What you don't let your child do, the child will do it secretly.

What you don't allow your child to do, will the child not do it in the future?

On the other hand, children will not stop doing things that their growing experiences and growing daughters "explicitly forbid" or don't want their children to do.

Not only did they do it, but they also hid it more secretly, making it difficult for you to find it. I believe many parents have this experience.

When eating, the mother-in-law video. Chatting, my mother-in-law suddenly said loudly, "How did you cut your bangs like this?" Next, I looked at my daughter's forehead. She smiled at me with a shy expression and put her hand on Liu Hai.

At that time, I was particularly curious to see the degree of cutting, which was the latest. The brain runs quickly and enters the "solving case" mode. There was no change last night, only when cooking at night or cutting in the morning. Ask your daughter, tell her I don't know, or tell her I won't tell you.

She used to cut it, too. Long time no see. I don't know why I remember it again. As usual, watching her "masterpiece" did not reprimand her, but brought us jokes.

Now that I think about it, I said something that hurt my child's self-esteem-the cut bangs looked like idiots. Although we laughed and laughed, we were more or less affected.

Later, I told her earnestly that she was not suitable for Liu Hai at present. She has a lot of broken hair in front, and her face can be without bangs. She asked me, why do you have bangs?

"Because the stylist told me that I have a forehead and a tattoo on my head. These are shortcomings and need to be covered with bangs. " She asked what is a head tattoo? After showing her the demonstration, I went to the mirror to verify it myself.

Then tell her that if you want to cut bangs, you can tell me and I can cut them for you. It's not guaranteed to look good, but it's much better than what you cut.

Let her pick up the garbage and take it down before going out this morning. When she was tidying up, she told me that this was her hair cut and that she would hide it from me after cutting it.

In order not to let me find out, I seem to intentionally or unintentionally block my bangs, go downstairs earlier than me and put on my hat. ...

You see, business as usual may become a tool for children to hide the truth.

Many children's behavior is not right or wrong, just for fun. Everything is childlike innocence. What adults lack most is childlike innocence.

Children will try anything they think of. Instead of scolding children and letting them suppress their inner curiosity, it is better to support and encourage them to try. As long as it is safe and does not touch the bottom line, I think it is acceptable.

Even under your "explicit prohibition", children will act sooner or later without your knowledge.

Instead of this, it is better to be with him, and the distance between the heart and the child is closer. If the parent-child relationship is harmonious, the problem will not exist.

Source: network, invasion and deletion.