How did you spend it when you were isolated by your roommate?

How did you spend it when you were isolated by your roommate?

At that time, in order to be admitted to the prestigious school in my mind, I spent almost three years in high school brushing questions and exams. There is no idle entertainment time in the city, only the tense pace of life and increasing academic pressure.

Besides eating and sleeping, I spend most of my time in class every day. Even when I go to the toilet, I am studying a function problem, which leads to the bad habit of constipation.

I have to emphasize here that if a friend who is preparing for the exam sees this article, whether it is the senior high school entrance examination, college entrance examination, postgraduate entrance examination or public examination ..... please don't affect your health because of brushing the questions.

Although when I was in high school, the most important question for all teachers was "Please don't waste any time, use these time for study".

But I still want to say, enough is enough, work and rest should be combined, and you can't squat in the toilet and think about problems like in high school, or even read the book network for five minutes after eating.

Is this really efficient? Not necessarily.

Choose efficient diligence instead of stupid diligence. For example, I worked hard for three years and finally got the results of the college entrance examination. Although I got a good test in Beijing, I still have a little gap with the ideal university.

1, have an unforgettable university for four years.

Although I was not admitted to my ideal university, I was very satisfied. With a full understanding of college life, I came to this place where I will study and live for four years. Unexpectedly, what stumbles me is not the obscure professional knowledge, but the interpersonal relationship of Peishe.

Roommate A is from Shandong and looks cold. She likes to let Tik Tok play games all night.

Roommate B is a Hunan girl with a hot personality and beautiful appearance. Her boyfriend can change two a week.

Roommate C is a Beijinger with a well-off family and a famous brand. She came in her father's Porsche on the day of the school report. She was naturally invited.

Four girls with different personalities, squeezed into a dormitory that is not too big or too rainy, are bound to go through a running-in period.

At first I got along well with the five of them, but I didn't like going to school alone, and I didn't feel anything wrong at first. But after the winter vacation of freshman year, I suddenly found that no one in the dormitory was willing to respond to my words.

Whether I say "do you want to go to dinner together" or "do you want me to bring you food" or "I'll grab an elective course for you. ...................................................................................................................................

Slowly, I was ignored more times, and I stopped asking for boredom. Actually, I've reflected on it myself. The education I received in high school for three years is that only studying hard is king, and I can't deal with people without foundation.

The university is a small society with all kinds of people, and my withdrawn personality is often not so popular.

So, I accepted the fact that I was isolated by my college roommate. The three of them formed a small group, obviously a group of four, but they insisted on pulling a small group of three just to avoid me. Ya often doesn't call me in class or eat, and laughs when she sees me on the campus road. At first, I felt particularly uncomfortable. I feel that my life is hopeless. I don't want to come to this school. The thought of bowing my head and not seeing my mean roommate makes my mood worse every day.

So, I fell into internal friction for a long time.

2. How did I get out?

This isolation lasted for almost half a year. In the past six months, I have lived like hell. I go out to sleep at the earliest and ask for sleep at the latest every day just to reduce the time spent in the rain with them. It's not that I haven't thought about it. Be honest with them. I apologize if I did something wrong. There is no need to isolate me.

But in exchange for their perfunctory words and impatient attitude. You can only spend your time desperately on things you are interested in and divert your attention, otherwise it is really easy to be depressed.

If you and I have similar experiences, please read these three suggestions patiently.

1. Don't rush to deny yourself.

When I realized that I was isolated, my first reaction was, did I do something wrong, or why did others suddenly do this to me? Is it my bad personality? Am I tactless? Or did something offend them? .....

This idea has been coming to my mind, and I have been cautious all day, afraid to say or do it, for fear that the next side will be seen by others.

What I want to say is that the above psychology and behavior are really unnecessary!

In our dormitory, my personality belongs to that kind of good person. I basically don't refuse anyone who asks me for help. I try my best to help those who can, and I try my best to find a way for others who can't. But it is because I am too soft, even a weak temper, so I am isolated by people in a dormitory.

Human nature is far from the moral lower limit.

If you turn yourself into a donkey, don't complain about others riding you.

So, give yourself enough confidence in the first time. You can't easily deny yourself because of others' attitude towards you. On the contrary, believe that you have done nothing wrong, and the person who is wrong is not you at all.

2. Interpersonal relationship is not the whole of life.

There is a saying that connections are the highest embodiment of a person's ability. I took marketing as an elective last semester, and I seem to have different ideas on this topic. The magnetic field between people is a magical thing. You may be liked for no reason, or you may be hated for doing nothing.

Just because you have good connections doesn't mean you have good character.

I am an expert in life, and I am good at word processing. Therefore, I can't be glib or sweet-talk. Hard work is my style.

After being quarantined, I tried to communicate with my roommates one by one, whether it was WeChat or face to face. Although all I got were harsh words, I still didn't give up every opportunity to ease the relationship. What I got later was only heavier isolation, so I no longer pinned my hopes on such a group of people. I get up at 5: 30 in the morning, run around the playground with headphones on, and buy breakfast by the way. I sit alone in the classroom when I have classes in the morning, and I choose to stay in the school library when I have no classes. In those lonely days, I was accompanied by books. Nietzsche said: Anything that can't kill me will make me stronger.

After adapting to loneliness, I found myself more relieved and had a more mature understanding of social interaction. Low quality interpersonal relationship is not as good as high quality solitude. Instead of obsessing over others, it is better to spend time on self-improvement.

3. Apply for changing rooms and cut off the circle of dislike.

Not long after the start of my sophomore year, I applied for changing my dormitory on the grounds that it was convenient for me to prepare for the postgraduate entrance examination, and then I went through the relevant procedures. I moved smoothly from my old residence to my new dormitory. The environment of the new Soviet Union is very friendly, there are not so many people fighting with each other, and there is no yin and yang in the dark.

Having made new good friends, the whole person is radiant. What is active every day is the pistachio of the whole dormitory.

Although the old feelings of the past and present have left a deep shadow in my heart, I occasionally dream of being isolated at midnight, and tears unconsciously moisten my eyes, but I choose to forget and forgive those wicked people.

Hatred only keeps the pain spreading.

If a circle makes you feel at a loss, turn around and leave immediately, don't hesitate. It's not your poor adaptability, sometimes it's the circle.

If a relationship makes you bored or even bored, cut off further contact with that person immediately, otherwise you will only hate it twice in the future.

It is very important for people to have one ability, that is, stop loss in time and don't put too much energy into unpleasant social activities.

If you are isolated by your roommate, then you will decisively change your gold friends.

Please stay away from her as soon as possible for the sake of your people.

If a man is strong enough to defeat thousands of troops, he will live like an army. I hope we can have the courage to face all the bad things and protect ourselves. Even if it is isolated, so what? After that dark day, the sun is not far away. Be yourself, always the most beautiful!