If you have a daughter at home, which three sentences should you say without making a joke?

While waiting for the bus at the bus stop, my best friend said: "Children these days are very soft-hearted. I said something to my daughter because she was playing with her mobile phone while eating, and she locked herself in the room and refused to come out. , I was so anxious outside the door..."

Nowadays, children are under great pressure to study and peer pressure, so parents should pay more attention to the expression of love. If you have a daughter, there are certain things you can’t say, even if they are jokes.

1. It is useless for a girl to go to school, so she might as well marry into a good family.

This sentence is exactly the same as the idea of ????"valuing boys over girls". It is believed that girls will marry into other families sooner or later. , going to school costs a lot, and some parents feel they are at a loss. Others believe that "academic qualifications do not mean everything", and even believe that a girl's "lack of talent is virtue" and that marrying a good family is considered a success, emphasizing the concept of "female virtue". Since these two ideas have a long history, they are not in line with the trend of the new era. For the flowers of the motherland that are advancing with the times, they are at the turn of the century and will reject this kind of thinking and deny their own value and efforts.

If these words are often said to daughters, they will cause them to have an inferiority complex and affect their daughters' views on mate selection and values. Girls who are immersed in these concepts will think that they need to rely on a good man for their whole life, losing their life motivation and wasting their youth. Once a girl cannot survive independently, the parents will become the biggest sinners. Therefore, it is particularly important for children to develop independent, self-respecting, self-loving and self-improvement characters, and to be able to make their own judgments. The prerequisite for all this is to allow daughters to see the world, learn knowledge, understand all aspects of life, and understand their own life path. .

2. The water thrown out by the married daughter

Some parents will joke to their children, "The water thrown out by the married daughter will mean that you will belong to someone else's family in the future." . The children may not react to these words at the time, but they may feel unbalanced, may quarrel with their parents, or even run away from home in severe cases.

This is because girls are different from boys in that they are more sensitive by nature, have delicate minds, have strong self-esteem, and love face. Parents may inadvertently make their children feel inferior, lack love and security, and think of themselves as "losers" and unpopular. In the long run, it may lead to depression in severe cases.

Dads and mothers, your son is a fur coat, and your daughter is your own little cotton-padded jacket.

3. From now on, you must be obedient in your husband’s family

As the old saying goes, “It is difficult to raise a villain and a girl.” Mothers compare their hearts to each other, as they are both girls. Such words are undoubtedly like a handful. Scissors. Some organizations and groups that advocate "female virtues" use the guise of "pseudo-feminism" to teach girls "three obediences and four virtues, men are superior to women, and wives are the guide of children." They say they are promoting traditional Chinese culture, but in fact they are dross.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been the number one problem in the world since ancient times. Every family has its own scriptures that are difficult to recite. It is difficult for upright officials to handle household affairs. Filial piety is the embodiment of children's qualities, obligations and responsibilities. In daily life, parents set good examples for their children, teachers in school teach children moral character through words and deeds, and the general environment in society teaches children to be gentle, courteous, and thrifty, so children will not go astray.

What we raise in our daughters is character, self-respect, self-love, and independent personality. Telling the children that grandma's family must be obedient in the future should be based on preconditions - is the husband's family's words correct? The child will think that it is his own fault to deny his in-laws, and being obedient for a long time will cause a backlog in the child, and eventually the child will explode out of control. Women in the new era should tell their children to live for themselves, not to rely on boys or their husband's family. They know what is right and will also judge what is wrong.

Girls have rich inner emotions, tend to think too much, have a glassy heart, love face and have strong self-esteem, and may be a little arrogant. Parents are their children's first teachers, and their words and deeds can easily affect their children's lives. Especially for girls who are in the rebellious period of adolescence, parents should pay more patience and attention to their children, and be more understanding and caring.