"A good man must have a knife in his hand, or your kindness is worthless." what do you think?

Kindness is a virtue and a kind of cultivation. A kind person must be a good person. They are virtuo

"A good man must have a knife in his hand, or your kindness is worthless." what do you think?

Kindness is a virtue and a kind of cultivation. A kind person must be a good person. They are virtuous, open-minded, generous and kind.

Being a man, you can have nothing, and you can't live without kindness; You can accomplish nothing, but you can't live without character. However, kindness must have a bottom line and a sharp edge. To put it another way, a kind person must have a knife in his hand, otherwise your kindness is worthless! The "knife" mentioned here refers to kindness with a bottom line and a sharp edge. Such kindness is true kindness, which can not only play the role of kindness, but also avoid being wronged and hurt by kindness.

There are always some ungrateful little people in this world. The more you are kind to tα, the less tα takes your kindness seriously. But it thinks you are weak and can be bullied. They are used to getting, getting used to it, and enjoying your goodness with peace of mind. If you are slightly unhappy, you will resent you and even bite back. These people are what people often call "baiwenhang". Therefore, kindness without principles and bottom lines is an abuse of kindness and weakness, which will only condone the wicked and spoil the villain. Not only can it not play a good role, but it will bring harm to itself. This so-called kindness is really worthless!

There is nothing wrong with kindness in the world. What is wrong is that there are too many kinds of kindness. Kindness has its edge. We should leave it to those who deserve it. We must never misuse kindness. We don't need to be kind to ungrateful villains. We will treat tα as tα treats us. Be a person who knows right from wrong. Only in this way can you not be wronged by yourself, be proud of being a villain, and let kindness be hurt by villains and trampled by wicked people.

A good man must have a "knife" in his hand, and kindness must be sharp. Only by being kind to the wicked and punishing them can we carry forward kindness. As the saying goes, "lightning is a bodhisattva's heart"! Only in this way can kindness be carried forward, and this is the kindness that people really need. In the future, it is very correct to think that good people must have a "knife" in their hands, otherwise your kindness is worthless.

Because: 1. "Knife" is your own bottom line and principle, and it is your tool to protect yourself. 2. Good people must have a "knife" in their hands, otherwise you can't even protect yourself; 3. Only dare to show your bottom line and principles, and use external forces when necessary, can you better protect yourself.

1. What is the "knife" in a good man's hand? A good man must have a "knife" in his hand. In other words, your kindness must be sharp. "Knife" is your own bottom line and principle, and it is your tool to protect yourself.

1. "Knife" is the principle, the bottom line and the first line of defense to protect yourself. Psychological research shows that all the psychological motives that drive human behavior originate from their own desires at first, but there will be differences between good and evil in the way of pursuing interests, thus forming good people and bad people who can be transformed into each other.

Human nature is complex, and different psychological motives will lead to different human transformation. When you get along with others, everything is just three things. Don't make bottomless compromises and concessions because of kindness, and let others push their luck.

Many times, the person you compromise at any time will not be grateful for your kindness. On the contrary, they will take your efforts for granted and gradually turn their greed into harm to you. Therefore, "knife" is the principle and bottom line, and it is the first line of defense to protect yourself.

2. "Knife" is a tool to protect yourself and the second line of defense to protect yourself. Sometimes, some people just want to ignore your principles and bottom line and trample on your dignity again and again.

At this time, the "knife" is a tool to protect yourself. In the face of malicious provocation and harm from the bad guys, you need to stand up and protect yourself and let them retreat.

There are many forms of "knife": it can also be the eighteen martial arts practiced by oneself, the help of relatives and friends, the help of neighbors, the power of the media and the weapon of law.

Although there are various forms, there is only one purpose, and that is to protect themselves from harm. Let people know that although you are kind, you are not weak. At this time, you must have a "knife" in your hand to prevent malicious infringement by bad people and establish a second line of defense for self-protection.

Second, why do good people have to have a "knife" in their hands? 1. Broken window effect: the window of a house is broken, no one repairs it, and soon other windows are inexplicably broken; A wall, if some graffiti is not washed off, will soon be covered with messy things; In a very clean place, people are embarrassed to throw garbage. Once there is rubbish on the ground, people will leave without hesitation and shame.

Similarly, a good man will choose to compromise if his principles and bottom line are challenged for the first time. Then more people will challenge your principles and bottom line in the future. Over time, things will get worse and worse with time.

People who have no "knife" in their hands are more vulnerable. Our parents taught us to be good people when we were young. But human nature is complicated. Maybe the wicked will be kind occasionally, and the kind people will be evil occasionally. Good and evil are all in one thought.

The recent uproar about Bao Mouming's sexual assault on his adopted daughter Li Xingxing (a pseudonym) illustrates this point well.

He is a famous executive outside, modest and polite. Born in a prestigious law school, he is also the legal director and independent director of a large multinational company. He is also a lawyer of the United States Supreme Court.

It is such a person that you can hardly imagine that he will invade his adopted daughter again and again after coming home from work. A child who is only 14 years old is because she has no ability to protect herself.

Just because she is weak and has no ability to protect herself, let him do whatever he wants, and the greed of human nature is vividly displayed at this moment. So never underestimate the evil of human nature. There is no need to harm people, and there is no need to prevent people. Don't let your kindness become an excuse for others to do evil. A good man must have a knife in his hand.

Third, how to protect yourself with a knife 1. Dare to show your bottom line and principle, and make it your protective color. In recent years, there have been frequent incidents in school bullying. Beautiful days have broken the hearts of countless parents: we don't bully others, but if someone bullies you, you must fight back.

Why do parents have such an idea? Isn't he afraid of children hurting each other? He is even more afraid that his children will make concessions and compromises without principles and bottom lines, which will only bring more unscrupulous bullying and harm to each other.

So dare to show your bottom line and principles, so that it is almost impossible for him to do this to you next time-because he knows your bottom line and principles. Dare to show your bottom line and principles and be your kind protective color, so that your kindness will be cherished more.

With the help of external force, as a tool to protect yourself, everything may be unsatisfactory. Although sometimes we show the bottom line and principles when we are kind, we may be hurt by others because of our weak ability. At this time, if you can't protect yourself, you can use the "second separation theory".

Second degree separation theory: reid hoffman, the founder of LinkedIn, found that when you ask for help in your career, it will not exceed three degrees at most, that is to say, we usually only need two people to reach out to others and get help from others.

If we apply this theory to protect ourselves, when we can't get help from one person, we can change our thinking and seek help from a second person.

Just as Bao Moming sexually assaulted his adopted daughter Li Xingxing, so did Li Xingxing.

Li Xingxing rejected Bao Moming many times, but he never succeeded. Because her strength is too weak, she is still a child.

But she never forgot to ask for help: she failed to report the case in Beijing and was taken to Shandong by her adoptive father, where she still did not give up calling the police. Although the police failed many times, she was still trying to keep the evidence. Although this incident made her depressed to suicide many times, she never gave up looking for ways to protect herself as long as she was alive.

This was not solved by the police. Finally, on April 9, 2020, this incident was exposed by a media platform that dared to tell the truth. She is looking for the second kind of person, and she can finally protect herself.

Bao Mouming's news suddenly swept through, Bao Mouming was dismissed, disqualified, and finally filed an investigation again. You said he was fine. Who believed you? This time, Li Xingxing finally protected himself, and the bad guys will be severely punished.

Stick to your bottom line and the principle of kindness. Refused, still can't protect yourself. You can ask for help and rely on the strength of others to better protect yourself.

To sum up, a good man must have a "knife" in his hand, but kindness does not lack the ability to protect himself. Because human nature is complex, we can't underestimate the evil of human nature. Kindness without a bottom line will only help others. In order to protect ourselves better, we must bravely show our bottom line and principles, and know how to seek help from others in various ways when necessary, so that our rights and interests can be protected.

Kindness is natural and heartfelt. Personally, if you are really kind, you can put the "knife" in your hand, and t a may not use it. If you are really kind, you won't think about it. If you can't help others, you will be sad for a long time. Of course, I wish everyone who is kind can get the kindness of others without being hurt!