is progress, and we should be happy!

Xiaoguo said that the homework left by the teacher at the children's school was completed by other children one hour after school. Personally, I feel that this homework is not only a lot but also a lot. So much homework increases the burden on children and makes them afraid of learning. With so much homework, the child can still finish it, which shows that the child is great and worthy of praise. Even if people all over the world look down on their children, as mothers, we should praise our children with tears in our eyes. So since the child did it, we should praise it. We should do everything possible to avoid it. When a child is studying, he won't even be told n times. We should not blame him. A reprimand will make him feel that he needs to be disciplined in his studies, which will reduce his interest and self-confidence.

Fourth, trust and let go, respect children's hobbies.

Xiao Guo said that children lack the initiative to learn. I guess there is another reason-Xiao Guo is too strict with children. Even if she finishes her homework, she probably won't allow her children to play with what she likes. I think we can tell our children to play whatever they want after finishing their homework. But you can't just talk without practice, you must honor it. Xiaoguo said that children in kindergarten like to play with children. I think this is just our parents' personal opinion. But for children, it is her favorite. We have no reason to ask others to give up what they like and accept what we like. As for hobbies, I think we all know that we should not judge by age. For example, I will be 40 years old soon, but I still like to indulge myself in eating snacks and watching cartoons. Therefore, let the children play as they like. As long as he finishes his study task, he can let go of playing. As parents, we fully respect our children, including their hobbies and interests.

Fifth, guide children to "the ocean of books"

Everyone knows that reading is a wonderful thing for children. However, many parents find that no matter how much they ask their children, they just don't study. First of all, parents break through the past narrow thinking and know that children should read widely, not just textbooks. However, how to guide children to fall in love with books and swim in the ocean of books has always been a puzzling problem for many parents.

Sixth, communicate with teachers actively.

Whether teachers or parents, our goal is the same, that is, to let children study hard, for the future of their children, so we should take the initiative to communicate with teachers. The premise of communicating with teachers is to respect them. For example, as Xiao Guo said, children can talk to the teacher privately after finishing their homework for an hour. Is there too much homework? By actively communicating with the teacher, you can always know the performance of the students at school, and at the same time let the children feel the concern of their parents, and he will study harder! Moreover, you take the initiative to communicate with the teacher, instead of being invited after you feel that the child is angry or has done something wrong. The teacher will think that you are very concerned about the child's study and will care more about the child under your influence.