Tell me how rude my husband is.

I am a nurse. Although I am 44 years old, my psychological age is like a girl. I am simple and have high emotional needs, but I don't pursue unrealistic things. The family is stable, the son is in college, and the husband is a simple and direct person, not good at words, honest and willing to work, and a good man. But I feel that my personality is flawed, and I will lose my temper directly when I encounter contradictions. Moreover, I am simple and rude, regardless of my feelings. So I always feel hurt, so I am willing to look for sustenance outside my marriage, like chatting online, and get comfort and care from other places.

As you know, online chatting between men and women is full of ambiguity. How can a man just want to talk? So it's always hard for me to get what I want. On the one hand, I want to get emotional sustenance, on the other hand, I don't want to have actual contact. When I feel relaxed, the person I want to find is often not my husband, but a member of the opposite sex. I feel that my husband and I lack communication and escape for a long time, and our feelings will fade with time. What should I do when I am old?

Mainly unwilling to communicate, simple thinking. I can't take it anymore. I always like to find someone to vent. I'm a man-show, and I'm afraid to try if I have an affair. I may be more emotional, emotional and like ambiguity, so I'm a little confused. Is this good or not?

Reply:

Hello, woman, animals of any age may have yearning and fantasy for love. Maybe women are born in born to love, because women are sensitive species. Women always ask too much, and the requirements for men are almost perfect. They want a man to live a down-to-earth life, and they hope that this man can provide him with beautiful and romantic love. However, unfortunately, everyone's life can't be as perfect as you wish.

You said you didn't like your husband's personality, that he was inarticulate, simple and rude, and ignored your feelings. In fact, you just think that this man is not gentle enough, doesn't care enough, and doesn't understand amorous feelings. In fact, you are an old couple, with children in college and married for at least 20 years. So now, if you ask your husband to love you as he did when he was young, he will spoil you and coax you everywhere. I'm afraid after all these years, neither you nor he is realistic.

In fact, your own mentality has changed, and the aesthetic fatigue between husband and wife has reached a certain level, not how big your husband's personality defect is. As a wife, when your husband is in conflict with you, how can he be rude if he doesn't know how to control and you are good at dissolving and melting? You always try to passively hope that he will be tactful. He is such a person. What can you do?

In fact, it shows that your feelings are very weak. Your personalities may be the kind that lacks complementarity, but they are all the same in general. Both of them are introverted and don't like to talk much. So communication is not very smooth. In these years of getting along, neither of them has learned to grow up, nor will they learn to understand and obey each other. Their inclusiveness is too poor. In addition, the lack of communication between husband and wife leads to dull life, which must make you very uncomfortable. For this reason, you will feel empty, lonely and cold inside, so you will seek comfort on the virtual Internet. It's actually quite dangerous for you to do so. You will unconsciously let yourself get deeper and deeper, and advise you not to wander on the internet again. When people reach middle age, they should learn to control their behavior. When you are really wronged or sad, or in a bad mood, you can talk to your good friends and sisters around you. Don't try online dating, and don't casually date the opposite sex outside marriage. Doing so will not only hurt your husband, but also ruin yourself. In fact, your husband is also an advantageous person, otherwise you wouldn't have lived with him for so many years. By your own admission, he is an honest and earnest man. The existence of life or marriage means that husband and wife live together. The key is to learn how to live a good life, instead of making a fuss and not cherishing it. Once you really lose it one day, you will know its value.