Reconciliation with oneself and Healing Inner Innocence Reading Notes (10)

What we should do is to talk to our inner children. We invited him to show up, get familiar with the present life and live in the present. This is a kind of practice and also a kind of training. When we live in the present, we won't suffer the pain brought by the past. At present, we can see many beautiful and positive conditions. We hold hands with our inner children and play together, deeply touching the beauty of life. This is an exercise.

Because we have a natural tendency to be nostalgic, sometimes we need the support of others. If the people we trust help us at this time, learning will be easier.

All desires are the continuation of our original desire for security. The inner child will continue to worry and feel scared, but it is not difficult or threatening for us at the moment. If there are no problems now, we won't have any problems. Why should we continue to worry and be afraid? We should pass this wisdom on to the inner child and let the inner child know that he doesn't need to be afraid.

We can go up the mountain alone, walk among plum trees or vines, and talk to our inner children. We can say, "My dear little brother, I know you are suffering. You are my inner child, and I am you. We have grown up and don't need to be afraid anymore. We are safe and have a way to protect ourselves. Come on, stay with me and live in the moment. Don't let the past imprison us. Come on, hold my hand, let's walk together and enjoy every step of the moment.

We can talk to our inner child, hold his hand, take him to the present and enjoy the life here and now.

If we spend fifteen minutes talking to the fragile children like this, we will find the primitive fears buried deep in our hearts. Just like boiling a pot of water, when the water boils, the steam will push the lid. If we remove the lid, steam will come out of the pot, and the problem will not exist. Steam no longer produces pressure because it has been released.

Help the inner child release the pain.

We need to talk to our inner child, let him speak and let him express himself, which is equally important. If we didn't have a chance to express ourselves in childhood, let's give our inner children a chance to express themselves now.

Take two cushions, put them face to face, sit on one cushion and look at the other. Imagine sitting opposite a three-to five-year-old child and talking to him: "My dear inner child, I know where you are. You are hurt, I understand, you have experienced a lot of pain, and I know it is true, because I am you. But now I'm talking to you as an adult, and I want to tell you that life is beautiful, with many fresh and healing elements. Let's not dwell on the pain of the past, but live in the past again and again, and we will feel the pain of the past. If you have anything to tell me, please tell me. "

Then you sit on another mat. You sit or lie down, like a three-year-old boy or girl, and speak in the child's language. You can complain that you are weak and helpless and can't do anything. You're scared. You really need the company of adults. You try to express it by playing an inner child. If there are emotions and fears, that's good. Because you feel the real fear, feel the real desire, and hope someone can get close to you and protect you. ...

Then you turn to another mat and say, "I hear you, my inner child." I fully understand your pain. But you know, we have grown up and become adults. Now we can protect ourselves, our inner self is perfect, and we don't need others to help us become ourselves.

At one time, we tended to believe that someone must play the role of our mother or father, but that was just a feeling, not a fact. I have gained experience, and we have enough conditions to realize ourselves internally, and we don't need another person to accompany us. Let's enjoy relaxation and freedom. "

If you like, you can not change the seat cushion, or you can not make any noise. If you talk to your inner child for five or ten minutes every day like this, the cure will appear.

Write to your inner child.

You can also write to your inner child. You can write a one-page, two-page or three-page letter to your inner child and tell him that you know he exists and that you are willing to do anything to help him heal his inner pain. After writing a few letters to your inner child, you can pay attention to whether your inner child has anything to write to you.

Share happiness with your inner child

Another way to make our inner children feel safe is to invite the inner children to appear with us and enjoy the present. When you climb a beautiful mountain, invite the inner child to climb with you; When you watch the beautiful sunset, invite him to enjoy it with you. If you do this for weeks or months, children with internal injuries can experience healing.