In ancient times, how dangerous was it to "insert the door backwards" and how bad was it to be a son-in-law?

In ancient times, men were superior to women. When a man is a door-to-door son-in-law, it means that the family condition of the woman is better than that of the man, and the position of the woman's family in the local area is not low. Moreover, the door-to-door son-in-law is still detrimental to male dignity. However, the ancient people regarded their life wish as: being the top scholar in the exam, and then being lucky enough to be chosen by the emperor as a Xu. Although Xu climbed to the royal family, he could not get rid of the fate of "double body" and was even shorter than the princess. The princess is arrogant and extravagant, and she looks down on the sky, while Xu is mostly from a civilian background. Even the son of a powerful man is inferior to the royal family.

After a man is adopted by his wife's family, he will change his surname and be a cow and horse for her, and he can't be buried in his ancestral grave after death, but only in his wife's ancestral grave. From the Qin Dynasty to the Tang Dynasty, the official always regarded the son-in-law as a criminal, a fugitive and a businessman, and often sent them to remote areas. The legal provisions distributed to remote areas in the Han Dynasty were revoked, but discrimination still existed.

Although the door-to-door son-in-law is adopted by his wife, they also work. When Pig Bajie in Journey to the West was adopted into the Gaos family, he said: I went to your home to eat some tea and rice, and your family didn't eat it for nothing; I also swept the floor and dug ditches for your family, moved bricks and tiles, hit the wall at the station, plowed and raked the fields, planted wheat and transplanted rice, and started a family business.

Part of the reason is based on the situation. For example, if there is no man at home, recruit a son-in-law for your daughter, so that you can have offspring and your daughter can be around. There is also a man whose parents, V, have passed away, leaving only one person at home, so he will be adopted by his wife's family and honor her parents.

Xu Xu is also a son-in-law, but not everyone is a princess. Not everyone can be Xu. If you want to become Xu, you must go through layers of selection and have a complete foundation of civil and military skills. However, when you are a husband, no matter what the princess does, you have to put up with everything of the princess. You must always be careful, or you will take your own life. Chen Shimei, the father-in-law of the Northern Song Dynasty, forged his family background and concealed his wife and children in order to become his father-in-law. In the end, he put his precious life in danger and fell into permanent shame.

When Huan Wen was young, she married Princess Nankang, the daughter of Jin Mingdi Si Mashao. Later, he was defeated and became a Han Chinese, and his reputation was greatly improved. Not all door-to-door sons-in-law are bad, what matters is the position you give yourself. The former door-to-door son-in-law was not as complicated as the modern one. When getting married, the man can settle in the woman's house.

Now the door-to-door son-in-law is a soft meal and needs to live in the woman's house and call someone with her. To put it simply, the door-to-door son-in-law became the son of the woman's family, not as simple as the legal son, which is equivalent to his own ancestors disowning him and becoming the son of the woman's family, with the same rights as the woman.

It is said that the son-in-law in ancient times was a dwarf, which came from different times. Xu had a high position in the Han and Tang Dynasties, and Wei Qing married Princess Pingyang in the Han Dynasty. Son Guo Wen married Princess Shengping, Xu and other senior officials.

The son-in-law who comes to the door is not terrible. What is terrible is a person who is not enterprising, lazy and hedonistic.