I am a depressed student. I always yearn for a hermit-like life, quiet and nothing to ask for, but I yearn for the luxury life of the rich.

Don't be confused yet. I'll help you explain some of your problems, but there is an important point that you need to understand, that is, these problems need to be adjusted by yourself.

Your problem, a quiet life with nothing to ask for, and a luxurious life

belong to a typical avoidance psychological conflict. You can understand the avoidance psychological conflict in this way. Two things are good and bad.

And you choose a quiet life with nothing to ask for, in order to escape from the bondage of your present home.

And a luxurious life is a kind of abundance in pursuing material life style and other aspects.

But there is a * * * similarity between the two, that is, I am happy, which is also a manifestation of the ID (ID: pursuing my happiness)

In your supplement, you talked about the beautiful longing for love, and your colleagues also reflected that you have high expectations for many things in life

Expect perfection, expect beauty and expect success

Behind these beautiful things, you

First of all, you should lower your expectations for those beautiful things. This lowering is not to belittle or lower the standards

but to make your heart more acceptable.

The restrictions imposed by your family members conflict with your own desire to pursue happiness.

It makes you feel depressed, but are there absolute restrictions and absolute freedom in this environment?

instead of reaching your inner balance, imagine how to let go to get rid of it completely.

In the face of this contradiction, you need a listener, not an inner accumulation.

Your parents may not be very good listeners, but you should establish a few good friends who can talk and talk about everything.

under the education of your family, you have built up a high self-esteem, so you will feel guilty if you say something wrong and lie.

People with strong self-esteem have both good and bad qualities.

Senior three is a very important stage, and you are well aware of it yourself.

However, the psychological conflict between your inner ID and superego is very strong.

You are happy and struggling in senior three.

friends, as you can see, there are many enthusiastic friends here to help you

But remember, these can only be improved through your own psychological adjustment

Finally, I wish you all the best.